What’s going on here?

[Anonymous]

OP, just be sure you make your husband the beneficiary of the sexual tension this situation has created.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Finished first big project yesterday. Had a small celebration party with 10 of us in a group and took a group photo to commemorate. Comment “why does OP always amazing in every photo she takes” made to whole table. When he left i got an embrace and kiss on cheek.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I recently started a new high level exec position under a dynamic leader that is pleasantly an excellent and inspiring boss as well as a great person to be around. We’re both early 40’s married w young kids and have a lot in commom interest wise (music, sense of humor etc). I’ve been at this position about 6 months but recently have felt a shift in our relationship - or maybe i’m crazy and imagining it but I am picking up on some levels of chemistry/tension. Lots of texts at all hours (always work related but end up being “chatty”) and weekend check-ins or excuses to join me in cars or at meetings he doesn’t necessarily have to attend. It’s starting to do my head in because I feel like maybe I have feelings too if this is what is happening but I know i’m not the most attractive (i’m ok but do have a 2 year old and have just recently started getting myself back in shape) woman in the office so I am boomeranging from being 100% sure i’m getting vibes to then thinking i’m an idiot.

He just let me know yesterday that i’m being promoted to VP and that he wants us to work more closely on big projects and that i have a lot of future at the company.

I really like working here and and also love my husband very much. I never, ever even considered cheating (or have even looked twice at any other man) in the 7 years we’ve been together so I feel like I’ve been side swipped by all of this the past month or so. What the hell is going on? I keep telling myself to snap out of it and just be happy i’m at a job i love (for once!) and concentrate on my husband and toddler.

Any advice would be helpful. Thanks!

You want to literally be under him

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Finished first big project yesterday. Had a small celebration party with 10 of us in a group and took a group photo to commemorate. Comment “why does OP always amazing in every photo she takes” made to whole table. When he left i got an embrace and kiss on cheek.

and there ya have it...dog

[Anonymous]

OP, you sound like a scumbag.

[Anonymous]

He just killed your credibility with the other eight people in the room. You need to nip this in the bud now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He just killed your credibility with the other eight people in the room. You need to nip this in the bud now.

Yep i know you are right. Getting paperwork this week for promotion - going to seriously put distance between when that is complete. Two new initiatives start tomorrow so the plan is be all business

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He just killed your credibility with the other eight people in the room. You need to nip this in the bud now.

Yep i know you are right. Getting paperwork this week for promotion - going to seriously put distance between when that is complete. Two new initiatives start tomorrow so the plan is be all business

I said this earlier but... you need to be making an escape plan. This job may not be viable for you in the long term.

[Anonymous]

Hi OP, man here, also a boss of a big team of mostly women. Humble brag, I am tall, attractive and charismatic (I agree with a PP above, that what makes you successful at business/sales makes you successful with (most) women).

He is a master of making you feel like the center of attention. It's what he does and can do it with any woman. Not all women are as receptive to it, of course.

I am totally indifferent to the morals of an affair, and if he was some random you meet at a convention, I'd say be careful but go for it. But your boss and workmate, will and I repeat will destroy everything you have. Your team already has a sense of it. You are sliding into dangerous territory. You will sleep with him if you don't brake this.

Just do a slow fade. He will lose interest too. Longer time between text responses. Bring up your DH more at random times.

Thing is with guys like him, they don't like to lose, so if they sense they can't win, they won't play.

[Anonymous]

I wish it was as easy as just up and finding a new job. I have a 2 year old, i make 50% more than my DH (before this promotion, he works for a non profit). This promotion and this particular company have me in a phenomenal position to skyrocket myself because of the responsibility and projects i’ve been given due to the admiration of my boss. This is a dream career scenario and if i leave i will just be a cog static cog somwhere else. I cannot leave - at least for a year or two. I am also - truly - working harder than I ever have - so I feel like i do deserve this.

What I don’t like is how he’s gotten into my head - this has never happened to me before and I dated
A plenty before i met my DH. I’m hoping to shake this all too. I want nothing more than to go to work in the am and have him treat me no differently than anyone else on the team.

[Anonymous]

Thanks PP’s - just found out he had affair at last job.