Getting to soccer practice

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can’t stress this enough. This is between the parent and the coach. There may be extenuating circumstances that are at play. But the level of judgement and “priorities”. I’m sure your co-workers are always thrilled when you leave work early for soccer or are late in the morning. I’ve heard every excuse in the book so I guess this board is full of people who are never late, never use weather, a sick kid, soccer practice, school meetings and events as an excuse to bail on work.

Lay off your tough talk of never missing a practice while likely walking out ion your work team.

Not everyone can telecommute, not everyone can afford a nanny, not everyone can afford travel soccer much less missing work just to not be late at practice by ten minutes and not everyone can afford to just “pay a high school kid” to drive them.

I do telecommute. My parents did not. My dad worked the flex schedule starting at 6:30am to free up the entire afternoon for soccer. My mother went in later at 8am.

You work around and find solutions. You sound like you can't leave work early or have a job that you can--that's respectable. But, you know what you do? You hire somebody that can get the kid there so you don't miss work or you find a carpool and a working solution.

I have some friends with some serious stressful jobs whose kids are at practice and games on time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can’t stress this enough. This is between the parent and the coach. There may be extenuating circumstances that are at play. But the level of judgement and “priorities”. I’m sure your co-workers are always thrilled when you leave work early for soccer or are late in the morning. I’ve heard every excuse in the book so I guess this board is full of people who are never late, never use weather, a sick kid, soccer practice, school meetings and events as an excuse to bail on work.

Lay off your tough talk of never missing a practice while likely walking out ion your work team.

Not everyone can telecommute, not everyone can afford a nanny, not everyone can afford travel soccer much less missing work just to not be late at practice by ten minutes and not everyone can afford to just “pay a high school kid” to drive them.

I do telecommute. My parents did not. My dad worked the flex schedule starting at 6:30am to free up the entire afternoon for soccer. My mother went in later at 8am.

You work around and find solutions. You sound like you can't leave work early or have a job that you can--that's respectable. But, you know what you do? You hire somebody that can get the kid there so you don't miss work or you find a carpool and a working solution.

I have some friends with some serious stressful jobs whose kids are at practice and games on time.

There are kids in poor countries that walk 2 miles or more to get to practice on their own on time. And we wonder why Americans suck on the World Stage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can’t stress this enough. This is between the parent and the coach. There may be extenuating circumstances that are at play. But the level of judgement and “priorities”. I’m sure your co-workers are always thrilled when you leave work early for soccer or are late in the morning. I’ve heard every excuse in the book so I guess this board is full of people who are never late, never use weather, a sick kid, soccer practice, school meetings and events as an excuse to bail on work.

Lay off your tough talk of never missing a practice while likely walking out ion your work team.

Not everyone can telecommute, not everyone can afford a nanny, not everyone can afford travel soccer much less missing work just to not be late at practice by ten minutes and not everyone can afford to just “pay a high school kid” to drive them.

Most people would have to have a very serious lack of organizational abilities to be in a situation where they signed their kid up for a sport, but couldn't figure out any way to get them there on time without cutting corners at work. If you have no family to help, no friends/neighbors/acquaintances to carpool with, no acquaintances you could figure out a barter system with, no money to pay even a high school student, then yes, you may have trouble getting your kid to a practice that is not walking distance from home. But I highly doubt that is the situation for the OP or anyone else here.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I can’t stress this enough. This is between the parent and the coach. There may be extenuating circumstances that are at play. But the level of judgement and “priorities”. I’m sure your co-workers are always thrilled when you leave work early for soccer or are late in the morning. I’ve heard every excuse in the book so I guess this board is full of people who are never late, never use weather, a sick kid, soccer practice, school meetings and events as an excuse to bail on work.

Lay off your tough talk of never missing a practice while likely walking out ion your work team.

Not everyone can telecommute, not everyone can afford a nanny, not everyone can afford travel soccer much less missing work just to not be late at practice by ten minutes and not everyone can afford to just “pay a high school kid” to drive them.

Most people would have to have a very serious lack of organizational abilities to be in a situation where they signed their kid up for a sport, but couldn't figure out any way to get them there on time without cutting corners at work. If you have no family to help, no friends/neighbors/acquaintances to carpool with, no acquaintances you could figure out a barter system with, no money to pay even a high school student, then yes, you may have trouble getting your kid to a practice that is not walking distance from home. But I highly doubt that is the situation for the OP or anyone else here.

