35 years old with DOR-- Donor egg time?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was resistant to DE. I had easily gotten pregnant three times on my own. Two TFMRs with a daughter in between. Decided I couldn’t bear another loss, so we did IVF starting at 41. My therapist mentioned DE, and I thought “no way, surely I won’t need that.”

Four retrievasl, 60+ eggs, but only 4 blasts—none of which was normal. It was tough on my body. Decided to move on to DE, which took a lot to wrap my head around.

I worried about it a lot during the pregnancy. But that girl is 100% mine. I carried her for nine months. My body grew her. My body nourishes her daily. I know logically she isn’t “related” to me, and it saddens me she won’t have my grandfather’s eyes or her sister’s curly hair. But I’m thrilled she’s here. It was a better choice for us than adoption. And it was definitely a relief to close the door on the TTC chapter and move forward.

My only regret is we didn’t do it after the second cycle with no normal embryos. It would have saved a lot of expense and time. Is DE a bit complicated? Yes. But so, so worth it.

No, thanks. Annonymous donation is unfair to a child who will become an adult.

It doesn't have to be anonymous - mine wasn't. I wanted to go with a known donor for a number of reasons, and I do wish the US would be more like Europe and some other countries with respect to donation, but I also don't think it's terrible for families that can't realistically do known donation to do it anonymously. Adoption is even more complicated for a child, but it's often a good thing for the birth parents, adoptive parents and the child. The fact is that sometimes families aren't "perfect," but that doesn't mean they shouldn't be. If experiencing unfairness was the measure for whether it was ethical to have a child or not, humans would cease to exist. Not doing DE is a valid choice, but so is DE.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was resistant to DE. I had easily gotten pregnant three times on my own. Two TFMRs with a daughter in between. Decided I couldn’t bear another loss, so we did IVF starting at 41. My therapist mentioned DE, and I thought “no way, surely I won’t need that.”

Four retrievasl, 60+ eggs, but only 4 blasts—none of which was normal. It was tough on my body. Decided to move on to DE, which took a lot to wrap my head around.

I worried about it a lot during the pregnancy. But that girl is 100% mine. I carried her for nine months. My body grew her. My body nourishes her daily. I know logically she isn’t “related” to me, and it saddens me she won’t have my grandfather’s eyes or her sister’s curly hair. But I’m thrilled she’s here. It was a better choice for us than adoption. And it was definitely a relief to close the door on the TTC chapter and move forward.

My only regret is we didn’t do it after the second cycle with no normal embryos. It would have saved a lot of expense and time. Is DE a bit complicated? Yes. But so, so worth it.

No, thanks. Annonymous donation is unfair to a child who will become an adult.

It doesn't have to be anonymous - mine wasn't. I wanted to go with a known donor for a number of reasons, and I do wish the US would be more like Europe and some other countries with respect to donation, but I also don't think it's terrible for families that can't realistically do known donation to do it anonymously. Adoption is even more complicated for a child, but it's often a good thing for the birth parents, adoptive parents and the child. The fact is that sometimes families aren't "perfect," but that doesn't mean they shouldn't be. If experiencing unfairness was the measure for whether it was ethical to have a child or not, humans would cease to exist. Not doing DE is a valid choice, but so is DE.

All DNA donations should be open. All adoptions should be open whenever possible. There is no reason that in the 21st century children should be kept in dark about their genetic origins or should be banned from pursuing relationships with donors, half-siblings, or birth parents in case of adoption.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was resistant to DE. I had easily gotten pregnant three times on my own. Two TFMRs with a daughter in between. Decided I couldn’t bear another loss, so we did IVF starting at 41. My therapist mentioned DE, and I thought “no way, surely I won’t need that.”

Four retrievasl, 60+ eggs, but only 4 blasts—none of which was normal. It was tough on my body. Decided to move on to DE, which took a lot to wrap my head around.

I worried about it a lot during the pregnancy. But that girl is 100% mine. I carried her for nine months. My body grew her. My body nourishes her daily. I know logically she isn’t “related” to me, and it saddens me she won’t have my grandfather’s eyes or her sister’s curly hair. But I’m thrilled she’s here. It was a better choice for us than adoption. And it was definitely a relief to close the door on the TTC chapter and move forward.

My only regret is we didn’t do it after the second cycle with no normal embryos. It would have saved a lot of expense and time. Is DE a bit complicated? Yes. But so, so worth it.

No, thanks. Annonymous donation is unfair to a child who will become an adult.

It doesn't have to be anonymous - mine wasn't. I wanted to go with a known donor for a number of reasons, and I do wish the US would be more like Europe and some other countries with respect to donation, but I also don't think it's terrible for families that can't realistically do known donation to do it anonymously. Adoption is even more complicated for a child, but it's often a good thing for the birth parents, adoptive parents and the child. The fact is that sometimes families aren't "perfect," but that doesn't mean they shouldn't be. If experiencing unfairness was the measure for whether it was ethical to have a child or not, humans would cease to exist. Not doing DE is a valid choice, but so is DE.

All DNA donations should be open. All adoptions should be open whenever possible. There is no reason that in the 21st century children should be kept in dark about their genetic origins or should be banned from pursuing relationships with donors, half-siblings, or birth parents in case of adoption.

Another DE thread and yet again that one anonymous person who rails against DE comes out of the woodwork. I hope ppl reading this thread take it for what it is: just once anonymous voice with an axe to grind.