35 years old with DOR-- Donor egg time?

[Anonymous]

FSH of 11 is high but not "you'll never get pregnant high" - and you are 35, which means even though you might not have as many eggs as most 35 year olds, some of them are going to be in decent shape. I would personally wait. Then again, I also had high fsh diagnosed at 35 with DOR and subsquently had 2 successful pregnancies, 4 years apart. The last one came about right after I was shown the door by the RE who created the 1st baby, saying he wouldn't work with me again unless I would agree to DE, but we managed to do it on our own without.

Anecdotes aren't data, so I can't promise you will be lucky like us. But I would still try especially as you've proven you can conceive and deliver a baby.

[Anonymous]

Read « the infertility cure «  by randine Lewis. Take on all the dietary Rex’s. Find a good acupuncture and Chinese herb specialist. Compliments Ivf or could even work on its own.

[Anonymous]

Interesting, I have the same stats and have not been able to get pregnant in 4 years. I got pregnant on the first try with my son at 35, easy pregnancy and delivery.

Started TTC #2 at 36, after a few months got tested (Day 3) and was found to have DOR (but no one said severe). My AMH was .30, my FSH is 5, and my AFC is 10. I tried for 4 years to get pregnant--IUIs, IVF, surgery to remove uterine polyps, and trying on our own every month. Never had a single positive pregnancy test. Even went to Cornell and they told me I did not have DOR that my stats were too good. However SG told me I have DOR and Dominion did too.

We're still trying but we have given up all hope and are trying to accept having an only child. I did briefly consider donor eggs but then decided I just wasn't comfortable with the idea of DH having a genetic link and me not having one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was given the DE speech at SGF at 36 with low AMH and I would have done it, but I wanted a chance with my OE. I saw Dr. Waud at Dominion and she said my age and regular cycle was more important than AMH, but it would be a long shot. I hit one my first cycle, currently 27 weeks, and I'm so grateful to have had this option.

Did you do natural cycle or regular?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Interesting, I have the same stats and have not been able to get pregnant in 4 years. I got pregnant on the first try with my son at 35, easy pregnancy and delivery.

Started TTC #2 at 36, after a few months got tested (Day 3) and was found to have DOR (but no one said severe). My AMH was .30, my FSH is 5, and my AFC is 10. I tried for 4 years to get pregnant--IUIs, IVF, surgery to remove uterine polyps, and trying on our own every month. Never had a single positive pregnancy test. Even went to Cornell and they told me I did not have DOR that my stats were too good. However SG told me I have DOR and Dominion did too.

We're still trying but we have given up all hope and are trying to accept having an only child. I did briefly consider donor eggs but then decided I just wasn't comfortable with the idea of DH having a genetic link and me not having one.

I'm sorry to hear this; that sounds very difficult both emotionally and financially.

May I ask how far down the road you got with IVF? Like, did you make any normal embryos? What kind of odds did your RE give you.

[Anonymous]

We did DE after trying for 4 years with OE. Was SO relieved to not be doing OE IVF anymore, when I knew the odds were always so low for it to work. A huge weight was lifted.
Our baby is 9 months old and is pure joy. So happy we did it!!! I have an OE son too BTW

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We did DE after trying for 4 years with OE. Was SO relieved to not be doing OE IVF anymore, when I knew the odds were always so low for it to work. A huge weight was lifted.
Our baby is 9 months old and is pure joy. So happy we did it!!! I have an OE son too BTW

Congrats! Did DE work on first try?

[Anonymous]

Low AMH doesn't mean low egg quality, it only means low egg quantity (Diminished Ovarian Reserve).

37 is still an age for good egg quality. Def you should try for OE,

Forget about DE for several years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was shocked to go back to my RE and hear the donor egg/adoption speech when I was 37. It took me 2 years to get pregnant with my first at 34, but I eventually got pregnant naturally (after 3 failed IUIs and awaiting IVF) after 26+ BFNs.

So I was not at all expecting the donor egg speech at 37 even though I'd been trying naturally for a year. He'd never mentioned that I was DOR before, and I'd never asked.
After that, I went back and looked at my #s. My AMH was .3 when it was tested before my IUIs, and I was 34. When it was retested at 37, it was <.01 (undetectable).

