Is it that serious?

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Anonymous wrote:You are being an idiot.
First of all the bill will be at least 100k by the time your kid gets to college.
Second of all, when your kid earns a spot to one of the top universities in the country all on his own you’re not going to turn around and send him to state school.
Stop the stupid grandstanding.

Um. Plenty of people do. My daughter was accepted into two Ivys. She turned them both down for University of Florida. She graduated three years ago. Has a job making just under 100,000 a year. And ZERO student loan debt. I would say she is in much better shape than most young adults.

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http://hcdc.clubs.harvard.edu/article.html?aid=233

https://alumni.dartmouth.edu/regional-clubs/dartmouth-club-washington-dc

https://alumni.stanford.edu/get/page/youngalumni/home

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are being an idiot.
First of all the bill will be at least 100k by the time your kid gets to college.
Second of all, when your kid earns a spot to one of the top universities in the country all on his own you’re not going to turn around and send him to state school.
Stop the stupid grandstanding.

Um. Plenty of people do. My daughter was accepted into two Ivys. She turned them both down for University of Florida. She graduated three years ago. Has a job making just under 100,000 a year. And ZERO student loan debt. I would say she is in much better shape than most young adults.

University of Florida???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are being an idiot.
First of all the bill will be at least 100k by the time your kid gets to college.
Second of all, when your kid earns a spot to one of the top universities in the country all on his own you’re not going to turn around and send him to state school.
Stop the stupid grandstanding.

Um. Plenty of people do. My daughter was accepted into two Ivys. She turned them both down for University of Florida. She graduated three years ago. Has a job making just under 100,000 a year. And ZERO student loan debt. I would say she is in much better shape than most young adults.

Did you offer to help pay for her Ivy League education or did you just say ‘sorry, you’ll be saddled with endless student loans if you go there!’
Did you want her to be just like you and not ‘better’? If you are so successful as you are why couldn’t you help her more with college?

Is she ‘allowed’ to go to graduate school now or must she just do her $100k a year sales job forever?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are being an idiot.
First of all the bill will be at least 100k by the time your kid gets to college.
Second of all, when your kid earns a spot to one of the top universities in the country all on his own you’re not going to turn around and send him to state school.
Stop the stupid grandstanding.

Um. Plenty of people do. My daughter was accepted into two Ivys. She turned them both down for University of Florida. She graduated three years ago. Has a job making just under 100,000 a year. And ZERO student loan debt. I would say she is in much better shape than most young adults.

But it would have been better for her to have graduated from one of those ivies with no debt (which you should have been saving for her from day 1). You can't deny that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are being an idiot.
First of all the bill will be at least 100k by the time your kid gets to college.
Second of all, when your kid earns a spot to one of the top universities in the country all on his own you’re not going to turn around and send him to state school.
Stop the stupid grandstanding.

Um. Plenty of people do. My daughter was accepted into two Ivys. She turned them both down for University of Florida. She graduated three years ago. Has a job making just under 100,000 a year. And ZERO student loan debt. I would say she is in much better shape than most young adults.

But it would have been better for her to have graduated from one of those ivies with no debt (which you should have been saving for her from day 1). You can't deny that.

I absolutely deny it. Her college would have been fully funded either way. We tried to talk her into choosing an Ivy. In hindsight, it probably would have been a bad decision. I’m not against Ivy schools at all. But to suggest kids never turn them down for reasons other than financial is silly.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are being an idiot.
First of all the bill will be at least 100k by the time your kid gets to college.
Second of all, when your kid earns a spot to one of the top universities in the country all on his own you’re not going to turn around and send him to state school.
Stop the stupid grandstanding.

Um. Plenty of people do. My daughter was accepted into two Ivys. She turned them both down for University of Florida. She graduated three years ago. Has a job making just under 100,000 a year. And ZERO student loan debt. I would say she is in much better shape than most young adults.

But it would have been better for her to have graduated from one of those ivies with no debt (which you should have been saving for her from day 1). You can't deny that.

I absolutely deny it. Her college would have been fully funded either way. We tried to talk her into choosing an Ivy. In hindsight, it probably would have been a bad decision. I’m not against Ivy schools at all. But to suggest kids never turn them down for reasons other than financial is silly.

Did she study something that wasn’t offered by the Ivy League school? Engineering?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are being an idiot.
First of all the bill will be at least 100k by the time your kid gets to college.
Second of all, when your kid earns a spot to one of the top universities in the country all on his own you’re not going to turn around and send him to state school.
Stop the stupid grandstanding.