Disagree with this being about lack of organization. We sign up our kids for sports prior to knowing the schedule. They sent that out two weeks ago and heck clubs we asked about next yeRs practice schedule prior to signing up changed the schedule . In our experience our kids practice schedules keep creeping earlier and earlier. Our DD now has practice at 5pm but they want her at the field at 4:45pm and field is 25 mins away with traffic. Heck last school bell rings at 4:10pm. once school starts. So non- it’s not lack organization. You just find a way to make it work through carpools etc

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I can’t stress this enough. This is between the parent and the coach. There may be extenuating circumstances that are at play. But the level of judgement and “priorities”. I’m sure your co-workers are always thrilled when you leave work early for soccer or are late in the morning. I’ve heard every excuse in the book so I guess this board is full of people who are never late, never use weather, a sick kid, soccer practice, school meetings and events as an excuse to bail on work.

Lay off your tough talk of never missing a practice while likely walking out ion your work team.

Not everyone can telecommute, not everyone can afford a nanny, not everyone can afford travel soccer much less missing work just to not be late at practice by ten minutes and not everyone can afford to just “pay a high school kid” to drive them.

Most people would have to have a very serious lack of organizational abilities to be in a situation where they signed their kid up for a sport, but couldn't figure out any way to get them there on time without cutting corners at work. If you have no family to help, no friends/neighbors/acquaintances to carpool with, no acquaintances you could figure out a barter system with, no money to pay even a high school student, then yes, you may have trouble getting your kid to a practice that is not walking distance from home. But I highly doubt that is the situation for the OP or anyone else here.

Disagree with this being about lack of organization. We sign up our kids for sports prior to knowing the schedule. They sent that out two weeks ago and heck clubs we asked about next yeRs practice schedule prior to signing up changed the schedule . In our experience our kids practice schedules keep creeping earlier and earlier. Our DD now has practice at 5pm but they want her at the field at 4:45pm and field is 25 mins away with traffic. Heck last school bell rings at 4:10pm. once school starts. So non- it’s not lack organization. You just find a way to make it work through carpools etc

Right, but the PP is saying that for many people there is NO way to make it work without leaving co-workers in the lurch and endangering your mortgage. You've found one of the many possible solutions that people with good organization skills do when they make a sports commitment: finding a carpool.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can’t stress this enough. This is between the parent and the coach. There may be extenuating circumstances that are at play. But the level of judgement and “priorities”. I’m sure your co-workers are always thrilled when you leave work early for soccer or are late in the morning. I’ve heard every excuse in the book so I guess this board is full of people who are never late, never use weather, a sick kid, soccer practice, school meetings and events as an excuse to bail on work.

Lay off your tough talk of never missing a practice while likely walking out ion your work team.

Not everyone can telecommute, not everyone can afford a nanny, not everyone can afford travel soccer much less missing work just to not be late at practice by ten minutes and not everyone can afford to just “pay a high school kid” to drive them.

I do telecommute. My parents did not. My dad worked the flex schedule starting at 6:30am to free up the entire afternoon for soccer. My mother went in later at 8am.

You work around and find solutions. You sound like you can't leave work early or have a job that you can--that's respectable. But, you know what you do? You hire somebody that can get the kid there so you don't miss work or you find a carpool and a working solution.

I have some friends with some serious stressful jobs whose kids are at practice and games on time.

“You hire somebody that can get the kid there”? Talk about entitled. Soccer is that important that somebody who may barely be able to afford the sport as now has to hire a driver?

Wow, talk about a bubble you live in.

[Anonymous]

All these soccer helicopter parents on here talking about responsibility, self sufficiency, blah blah blah.

Half of you didn't let your kids out of your sight until 10th grade. You probably still do everything for them so they wont fail.

Save the lectures.

Do your best to get to practice on time. Do a test run. Do multiple test runs. Tuesday and Wednesday always have the heaviest traffic. Find multiple routes

[Anonymous]

Our rec league still hasn't told parents what team they are on or where the practice will be or what time/day of the week. It makes it very difficult to plan ahead.

