Never been divorced and have parents and siblings who are not divorced

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Happily married. No divorce in my family on either side.

Big extended family(aunts, uncles, etc). No divorce either.

It doesn't necessarily mean that the marriages are perfect. I think there is a culture of letting go a lot of shit for the sake of keeping the family together. Because divorce as an option is usually a lot worse.

I think this is absolutely true. For most marriages, one person usually compromises a lot more (usually the woman) during stressful years of child rearing and the marriage remains intact. Sometimes though people hang on to a marriage not realizing that the spouse is an absolute psychopath and that is tragic.

[Anonymous]

I am the product of my father’s 3rd marriage. They stayed married until death did they part. I’m still married, DH’s immediate family has no divorce and extending out on his family there is a lot of divorce.

All of my older half siblings who witnessed their parents divorce ended up with divorces.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Happily married. No divorce in my family on either side.

Big extended family(aunts, uncles, etc). No divorce either.

It doesn't necessarily mean that the marriages are perfect. I think there is a culture of letting go a lot of shit for the sake of keeping the family together. Because divorce as an option is usually a lot worse.

I think this is absolutely true. For most marriages, one person usually compromises a lot more (usually the woman) during stressful years of child rearing and the marriage remains intact. Sometimes though people hang on to a marriage not realizing that the spouse is an absolute psychopath and that is tragic.

This was me. Fifteen years of marriage, three more years during the divorce process, plus I guess three years of dating before marriage. I wasted the best years of my life suffering, married to my ex-husband.

I'm from a family with no divorces. Three siblings, all happily married. Parents married for more than fifty years. Eighteen cousins, all still married to their spouses. All my friends from high school are still married. My college friends are a mix though.

Sadly, my ex is a sociopath, really.

The good news is that this time I'm getting married again to an honest, kind man. This time he had to jump through hoops to prove himself to me and everyone else. I hope that we can be good role models re: healthy relationship for my teens.

[Anonymous]

When my parents married each other it was a third marriage for each of them.

My marriage lasted 25 years before I left him, we are still friends 20 years later.

My older brother was married 35 years before he died a few years ago.

My younger sister has been married 36 years, still going strong.

My younger brother was married 15 years before his wife divorced him.

My son was married 20 years before he divorced his wife.

So, some divorces, more long marriages. I'd say we all obviously knew divorce was an option but the decisions were individual based on circumstances, not really influenced by any family tradition of divorcing.

[Anonymous]

Another here, 32 years happily married with kids and also no real fighting in all those years. Also no history of divorce in either side of family. Certainly feel like the odd family out because so few people have a situation like this.

Almost like a Brady Bunch like family without an Alice. Kidding a little of course but in general our marriage has been easy and we still have a great sex life which I think also helps. I think lots of friends and co-workers get somewhat jealous of our marriage simply because they never see or hear us fight or have issues. Boring to some I guess!

[Anonymous]

My parents divorced (my mom divorced again when I was a teen), and my dad’s siblings all divorced after multiple decades of marriage. Dad has been with his second wife ealmost twenty years. I’m early thirties and divorcing. My former husband’s parents are still married but horribly dysfunctional.

I still believe in love, partnership, and marriage. I have hope.