New BF has a *very* close female friend

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She came first. If something was going to happen, it would’ve by now. As the new girl, it’s your choice to stick around and accept the friendship, or decide you can’t deal with it and walk away. I am a woman too by the way. Making him ditch her is not an option to me.

Nope. People grow up and relationships change. When your bestie has a gf/bf or in a relationship you no longer take priority. Just like it’s not acceptable to spend all their time hanging out with buddies and not making time for you it’s not acceptable for you to be snuggle buddies with someone’s SO. This is part of life and growing up.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What do you mean by touchy feely

+1. What does this mean?

Other than a hug hello or goodbye and maybe an occasional pat on the back what physical contact would be acceptable?

I'm PP and I agree. I think "touchy feely" is a huge red flag. I don't know any adults who are touchy feely with someone of the opposite sex without being an SO.

[Anonymous]

The touching and the history of hooking up says everything you need to know. Their relationship occupies a broad territory. Right now, they are camped in Friend Zone, but sex is part of their terrain. Run.

[Anonymous]

My husband has a very close female friend who he's known since he was around 5 years old. Early on in our relationship I was concerned because they were so comfortable with each other that I assumed something was going on. 25 years later they are still great friends and she and I have become very good friends with her as well as well. I do think that at some point, well before I met DH, that they had a thing for each other but I've never had a reason to be jealous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband has a very close female friend who he's known since he was around 5 years old. Early on in our relationship I was concerned because they were so comfortable with each other that I assumed something was going on. 25 years later they are still great friends and she and I have become very good friends with her as well as well. I do think that at some point, well before I met DH, that they had a thing for each other but I've never had a reason to be jealous.

That’s nice dear. Again it seems your situation is not at all like the OP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My husband has a very close female friend who he's known since he was around 5 years old. Early on in our relationship I was concerned because they were so comfortable with each other that I assumed something was going on. 25 years later they are still great friends and she and I have become very good friends with her as well as well. I do think that at some point, well before I met DH, that they had a thing for each other but I've never had a reason to be jealous.

That’s nice dear. Again it seems your situation is not at all like the OP.

Yeah, OP is a controlling psycho and PP is not. LOL

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My husband has a very close female friend who he's known since he was around 5 years old. Early on in our relationship I was concerned because they were so comfortable with each other that I assumed something was going on. 25 years later they are still great friends and she and I have become very good friends with her as well as well. I do think that at some point, well before I met DH, that they had a thing for each other but I've never had a reason to be jealous.

That’s nice dear. Again it seems your situation is not at all like the OP.

Yeah, OP is a controlling psycho and PP is not. LOL

Exactly! She'd be doing the bf a favor if she breaks it off over this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My husband has a very close female friend who he's known since he was around 5 years old. Early on in our relationship I was concerned because they were so comfortable with each other that I assumed something was going on. 25 years later they are still great friends and she and I have become very good friends with her as well as well. I do think that at some point, well before I met DH, that they had a thing for each other but I've never had a reason to be jealous.

That’s nice dear. Again it seems your situation is not at all like the OP.

Yeah, OP is a controlling psycho and PP is not. LOL

Exactly! She'd be doing the bf a favor if she breaks it off over this.

Omg! I wish I could be cool as you and not be bothered by my boyfriend groping his female friends and kissing on them.

[Anonymous]

Why must women be so full of insecurities? We are not the weaker sex but too often we act that way. If you have a concern about a relationship your BF or DH has with someone just tell him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why must women be so full of insecurities? We are not the weaker sex but too often we act that way. If you have a concern about a relationship your BF or DH has with someone just tell him.

Ah yes if a woman is unsure of a situation she must be insecure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've been dating this guy for a few months. He is *wonderful* in almost every aspect and we really connect. But... his best friend is a woman who he's known since he was a kid. He insists nothing has been going on for a long while (apparently they never "dated" but fooled around when they were young). He was extremely forthcoming about all of this. And honestly, it would be fine except for the fact that they can be a bit touchy feely sometimes. Also, she's very very pretty. Also x2, I feel like he's making it a point to not bring her around a lot. Which could be a good thing or a bad thing? I am all for men and women having opposite sex friends and I really like this guy but... am I making a big deal out of nothing?

Obviously you do have a problem with..

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t be too happy if my hubby was besties w/someone he used to get naked with.

It just wouldn’t sit too well w/me.

And I don’t think there is anything abnormal or unreasonable for feeling as I do.