Would you expect to be a guest at a wedding if you and your partner broke up?

[Anonymous]

You are not going. New girlfriend is now the +1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow you people really do not read! I said I was not planning on going. The only reason I'm asking is because friends if friends were asking if I was going

Yeah well people like to make small talk and sh*t stir.

[Anonymous]

No. I would just say “we broke up” and leave it at that when people ask.

I highly doubt your ex would expect/ask you to.

[Anonymous]

I was in a similar situation a number of years ago. I can’t remember if I was included by name on the invite or not, but I definitely viewed myself as the plus one. Anyway the bride reached out to me and said she hoped I would still attend, and my ex and I were on good terms so I talked to him about it. We both went and it was fine. A lot of fun actually.

But if you’re not comfortable talking to either your ex or the couple about it then I think the answer is don’t go.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It depends on if the invitation was addressed to John Doe and Larlo Smith, or to John Doe alone.

No, it really doesn't.

Larlo Smith only knows the bride/groom because of John Doe. Even if the bride and Larlo developed a friendship, it was built on the foundation of the bride/groom's friendship with John Doe.

John Doe is now probably bringing Jane Taylor to the wedding of his longtime friends. Larlo now needs to do the mature thing and send a small gift or a card and gracefully step out of the picture.

John Doe cannot legit bring Jane Taylor instead of Larlo Smith. If it was John Doe plus guest, that's fine. OP (who is Larlo Smith in this scenario) can bow out if she wants to, but her ex does not get to sub in a new +1 if someone else has been invited and named on the invitation.

Pretttty sure one phone call to the groom and John Doe will be bringing Jane Taylor to the wedding.

You have to ask, though. You can’t assume.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It depends on if the invitation was addressed to John Doe and Larlo Smith, or to John Doe alone.

No, it really doesn't.

Larlo Smith only knows the bride/groom because of John Doe. Even if the bride and Larlo developed a friendship, it was built on the foundation of the bride/groom's friendship with John Doe.

John Doe is now probably bringing Jane Taylor to the wedding of his longtime friends. Larlo now needs to do the mature thing and send a small gift or a card and gracefully step out of the picture.

John Doe cannot legit bring Jane Taylor instead of Larlo Smith. If it was John Doe plus guest, that's fine. OP (who is Larlo Smith in this scenario) can bow out if she wants to, but her ex does not get to sub in a new +1 if someone else has been invited and named on the invitation.

Pretttty sure one phone call to the groom and John Doe will be bringing Jane Taylor to the wedding.

Right.

Which is why I said it would take a phone call to the groom.

You have to ask, though. You can’t assume.

[Anonymous]

What? No!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It depends on if the invitation was addressed to John Doe and Larlo Smith, or to John Doe alone.

No, it really doesn't.

Larlo Smith only knows the bride/groom because of John Doe. Even if the bride and Larlo developed a friendship, it was built on the foundation of the bride/groom's friendship with John Doe.

John Doe is now probably bringing Jane Taylor to the wedding of his longtime friends. Larlo now needs to do the mature thing and send a small gift or a card and gracefully step out of the picture.

John Doe cannot legit bring Jane Taylor instead of Larlo Smith. If it was John Doe plus guest, that's fine. OP (who is Larlo Smith in this scenario) can bow out if she wants to, but her ex does not get to sub in a new +1 if someone else has been invited and named on the invitation.

Pretttty sure one phone call to the groom and John Doe will be bringing Jane Taylor to the wedding.

You have to ask, though. You can’t assume.

The +1 has already been factored into the headcount and paid for. Wedding is end of this month, numbers aren't changing. They don't give a shit if the plus one they paid for is Jane or Larla. Come on. What are they going to do, insist he brings his ex since she was the original plus one?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you don't have your own invitation, you don't go.

+1

[Anonymous]

You're not going. And really, you shouldn't want to go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would assume you are not going.

+1. Unless you get an invite in your name.

[Anonymous]

If invites and RSVPs are already out, text the bride and tell her you won't be attending. No need to mention why because they already know. Send a small gift if you want.

[Anonymous]

OP, do you really want to go to a wedding where your ex is going to be there with someone else?

[Anonymous]

I would just assume that I would not be going & accept that.

I wouldn’t put the host in the awkward position of being asked if I was.

Plus, if your ex does have someone else.....
Isn’t this the LAST place on Earth that you would rather be??