How does marriage counselin work if I go by myself and am no longer in love with DW but no affair?

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Anonymous wrote:No I haven't asked DW to go. I think the biggest problem right now is as my feelings towards the woman grows I'm drifting farther apart from DW. And I don't want to talk about this with my wife present because it's really my own problem to solve.

And I'm usually indecisive.

This is funny. You think that you are no longer in love with your DW but claim you aren't in an emotional affair, even though you are falling in love with another woman??

I'll give you the Stephen Covey advice. A man came up to him at a conference and said, "I no longer love my wife. What should I do?" Covey response, "love your wife." Love is an action, not just a feeling. So engage in loving actions toward your wife. Amazingly, it often helps bring the loving feelings back. Or as my therapist told someone in our group: fake it til you make it.

So nowadays having feelings = emotional affairs? Got it!

An emotional affair takes the energy that should be directed to the marital relationship and gives it the other person. So, yes, according to the OP's description, he is in an EA.