Anyone move for better schools and regret it?

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, I cannot stop reading OP's post and thinking they are listing fewer black/Hispanic children is a great reason to move.

Because too many people associate "better" schools with whiter schools in their thinking, and contribute to segregation.
https://www.citylab.com/equity/2018/01/when-white-parents-wont-integrate-public-schools/551612/
http://educationpost.org/for-too-many-parents-good-schools-still-mean-white-schools/

Oh yes, of course.

Usually the racism I read on DCUM is way more dog-whistley, not this blatant "the fewer brown children, the better" racism from OP.

Op here. Wow. Quite the opposite. I miss my super nice African-American, Hispanic and Asian neighbors.

But you just didn't want your child to be educated with them, obviously

Also, why didn't you do your homework before you bought the house? I would never buy a house without knowing there were plenty of kids my kid's age in close proximity. Those huge houses always look lonely. If diversity was important to you, did you not research the numbers before choosing the school? All you did was look at a Great Schools ranking?

DH wanted the short commute. We bought a giant house with large yard close to DC. DH says to give it time.

We live in a beautiful house on a street with no kids.

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No regrets at all. My kids play mostly with friends from school/sports that rarely live in our neighborhood to begin with. The new school is great, and we love our new home and commutes.

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Anonymous wrote:No regrets at all. My kids play mostly with friends from school/sports that rarely live in our neighborhood to begin with. The new school is great, and we love our new home and commutes.

+1000. The older your kids get, the less it matters whether there are other kids on the same street. Certainly by middle school it's a non-issue.

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This is exactly why I DON’T want to move from the neighborhood that we love, despite middle and high schools are not great (GS 3 and 4). We’re doing private for middle school and will apply to a magnet for high school (or stay at said private).

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Anonymous wrote:This is exactly why I DON’T want to move from the neighborhood that we love, despite middle and high schools are not great (GS 3 and 4). We’re doing private for middle school and will apply to a magnet for high school (or stay at said private).

We used to live in a neighborhood like that, and by the time the neighborhood kids were in first grade they were scattered to a dozen different private schools and one very mediocre public. Not a fan.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, I cannot stop reading OP's post and thinking they are listing fewer black/Hispanic children is a great reason to move.

Because too many people associate "better" schools with whiter schools in their thinking, and contribute to segregation.
https://www.citylab.com/equity/2018/01/when-white-parents-wont-integrate-public-schools/551612/
http://educationpost.org/for-too-many-parents-good-schools-still-mean-white-schools/

Oh yes, of course.

Usually the racism I read on DCUM is way more dog-whistley, not this blatant "the fewer brown children, the better" racism from OP.

Op here. Wow. Quite the opposite. I miss my super nice African-American, Hispanic and Asian neighbors.

But you just didn't want your child to be educated with them, obviously

Also, why didn't you do your homework before you bought the house? I would never buy a house without knowing there were plenty of kids my kid's age in close proximity. Those huge houses always look lonely. If diversity was important to you, did you not research the numbers before choosing the school? All you did was look at a Great Schools ranking?

DH wanted the short commute. We bought a giant house with large yard close to DC. DH says to give it time.

We live in a beautiful house on a street with no kids.

Well, on the plus side you're very wealthy if you can afford a large house and yard in north Arlington, chevy chase or similar. But moving to a place for "better schools" virtually always means going to a school that is less diverse. It's doesn't just happen to be that way. The two are directly related.That is because school test scores and ratings that derive from them are really highly correlated to family income. And guess what? Racial minorities and recent immigrants who can afford million dollar plus homes are not as numerous as whites and Asians who can.

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Anonymous wrote:This is exactly why I DON’T want to move from the neighborhood that we love, despite middle and high schools are not great (GS 3 and 4). We’re doing private for middle school and will apply to a magnet for high school (or stay at said private).

+1

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Anonymous wrote:No regrets at all. My kids play mostly with friends from school/sports that rarely live in our neighborhood to begin with. The new school is great, and we love our new home and commutes.

+1000. The older your kids get, the less it matters whether there are other kids on the same street. Certainly by middle school it's a non-issue.

+1

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We are going through that right now! - we will move back to our old neighborhood when kids are out of high school - tonight we had their friends from their old neighborhood over. think it will take awhile - hopefully not 2 years - people are nice where we live and there kdis that are close in age but not the same at all - it's just been since the beginning of the school year.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, I cannot stop reading OP's post and thinking they are listing fewer black/Hispanic children is a great reason to move.

Because too many people associate "better" schools with whiter schools in their thinking, and contribute to segregation.
https://www.citylab.com/equity/2018/01/when-white-parents-wont-integrate-public-schools/551612/
http://educationpost.org/for-too-many-parents-good-schools-still-mean-white-schools/

Oh yes, of course.

Usually the racism I read on DCUM is way more dog-whistley, not this blatant "the fewer brown children, the better" racism from OP.

Op here. Wow. Quite the opposite. I miss my super nice African-American, Hispanic and Asian neighbors.

"I cant be racist! I have black friends and complimented them!"

That's so funny. It is like watching the Seinfeld show. In one of the episodes, Jerry was dating an Asian lady and made some racist comment. Elaine asked "isn't that racist?" and Jerry replied: I like their race, how can that be racist?

It is like watching Fox News

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Op here. I forgot about this thread. Kids have been in school for a month now and love it. We are the only ones at our bus stop and our street is quiet and safe. Boys joined cub scouts, sports, chess club and other extracurricular activities. School programs very well run with lots of stay at home parents.

As for diversity, there are plenty of brown people. They are mostly middle eastern and Indian. My child’s AAP class is over half Asian. The few African Americans and Hispanics are super involved and very visible at the school.

I take back my original post. We moved for better schools and so glad we did.

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I still miss my old neighbors and friends from our old neighborhood. I’m glad my kids have new friends. It took years to be part of our old community so I can’t expect same in a few months.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, I cannot stop reading OP's post and thinking they are listing fewer black/Hispanic children is a great reason to move.

That shouldn’t be a surprise. That’s basically how schools are rated around here.

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You will lose your regrets when your kids get into middle school and hs and you realize that they are influenced by college bound, well behaved kids. Kids absorb what they are exposed to during these critical years. It will impact them and you for the rest of your lives. Be glad you can avoid a house in Mclean, it's out if reach for most people.

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Anonymous wrote:DP. I read those numbers as part of OP's lament. She left a diverse school for an all-white one and she doesn't like it.

So did I.

Same here. She’s just painting the picture of the new school by providing the stats.