Is it that serious?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are not alone!

- husband and I both graduated from Bowie State University we make 200k plus each. We are doing just fine, thank you

My husband makes the same except he went to a school that makes Bowie State sound prestigious. It really depends on the major/career field. IT anywhere. Business, Law and medicine need top schools.

So...what possible value could any if this talk have for you?

What, upset you make less and didn't do as well. Point is you don't have to go to a fancy school to be successful which is what OP is saying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are not alone!

- husband and I both graduated from Bowie State University we make 200k plus each. We are doing just fine, thank you

My husband makes the same except he went to a school that makes Bowie State sound prestigious. It really depends on the major/career field. IT anywhere. Business, Law and medicine need top schools.

So...what possible value could any if this talk have for you?

What, upset you make less and didn't do as well. Point is you don't have to go to a fancy school to be successful which is what OP is saying.

You write horribly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Been a long time lurker on DCUM and I have to say the college talk is really starting to scare me. Do people really believe that of the over 2000 colleges in America you can only go to 30 or so places? ... We just don't believe that top schools are the only choice, its just not that serious. Are we alone in thinking this way?

Nobody thinks their kid's life is ruined if their kid doesn't get into a top 10 or 30 or whatever. But those top schools have very generous financial aid and are 100% full of the most talented students in the world. So, ethos which promotes dreaming big, connections for life and great dating pool. And no doors are closed with regard to best job offers. If the kid heads to a less prestigious school, the financial aid is shittier, there are many untalented kids there, there's more risk. The network and dating pool is hit or miss. Doors are absolutely closed. It's not THAT dramatic, but there are very distinct differences. Period.

Hahaha! I hope this is sarcasm. Sometimes it’s hard to tell on dcum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DD is at a no-name school, not even in the top 200. DD is applying to HYPS for grad school. Her professors say it's very likely she will be accepted. Last year's grads from her school in her major got into MIT, CalTech, Harvard, etc. This is a small, no name school that gives a lot of merit $$ to attract kids like DD. She loves it there, BTW.

What's her major?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Been a long time lurker on DCUM and I have to say the college talk is really starting to scare me. Do people really believe that of the over 2000 colleges in America you can only go to 30 or so places? That seems crazy to me. Our kids are still pretty young and we're saving aggressively for college but we are both in agreement that spending 70K+ per year for DC to attend some "name" school is just ridiculous. DW and I both went to top 10 schools in our day and I don't know if we can pin our "success" on attending these schools. Plus when we were in grad school we both met people who had gone to undergrad in places that we had never heard of. Yet they were in the same program that we were, taking the same classes and training for the same career. Our philosophy right now is to save as much as we can to ensure both kids graduate without loans. When the time comes to select a school we hope that we can help them to pick schools that will be a good fit for each child's personality. We just don't believe that top schools are the only choice, its just not that serious. Are we alone in thinking this way?

No of course not. 50 places is the correct answer.

[Anonymous]

You are correct about the crazy.

[Anonymous]

My DH went to one of those top schools on scholarship. It was a great experience.
But it does not necessarily mean that you are set up for life, and we would not go into major debt for it.

[Anonymous]

My 4th heads to college in 2019. Our college decisions were always based on fit and least amount of debt. SLACs tended to offer the most merit and need based aid. We live in DC, so DC TAG helped with the kid in a state school, but the SLACs were actually the most affordable for us.

[Anonymous]

You are being an idiot.
First of all the bill will be at least 100k by the time your kid gets to college.
Second of all, when your kid earns a spot to one of the top universities in the country all on his own you’re not going to turn around and send him to state school.
Stop the stupid grandstanding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Been a long time lurker on DCUM and I have to say the college talk is really starting to scare me. Do people really believe that of the over 2000 colleges in America you can only go to 30 or so places? ... We just don't believe that top schools are the only choice, its just not that serious. Are we alone in thinking this way?

Nobody thinks their kid's life is ruined if their kid doesn't get into a top 10 or 30 or whatever. But those top schools have very generous financial aid and are 100% full of the most talented students in the world. So, ethos which promotes dreaming big, connections for life and great dating pool. And no doors are closed with regard to best job offers. If the kid heads to a less prestigious school, the financial aid is shittier, there are many untalented kids there, there's more risk. The network and dating pool is hit or miss. Doors are absolutely closed. It's not THAT dramatic, but there are very distinct differences. Period.

Hahaha! I hope this is sarcasm. Sometimes it’s hard to tell on dcum.