Who are all these paid coaches? Rec coaches are volunteers.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I can’t stress this enough. This is between the parent and the coach. There may be extenuating circumstances that are at play. But the level of judgement and “priorities”. I’m sure your co-workers are always thrilled when you leave work early for soccer or are late in the morning. I’ve heard every excuse in the book so I guess this board is full of people who are never late, never use weather, a sick kid, soccer practice, school meetings and events as an excuse to bail on work.

Lay off your tough talk of never missing a practice while likely walking out ion your work team.

Not everyone can telecommute, not everyone can afford a nanny, not everyone can afford travel soccer much less missing work just to not be late at practice by ten minutes and not everyone can afford to just “pay a high school kid” to drive them.

I do telecommute. My parents did not. My dad worked the flex schedule starting at 6:30am to free up the entire afternoon for soccer. My mother went in later at 8am.

You work around and find solutions. You sound like you can't leave work early or have a job that you can--that's respectable. But, you know what you do? You hire somebody that can get the kid there so you don't miss work or you find a carpool and a working solution.

I have some friends with some serious stressful jobs whose kids are at practice and games on time.

There are kids in poor countries that walk 2 miles or more to get to practice on their own on time. And we wonder why Americans suck on the World Stage.

Please, most parents here won’t let their kid walk to school if it is raining or 30 degrees. A parent can’t get their kid to practice on time, what a crime. Get over yourselves.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Leave early get there on time. Part of the whole team expierience is learning to be accountable. Your letting down your teammates who do the right thing and show up on time. Honestly if you were late to your job evry day it wouldn’t be acceptable. late for school the same . If your join any team it’s part of the commitment . If you don’t take it serious enough to show don’t join the team just take your kid to the park and kick it around with them . I’m not acting like it’s the us national team. But it is a commitment don’t let others down .

+1. This is part of why we do sports in the first place: To build character, learn discipline, value teamwork, sportsmanship. Obviously there are exceptions to the rule and there's no need to go crazy about it, but as a general matter you should make a point of being on time.

Incidentally, who pays has zero to do with it (and gosh I hope you're not teaching your kid that you don't need to be accountable to others just because you're writing a check. That's a pretty terrible lesson to teach a child!) If you make a commitment to a team, you commit to practices. So make every reasonable effort to be on time, understanding that from time to time, things will come up and that's ok, too.

Gee, I don’t know, I kinda think teaching a commitment that work and a job that feeds a family are important too. I know letting the team down is serious business but so is paying the mortgage and feeding the family. Jesus the bubble you people live in.

If you are teaching your child that these all matter ( mortgage and team) and they work hard on and off the field, i think they’ll be ok. if they are late, a slacker, and don’t work hard off the field, no one will be happy. Cheers

The person likely didn’t ask the question if they didn’t think it important and they likely didn’t ask if getting to practice on time did not present some real hardship.

Taking a job seriously is not being a slacker and being ten minutes late is not letting anyone down on a youth soccer team.

Youth Soccer is a extra curricular recreation activity not the Marines.

To the OP, talk to the coach like an adult and ignore the advice based on fear in this board.

Wtf are you talking about, fear? It’s a common courtesy, asshole.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^ I just posted the Lombardi quote and I grew up playing competitive sports from a young age. All 3 of my siblings and I played on top teams with incredibly strict and unforgiving coaches. Man, if you were late---you'd be throwing up from the drills they made you do.

I have to say that experience in my youth---and with parents that instilled those values is one of the best things that happened.

My kids Principal was a ball-buster in elementary school. Tardy passes were handed out like candy. Doors shut and locked at 9am. This is a public school. Many parents were p*ssed. They felt they should be able to roll in 10 minutes after the bell. I also had a tardy pass or two that was avoidable---usually because we weren't prepared and starting the morning late, etc.

My kids hate when we have to split up---and all say 'I want Mom to drive me'. That is because I am always early to games/practices (and, yes, I have a full-time day job). A player does better when they have the time to get to the field in a calm manner and warm-up properly. As a player and a Coach myself---it is very disruptive to have kids tricking in late and missing all instruction, warm up, etc. It's not fair to the Coach and it's not fair to their teammates.

Today's world we have too many kids doing too many things that they never give the time and commitment to one endeavor. They sign their kids up for 3 sports in the same season and all teams get the short-end of the deal. If you can't honor commitments you shouldn't be doing it. I also think there are more kids that shouldn't be doing higher level sports like travel because they don't have the commitment. By making everything 'pay-to-play' you get a whole crop of kids that don't have heart and really just don't care. Those kids should just go do a class at the local YMCA.