Um. Plenty of people do. My daughter was accepted into two Ivys. She turned them both down for University of Florida. She graduated three years ago. Has a job making just under 100,000 a year. And ZERO student loan debt. I would say she is in much better shape than most young adults.

But it would have been better for her to have graduated from one of those ivies with no debt (which you should have been saving for her from day 1). You can't deny that.

I absolutely deny it. Her college would have been fully funded either way. We tried to talk her into choosing an Ivy. In hindsight, it probably would have been a bad decision. I’m not against Ivy schools at all. But to suggest kids never turn them down for reasons other than financial is silly.

You said that she would have been saddled with college loans. You turned the screws - admit it.
We’re you going through a divorce and couldn’t agree? One of my best buddies from good old State U didn’t receive parental funding for Stanford because of acdivorce and he was resentful as hell.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Been a long time lurker on DCUM and I have to say the college talk is really starting to scare me. Do people really believe that of the over 2000 colleges in America you can only go to 30 or so places? ... We just don't believe that top schools are the only choice, its just not that serious. Are we alone in thinking this way?

Nobody thinks their kid's life is ruined if their kid doesn't get into a top 10 or 30 or whatever. But those top schools have very generous financial aid and are 100% full of the most talented students in the world. So, ethos which promotes dreaming big, connections for life and great dating pool. And no doors are closed with regard to best job offers. If the kid heads to a less prestigious school, the financial aid is shittier, there are many untalented kids there, there's more risk. The network and dating pool is hit or miss. Doors are absolutely closed. It's not THAT dramatic, but there are very distinct differences. Period.

Hahaha! I hope this is sarcasm. Sometimes it’s hard to tell on dcum.

It’s not sarcasm. I can think of many universities where your kid could instead come out an opioid addict instead of a scholar. No thanks.

Look - Rutgers has their own addiction recovery dorm right on campus. Yea!

https://www.google.com/amp/s/hechingerreport.org/a-new-challenge-for-colleges-opioid-addicted-students/amp/

Opioids are literally what my friend’s kid found at community college. He did not survive the experience.

The drugs at my Ivy were unlike anything I'd ever seen before.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are being an idiot.
First of all the bill will be at least 100k by the time your kid gets to college.
Second of all, when your kid earns a spot to one of the top universities in the country all on his own you’re not going to turn around and send him to state school.
Stop the stupid grandstanding.

Um. Plenty of people do. My daughter was accepted into two Ivys. She turned them both down for University of Florida. She graduated three years ago. Has a job making just under 100,000 a year. And ZERO student loan debt. I would say she is in much better shape than most young adults.

But it would have been better for her to have graduated from one of those ivies with no debt (which you should have been saving for her from day 1). You can't deny that.

I absolutely deny it. Her college would have been fully funded either way. We tried to talk her into choosing an Ivy. In hindsight, it probably would have been a bad decision. I’m not against Ivy schools at all. But to suggest kids never turn them down for reasons other than financial is silly.

You said that she would have been saddled with college loans. You turned the screws - admit it.
We’re you going through a divorce and couldn’t agree? One of my best buddies from good old State U didn’t receive parental funding for Stanford because of acdivorce and he was resentful as hell.

What a spoiled brat.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Been a long time lurker on DCUM and I have to say the college talk is really starting to scare me. Do people really believe that of the over 2000 colleges in America you can only go to 30 or so places? ... We just don't believe that top schools are the only choice, its just not that serious. Are we alone in thinking this way?

Nobody thinks their kid's life is ruined if their kid doesn't get into a top 10 or 30 or whatever. But those top schools have very generous financial aid and are 100% full of the most talented students in the world. So, ethos which promotes dreaming big, connections for life and great dating pool. And no doors are closed with regard to best job offers. If the kid heads to a less prestigious school, the financial aid is shittier, there are many untalented kids there, there's more risk. The network and dating pool is hit or miss. Doors are absolutely closed. It's not THAT dramatic, but there are very distinct differences. Period.

Hahaha! I hope this is sarcasm. Sometimes it’s hard to tell on dcum.

It’s not sarcasm. I can think of many universities where your kid could instead come out an opioid addict instead of a scholar. No thanks.

Look - Rutgers has their own addiction recovery dorm right on campus. Yea!

https://www.google.com/amp/s/hechingerreport.org/a-new-challenge-for-colleges-opioid-addicted-students/amp/

From the article:
Some collegiate recovery programs are long established. The first was created at Brown University in 1977, by a classics professor who was himself a recovering alcoholic.