I did get pregnant naturally with your same AMH, but the second time, I asked if they would just try NC IVF since I had gotten pregnant naturally. He agreed, and we did one round which worked.

In my case, I think that the problem was probably that the sperm couldn't penetrate the egg shell which was why I never had BFPs. So, with the NC IVF (DOR is usually poor responder for medicated IVF) I did ICSI and assisted hatching which I think made all the difference. The theory with NC IVF is that you naturally ovulate your best eggs first. With medicated, they just push a bunch of eggs through, and a lot of them end up being genetically abnormal.

I would go to a place like Dominion (not Shady Grove) and tell them your situation. I would not move on to DE until I gave NC IVF (which is super easy, like an IUI) at least 2 shots. Good luck to you!

Thanks-- so you got lucky on your first try with NCIVF at Shady Grove?

Yes, I did go to Dominion. I had a friend who was doing the same at the same time, and it worked for her too.

Shady Grove isn't known for NCIVF. PP probably went to Dominion.

[Anonymous]

are you thinking ivf or iui?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Low AMH doesn't mean low egg quality, it only means low egg quantity (Diminished Ovarian Reserve).

37 is still an age for good egg quality. Def you should try for OE,

Forget about DE for several years.

just rough when your RE is like, yah I can't do anything for you anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was given the DE speech at SGF at 36 with low AMH and I would have done it, but I wanted a chance with my OE. I saw Dr. Waud at Dominion and she said my age and regular cycle was more important than AMH, but it would be a long shot. I hit one my first cycle, currently 27 weeks, and I'm so grateful to have had this option.

Natural cycle?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Low AMH doesn't mean low egg quality, it only means low egg quantity (Diminished Ovarian Reserve).

37 is still an age for good egg quality. Def you should try for OE,

Forget about DE for several years.

just rough when your RE is like, yah I can't do anything for you anymore.

Mine said that too, adopt or donor egg at 37. I asked him to do NC IVF, and he agreed to try. It worked. I had horrible AMH <.01

[Anonymous]

I was resistant to DE. I had easily gotten pregnant three times on my own. Two TFMRs with a daughter in between. Decided I couldn’t bear another loss, so we did IVF starting at 41. My therapist mentioned DE, and I thought “no way, surely I won’t need that.”

Four retrievasl, 60+ eggs, but only 4 blasts—none of which was normal. It was tough on my body. Decided to move on to DE, which took a lot to wrap my head around.

I worried about it a lot during the pregnancy. But that girl is 100% mine. I carried her for nine months. My body grew her. My body nourishes her daily. I know logically she isn’t “related” to me, and it saddens me she won’t have my grandfather’s eyes or her sister’s curly hair. But I’m thrilled she’s here. It was a better choice for us than adoption. And it was definitely a relief to close the door on the TTC chapter and move forward.

My only regret is we didn’t do it after the second cycle with no normal embryos. It would have saved a lot of expense and time. Is DE a bit complicated? Yes. But so, so worth it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was resistant to DE. I had easily gotten pregnant three times on my own. Two TFMRs with a daughter in between. Decided I couldn’t bear another loss, so we did IVF starting at 41. My therapist mentioned DE, and I thought “no way, surely I won’t need that.”

Four retrievasl, 60+ eggs, but only 4 blasts—none of which was normal. It was tough on my body. Decided to move on to DE, which took a lot to wrap my head around.

I worried about it a lot during the pregnancy. But that girl is 100% mine. I carried her for nine months. My body grew her. My body nourishes her daily. I know logically she isn’t “related” to me, and it saddens me she won’t have my grandfather’s eyes or her sister’s curly hair. But I’m thrilled she’s here. It was a better choice for us than adoption. And it was definitely a relief to close the door on the TTC chapter and move forward.

My only regret is we didn’t do it after the second cycle with no normal embryos. It would have saved a lot of expense and time. Is DE a bit complicated? Yes. But so, so worth it.

No, thanks. Annonymous donation is unfair to a child who will become an adult.