It’s not sarcasm. I can think of many universities where your kid could instead come out an opioid addict instead of a scholar. No thanks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Been a long time lurker on DCUM and I have to say the college talk is really starting to scare me. Do people really believe that of the over 2000 colleges in America you can only go to 30 or so places? ... We just don't believe that top schools are the only choice, its just not that serious. Are we alone in thinking this way?

Nobody thinks their kid's life is ruined if their kid doesn't get into a top 10 or 30 or whatever. But those top schools have very generous financial aid and are 100% full of the most talented students in the world. So, ethos which promotes dreaming big, connections for life and great dating pool. And no doors are closed with regard to best job offers. If the kid heads to a less prestigious school, the financial aid is shittier, there are many untalented kids there, there's more risk. The network and dating pool is hit or miss. Doors are absolutely closed. It's not THAT dramatic, but there are very distinct differences. Period.

Hahaha! I hope this is sarcasm. Sometimes it’s hard to tell on dcum.

It’s not sarcasm. I can think of many universities where your kid could instead come out an opioid addict instead of a scholar. No thanks.

Look - Rutgers has their own addiction recovery dorm right on campus. Yea!

https://www.google.com/amp/s/hechingerreport.org/a-new-challenge-for-colleges-opioid-addicted-students/amp/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Been a long time lurker on DCUM and I have to say the college talk is really starting to scare me. Do people really believe that of the over 2000 colleges in America you can only go to 30 or so places? ... We just don't believe that top schools are the only choice, its just not that serious. Are we alone in thinking this way?

Nobody thinks their kid's life is ruined if their kid doesn't get into a top 10 or 30 or whatever. But those top schools have very generous financial aid and are 100% full of the most talented students in the world. So, ethos which promotes dreaming big, connections for life and great dating pool. And no doors are closed with regard to best job offers. If the kid heads to a less prestigious school, the financial aid is shittier, there are many untalented kids there, there's more risk. The network and dating pool is hit or miss. Doors are absolutely closed. It's not THAT dramatic, but there are very distinct differences. Period.

Hahaha! I hope this is sarcasm. Sometimes it’s hard to tell on dcum.

It’s not sarcasm. I can think of many universities where your kid could instead come out an opioid addict instead of a scholar. No thanks.

Look - Rutgers has their own addiction recovery dorm right on campus. Yea!

https://www.google.com/amp/s/hechingerreport.org/a-new-challenge-for-colleges-opioid-addicted-students/amp/

Opioids are literally what my friend’s kid found at community college. He did not survive the experience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Been a long time lurker on DCUM and I have to say the college talk is really starting to scare me. Do people really believe that of the over 2000 colleges in America you can only go to 30 or so places? ... We just don't believe that top schools are the only choice, its just not that serious. Are we alone in thinking this way?

Nobody thinks their kid's life is ruined if their kid doesn't get into a top 10 or 30 or whatever. But those top schools have very generous financial aid and are 100% full of the most talented students in the world. So, ethos which promotes dreaming big, connections for life and great dating pool. And no doors are closed with regard to best job offers. If the kid heads to a less prestigious school, the financial aid is shittier, there are many untalented kids there, there's more risk. The network and dating pool is hit or miss. Doors are absolutely closed. It's not THAT dramatic, but there are very distinct differences. Period.

Hahaha! I hope this is sarcasm. Sometimes it’s hard to tell on dcum.

The data pool was a nice touch. No shortage of post-Ivy twenty-somethings on Tinder.

[Anonymous]

^^dating pool, not data pool!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Been a long time lurker on DCUM and I have to say the college talk is really starting to scare me. Do people really believe that of the over 2000 colleges in America you can only go to 30 or so places? ... We just don't believe that top schools are the only choice, its just not that serious. Are we alone in thinking this way?

Nobody thinks their kid's life is ruined if their kid doesn't get into a top 10 or 30 or whatever. But those top schools have very generous financial aid and are 100% full of the most talented students in the world. So, ethos which promotes dreaming big, connections for life and great dating pool. And no doors are closed with regard to best job offers. If the kid heads to a less prestigious school, the financial aid is shittier, there are many untalented kids there, there's more risk. The network and dating pool is hit or miss. Doors are absolutely closed. It's not THAT dramatic, but there are very distinct differences. Period.

Hahaha! I hope this is sarcasm. Sometimes it’s hard to tell on dcum.

The data pool was a nice touch. No shortage of post-Ivy twenty-somethings on Tinder.

Yes, and everything people say on Tinder is correct.
The Ivy League schools actually have their own social meeting and dating sites in most major cities.
They have organized social events for young adult graduates to get together and mingle.