But go off.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Been a long time lurker on DCUM and I have to say the college talk is really starting to scare me. Do people really believe that of the over 2000 colleges in America you can only go to 30 or so places? ... We just don't believe that top schools are the only choice, its just not that serious. Are we alone in thinking this way?

Nobody thinks their kid's life is ruined if their kid doesn't get into a top 10 or 30 or whatever. But those top schools have very generous financial aid and are 100% full of the most talented students in the world. So, ethos which promotes dreaming big, connections for life and great dating pool. And no doors are closed with regard to best job offers. If the kid heads to a less prestigious school, the financial aid is shittier, there are many untalented kids there, there's more risk. The network and dating pool is hit or miss. Doors are absolutely closed. It's not THAT dramatic, but there are very distinct differences. Period.

Hahaha! I hope this is sarcasm. Sometimes it’s hard to tell on dcum.

It’s not sarcasm. I can think of many universities where your kid could instead come out an opioid addict instead of a scholar. No thanks.

Like Columbia? No thanks!
https://www.thedailybeast.com/drug-bust-nets-five-columbia-students

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You are being an idiot.
First of all the bill will be at least 100k by the time your kid gets to college.
Second of all, when your kid earns a spot to one of the top universities in the country all on his own you’re not going to turn around and send him to state school.
Stop the stupid grandstanding.

Um. Plenty of people do. My daughter was accepted into two Ivys. She turned them both down for University of Florida. She graduated three years ago. Has a job making just under 100,000 a year. And ZERO student loan debt. I would say she is in much better shape than most young adults.

But it would have been better for her to have graduated from one of those ivies with no debt (which you should have been saving for her from day 1). You can't deny that.

I absolutely deny it. Her college would have been fully funded either way. We tried to talk her into choosing an Ivy. In hindsight, it probably would have been a bad decision. I’m not against Ivy schools at all. But to suggest kids never turn them down for reasons other than financial is silly.

You said that she would have been saddled with college loans. You turned the screws - admit it.
We’re you going through a divorce and couldn’t agree? One of my best buddies from good old State U didn’t receive parental funding for Stanford because of acdivorce and he was resentful as hell.

I don’t blame him. He beat out a lot of people for that spot. Hurts to lose it because dad decided to spend the money on his new family instead.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are being an idiot.
First of all the bill will be at least 100k by the time your kid gets to college.
Second of all, when your kid earns a spot to one of the top universities in the country all on his own you’re not going to turn around and send him to state school.
Stop the stupid grandstanding.

Um. Plenty of people do. My daughter was accepted into two Ivys. She turned them both down for University of Florida. She graduated three years ago. Has a job making just under 100,000 a year. And ZERO student loan debt. I would say she is in much better shape than most young adults.

But it would have been better for her to have graduated from one of those ivies with no debt (which you should have been saving for her from day 1). You can't deny that.

I absolutely deny it. Her college would have been fully funded either way. We tried to talk her into choosing an Ivy. In hindsight, it probably would have been a bad decision. I’m not against Ivy schools at all. But to suggest kids never turn them down for reasons other than financial is silly.

You said that she would have been saddled with college loans. You turned the screws - admit it.
We’re you going through a divorce and couldn’t agree? One of my best buddies from good old State U didn’t receive parental funding for Stanford because of acdivorce and he was resentful as hell.

I don’t blame him. He beat out a lot of people for that spot. Hurts to lose it because dad decided to spend the money on his new family instead.

Sock puppet much?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are being an idiot.
First of all the bill will be at least 100k by the time your kid gets to college.
Second of all, when your kid earns a spot to one of the top universities in the country all on his own you’re not going to turn around and send him to state school.
Stop the stupid grandstanding.

Um. Plenty of people do. My daughter was accepted into two Ivys. She turned them both down for University of Florida. She graduated three years ago. Has a job making just under 100,000 a year. And ZERO student loan debt. I would say she is in much better shape than most young adults.

But it would have been better for her to have graduated from one of those ivies with no debt (which you should have been saving for her from day 1). You can't deny that.

I absolutely deny it. Her college would have been fully funded either way. We tried to talk her into choosing an Ivy. In hindsight, it probably would have been a bad decision. I’m not against Ivy schools at all. But to suggest kids never turn them down for reasons other than financial is silly.

You said that she would have been saddled with college loans. You turned the screws - admit it.
We’re you going through a divorce and couldn’t agree? One of my best buddies from good old State U didn’t receive parental funding for Stanford because of acdivorce and he was resentful as hell.

I don’t blame him. He beat out a lot of people for that spot. Hurts to lose it because dad decided to spend the money on his new family instead.

Sock puppet much?

Nope, 21:39 was my first post in the thread.