How long would you take away the car?

[Anonymous]

100 mph is extreme, even on the beltway. Not a case of speeding but only going slightly faster than traffic (so, like 80). Minimum would be the rest of the school year, or possibly until she turns 18, whichever is longer. And I would take the license, not the car. Obviously some serious communication also needs to happen about why it's such a huge deal. I don't think you can judge a person by one (huge) mistake, but this needs to be a severe moment for her.

[Anonymous]

Until 18 and then make her pay her own insurance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I did 120 late at night on the interstate when I was 17. Didn't get caught though.

This is why parenting needs to be heavy on the communication regarding safety issues. I did that too, on an empty and completely straight stretch of Arizona highway (but still!). Teens don't understand that the things they do can kill them, kill others, and land them in jail for life. You need pictures and newspaper articles to get them to see the light.

Well fancy that, I was the PP who did 120 and it was in Arizona at the time, too. And I agree, "but still".

A high school classmate of mine died driving home from LA to Phoenix one night. Don't think he was speeding - probably just fatigue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well I just hired my son an attorney for going 65 in a 35. Your DS will do more than just pay the ticket. When does she go before the judge?

SIL had to do this over the summer. Spent a pretty penny that my niece is still paying back but it was needed to keep her from losing her license for 6 months or going to jail. A friend of the family has a son who got a ticket for 65 in a 30 and was charged with reckless (VA). They didn't hire a lawyer and were in the mindset of "let him face the consequences" which as it turned out, was a tough judge who gave him a $2,500 fine + court costs, driving improvement course, suspension of his license for 6 months, 10 days in jail that was served Friday evenings-Sunday evenings, and 6 months probation.

All my niece got was a $1,000 fine + court costs and assigned to take the driving improvement course.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:minimum 6 months, maybe until they move out, buy their own car, and pay their own insurance.

+1

Yup, this. There’s no way I’d let her behind the wheel of my car again until she was mature enough to buy her own.

[Anonymous]

Another poster here w/very minimum 6 months

[Anonymous]

I don't think I could even put a time limit on that one! I'd be too upset to even consider it. You need to do more than just take the car away. Community service, and get a job.

[Anonymous]

My rule was simple - you get a ticket, you pay for insurance from then on. But 100 mph!!!! My 17 year old would not be driving again while he lived at home. Period. That is inexcusable. And also, it’s possible your child may lose his license anyway. Jail is not out of the question. This is not just speeding. Your 17 year has demonstrated he does not have the maturity to drive a car. All five of my kids are driving. I’m not a naive parent of young kids. None of them ever got a speeding ticket.

[Anonymous]

OP, I received a similar ticket, among others, when I was a teenager. My parents were too busy with their careers to really care.

I should NOT have had access to a car when I was a teen. I was NOT mature enough.

I also hung around a shitty immature crowd that were going nowhere, while I had strong marks and a 98 percentile SAT score. Take away the car and examine the peer group.

[Anonymous]

At age 17 she may have her license suspended for a long time. Do not use an attorney who "has a friend" that can get her off with just a dollar fine. She needs to suffer the consequences.

[Anonymous]

Is this a troll post? Why hasn’t OP been back?

[Anonymous]

I would likely not return the car.

As a former PP stated, going 100MPH is pretty darn fast.
And it is likely your child knew he/she was speeding.

May seem strict, but you can never take chances when it comes to irresponsible driving.

Never.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The thing that should alarm people is that this certainly isn’t the first time she’s gone that fast, or faster. This is just the one time she got caught.

It’s like drunk driving. Drunks drive drunk hundreds or even thousands of times for every time they get caught. I knew a woman who drove drunk at LEAST twice a week for more than a decade, and NEVER got caught.


This girl is the same way. She routinely drives that fast. This is just the one time she got busted. But it’s her normal.

Excellent point.

[Anonymous]

My DD would never drive without me/DH as a passenger until she was legally an adult and could afford to buy and insure her own car. She would pay all fines.

[Anonymous]

The kids who got traffic tickets at my high school were the burnout losers. Smart kids drove like old people.