Husband turns 30 tomorrow

[Anonymous]

Honestly - I don't understand this ownership of birthdays thing.

Isn't it the person whose birthday it is the one who should decide how to spend their day? Notwithstanding the fact that this wasn't even the husband's birthday - it was the night before. Now husband's have to be mindful that their wife might want to "spend the last few moments of the prior year" with them?

PPs are suggesting "you know your spouse wants to spend this special magical exceptional day with you". WHAT? So now because I'm married, my birthday really belongs to my spouse because I should always spend it with them. Oh and also if it's their birthday, I should know that I do something special for them too.

It's entirely too much. Birthdays are for children and for adults it should be left to the one having their "special" day to do what they want.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He seems immature

Because every mature person knows that their spouse wants to spend those golden last minutes of their current age with them.

[Anonymous]

This post just goes to show how quick DCUM is to make the man the bad guy. Most people didn't even read that he's out the day BEFORE his bday. Op still gets to spend his bday with him.

Frankly I think OP sounds immature and ridiculous

[Anonymous]

Lol if DH whined about wanting to spend the last few hours together before I turned a year older I would think he was so weird. Here is a hint OP....there is literally nothing different about being 30 vs 29. I'm 30.

[Anonymous]

I had a GF who's birthday evolved from being just her birthday to her birthday weekend (everything from Friday through her Monday birthday was now about her).

OP sounds the sounds the same and I shudder to think what she expects on her birthday.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a GF who's birthday evolved from being just her birthday to her birthday weekend (everything from Friday through her Monday birthday was now about her).

OP sounds the sounds the same and I shudder to think what she expects on her birthday.

I'll match and up you a few. I had a gf that basically created a birthday month and wore a t-shirt with her own face on it declaring it. And went on and on endlessly on social media about it - along with birthday trip pics and the like. There was a birthday brunch, birthday lunch, birthday dinner, birthday club night with the girls and then finally the big to-do of a trip somewhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When my husband turned 30 I threw him a big surprise b-day party. The really big surprise was that a friend I invited brought an ex BF of mine as her date to my surprise and the surprise of my husband. Awkward! My husband was very nice to him but did tell him to eat his heart out! Overall it was a hell of a party!

"Eat your heart out"??? People really say that? You and your husband both sound unsufferable. I'm sure your ex came as your friend's dat because he was way past being over you. You and DH just embarrassed yourselves.

Ha! Not the op but I thought it was funny. Would be secretly thrilled if my husband said that to an ex of mine. Well one of the not so great ones.

[Anonymous]

I bet the OP celebrated monthly anniversaries when they were first dating, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly - I don't understand this ownership of birthdays thing.

Isn't it the person whose birthday it is the one who should decide how to spend their day? Notwithstanding the fact that this wasn't even the husband's birthday - it was the night before. Now husband's have to be mindful that their wife might want to "spend the last few moments of the prior year" with them?

PPs are suggesting "you know your spouse wants to spend this special magical exceptional day with you". WHAT? So now because I'm married, my birthday really belongs to my spouse because I should always spend it with them. Oh and also if it's their birthday, I should know that I do something special for them too.

It's entirely too much. Birthdays are for children and for adults it should be left to the one having their "special" day to do what they want.

+ 1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When my husband turned 30 I threw him a big surprise b-day party. The really big surprise was that a friend I invited brought an ex BF of mine as her date to my surprise and the surprise of my husband. Awkward! My husband was very nice to him but did tell him to eat his heart out! Overall it was a hell of a party!

"Eat your heart out"??? People really say that? You and your husband both sound unsufferable. I'm sure your ex came as your friend's dat because he was way past being over you. You and DH just embarrassed yourselves.

+1

If he wanted you, he’d be with you lol. The eat your heart out comment was stupid

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Disagree. There is no good reason for a married man to be out celebrating his birthday at this time of night with his coworkers without his wife. A drink after work for an hour or two sure. Till 11 pm wife should be involved. Husband is immature.

I guess I missed this in the Marriage Rulebook.

That marriage rule-book was on the shelf next to "Marriage, the fun is over" in the divorce section. Good thing you skipped it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This post just goes to show how quick DCUM is to make the man the bad guy. Most people didn't even read that he's out the day BEFORE his bday. Op still gets to spend his bday with him.

Frankly I think OP sounds immature and ridiculous

Then you didn't read all the responses because I was one of many who supported the guy.

[Anonymous]

Yup, I think the general DCUM consensus in this thread was that OP is tripping.

Happy 30th Birthday, OP’s Husband!

[Anonymous]

I turn 47 next week (ugh). DH will be out of town. Maybe we should have phone sex the last few hours of being 46-except that we don't stay up that late.

Enjoy your 30s!