25 and 34 too much of an age difference?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s okay if it’s the man who is older.

Your sexist. Personally, I would not want to date a 25 year old man if I was 35 but, you are being ridiculous.

Why wouldn’t you want to date a 25 year old man if you were 35?

Too immature.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. There are 19years between my husband and me.

Who is older?
I know a man (very hot/ Ivy educated/great job) who is married to a woman 14 years his senior. It was supposed to be a one night stand but 10 years later they are still together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can’t speak for men, but as a mid 30s woman, here’s my experience:

I mostly dated older men in my 10s (10-20 years older). I didn’t see it at the time, but looking back, they had some problems. Women their own age weren’t interested, and as a 20-something with no real world experience, I was more easily impressed (you have your own apartment?? Downtown?! With no roommates?! I’m in!!). Once I reached late 20s/early 30s I had better judgement and broke it off with the older guy I was seeing.

As for the male being the younger partner- I have some hobbies (athletic/sports) that are primarily 20s male dominated, and no way in hell would I ever date them. So, so, SO much drama. And relationships are completely different for them, based almost entirely on texting and social media. They seem to really struggle with actual face-to-face relationships. And the tantrums- I’ve had a couple of the guys from my hobbies initiate (text-only) “friendships” with me, where they eventually tried to get sex and nude photos from me. When I declined, they were all “omg you’re such a bitch!! You are so mean!!” and then never spoke to me again.

sadly this is what middle school and high school girls get told all the time when they don't want to sext with their boy classmates. Pathetic society.

[Anonymous]

This is probably a normal age difference prior to about 1970. Men were expected to be over their "wild oats," well established and able to earn a living, women needed to still be of childbearing age.

[Anonymous]

IMHO, it is something to be careful of. The concern is maturity level. At 25, I was still discovering who I was. At 34, I knew who I was.

I changed enough at 25 that it is likely anyone I met then would not interest me at 34 (unless her emotional/intellectual growth was in a similar manner to me).

35 and 50 is not (emotionally) a big deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does it matter male vs female?

Not for 35-40 years, then it sucks for the younger one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s okay if it’s the man who is older.

Your sexist. Personally, I would not want to date a 25 year old man if I was 35 but, you are being ridiculous.

LOL the kettle calling the pot black

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does it matter male vs female?

Not for 35-40 years, then it sucks for the younger one.

Not always. At 30, I was dating a 52 yo woman.

At 48/70 she was taking care of me while I battled heart disease and cancer.

[Anonymous]

Two of my friends married guys with almost this age gap exactly. Because the men were further along in their careers and therefore made more money, their career needs always trumped my friends’ who ended up following their guys on career moves and never getting any professional traction of their own. Both eventually became SAHMs. Just a dynamic to be aware of

[Anonymous]

I met DH when I was 25, he was 32. I was and still am much more mature emotionally than him. Lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I met DH when I was 25, he was 32. I was and still am much more mature emotionally than him. Lol.

"I was so much older then, I'm younger than that now."

[Anonymous]

25 year old boys are fun for sex. They aren’t ready for relationships.

[Anonymous]

Depends what you are looking for and what matters to you. I have a 12 year age difference with my DH and we have been married 10+ years. Mostly, there are no issues, but I am sometimes sad that our childhood experiences were different decades and we do not share pop-culture references and music selections. This may seem trivial, but after time it takes its toll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Two of my friends married guys with almost this age gap exactly. Because the men were further along in their careers and therefore made more money, their career needs always trumped my friends’ who ended up following their guys on career moves and never getting any professional traction of their own. Both eventually became SAHMs. Just a dynamic to be aware of

This likely would have happened anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does it matter male vs female?

Not for 35-40 years, then it sucks for the younger one.

If you actually have 35-40 years of reasonably happy marriage, you are incredibly lucky. The fact that one person gets sick and dies is how all happy marriages end. What you have described the envy of most people.