Question for those with local parents

[Anonymous]

If the 8 year old really wants to, maybe 1-3x a year. They definitely do sit for them-2 year old as well- at least 2-3x a month for 3-8 hours at a time when we go out or run errands.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Both sets of parents live locally but my MIL has memory issues so my kids never spend the night there (or anytime alone with her). My parents take the kids maybe two or three Saturday nights a week and bring them back Sunday early afternoon. It’s great!

Don’t you miss weekend mornings with your family?

I think the answer to this question depends on how you value your time with your kids. I wouldn’t give up those snuggly, lazy Sunday’s for anything.

So snarky.

Well, it’s true. They are giving up 3-4 Sundays. That’s a lot. I value that time, PP must not. What am I missing?

You could have said it without "value your time with your kids" - maybe she values the time with them plenty and uses the sunday mornings for errands and chores so the rest of the time is higher quality? maybe she has a terminal illness and values the stability that grandparents can bring... you have no idea, so you could have just left that sentence out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Both sets of parents live locally but my MIL has memory issues so my kids never spend the night there (or anytime alone with her). My parents take the kids maybe two or three Saturday nights a week and bring them back Sunday early afternoon. It’s great!

Don’t you miss weekend mornings with your family?

I think the answer to this question depends on how you value your time with your kids. I wouldn’t give up those snuggly, lazy Sunday’s for anything.

So snarky.

Well, it’s true. They are giving up 3-4 Sundays. That’s a lot. I value that time, PP must not. What am I missing?

You could have said it without "value your time with your kids" - maybe she values the time with them plenty and uses the sunday mornings for errands and chores so the rest of the time is higher quality? maybe she has a terminal illness and values the stability that grandparents can bring... you have no idea, so you could have just left that sentence out.

If you were a stay at home mom you wouldn't feel so guilty and compelled to "value your time with your kids."

[Anonymous]

For us each set of grandparents pick the kids up from school one Friday afternoon a month, they hang out Friday night and return them to us around lunch on Saturday if there are no sports events earlier that as day. Sometimes they plan an activity that goes later, and a couple times a year one set keeps them two nights and DH and I have a nice weekend. We've been doing this since they were about 12-18 months old. The kids (now 9 and 11) love their Grandparents so much, have made such lovely memories, and look forward to these Fridays all month. I wouldn't change a thing.

[Anonymous]

Never.

[Anonymous]

My kids are 2 and 4. We have local grandparents. My 2 year old has had one weekend at grandma's, my older one has had several. All with the most involved grandma that they know the best. The other one would like it too, in theory. But she hasn't backed up the words with actions to make us feel comfortable with it just yet. When the kids are a bit older, I'd be open to it for sure with either grandparent.

But like OP, I really enjoy our family time on the weekends so I doubt I'd make it a super frequent thing.

OP, can you plan for school holidays? Are the grandparents retired? So for example: I have to work on Columbus day and Veteren's day and election day. But the kids (I'm assuming) are off school. Could they have an overnight with grandma on a 3 day weekend, maybe on a Sunday night?

[Anonymous]

Never and they never will!

[Anonymous]

Never. I would love it occasionally, but we have three kids, my parents are divorced and each lives in small apartments, and I also have a local sibling who is a single parent to two kids, so they really need the grandparents (and have overnights frequently, at least once a month). It is what it is.