A lot of this area is SELF-ENTITLED. Every parent is just so Uber-important . My kids have done many International Camps and Coaches have told me that the DC area is always one of the absolute worst in the country in terms of player behavior and attitude. I totally believe it. A coach staying with us last week said one of the kids that was just a total destructive PIA that would not listen---called the parents--their Answer: "I don't understand. Jimmy plays for a very, high HIGH level team.'. Give me a f*cking break. Little J*mmy is an a**shole and it starts at home.

British soccer may I ask? Maybe so, but their camps are very poor compared to other options. Probably less options in other parts of the country.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Leave early get there on time. Part of the whole team expierience is learning to be accountable. Your letting down your teammates who do the right thing and show up on time. Honestly if you were late to your job evry day it wouldn’t be acceptable. late for school the same . If your join any team it’s part of the commitment . If you don’t take it serious enough to show don’t join the team just take your kid to the park and kick it around with them . I’m not acting like it’s the us national team. But it is a commitment don’t let others down .

+1. This is part of why we do sports in the first place: To build character, learn discipline, value teamwork, sportsmanship. Obviously there are exceptions to the rule and there's no need to go crazy about it, but as a general matter you should make a point of being on time.

Incidentally, who pays has zero to do with it (and gosh I hope you're not teaching your kid that you don't need to be accountable to others just because you're writing a check. That's a pretty terrible lesson to teach a child!) If you make a commitment to a team, you commit to practices. So make every reasonable effort to be on time, understanding that from time to time, things will come up and that's ok, too.

Gee, I don’t know, I kinda think teaching a commitment that work and a job that feeds a family are important too. I know letting the team down is serious business but so is paying the mortgage and feeding the family. Jesus the bubble you people live in.

If you are teaching your child that these all matter ( mortgage and team) and they work hard on and off the field, i think they’ll be ok. if they are late, a slacker, and don’t work hard off the field, no one will be happy. Cheers

The person likely didn’t ask the question if they didn’t think it important and they likely didn’t ask if getting to practice on time did not present some real hardship.

Taking a job seriously is not being a slacker and being ten minutes late is not letting anyone down on a youth soccer team.

Youth Soccer is a extra curricular recreation activity not the Marines.

To the OP, talk to the coach like an adult and ignore the advice based on fear in this board.

Wtf are you talking about, fear? It’s a common courtesy, asshole.

Yes and the courtesy goes to the coach and not the parents.

Talk to the coach, and ignore the parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can’t stress this enough. This is between the parent and the coach. There may be extenuating circumstances that are at play. But the level of judgement and “priorities”. I’m sure your co-workers are always thrilled when you leave work early for soccer or are late in the morning. I’ve heard every excuse in the book so I guess this board is full of people who are never late, never use weather, a sick kid, soccer practice, school meetings and events as an excuse to bail on work.

Lay off your tough talk of never missing a practice while likely walking out ion your work team.

Not everyone can telecommute, not everyone can afford a nanny, not everyone can afford travel soccer much less missing work just to not be late at practice by ten minutes and not everyone can afford to just “pay a high school kid” to drive them.

Then don’t sign up for the team. Jesus Christ, what are you, the sun?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can’t stress this enough. This is between the parent and the coach. There may be extenuating circumstances that are at play. But the level of judgement and “priorities”. I’m sure your co-workers are always thrilled when you leave work early for soccer or are late in the morning. I’ve heard every excuse in the book so I guess this board is full of people who are never late, never use weather, a sick kid, soccer practice, school meetings and events as an excuse to bail on work.

Lay off your tough talk of never missing a practice while likely walking out ion your work team.

Not everyone can telecommute, not everyone can afford a nanny, not everyone can afford travel soccer much less missing work just to not be late at practice by ten minutes and not everyone can afford to just “pay a high school kid” to drive them.

Then don’t sign up for the team. Jesus Christ, what are you, the sun?

As people pointed out earlier, the schedule is not known when somebody signs up. Give it a rest. This is not a federal offense. The OP just needs to talk with the coach and the rest of you just need to STFU and stay in your own lane.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Leave early get there on time. Part of the whole team expierience is learning to be accountable. Your letting down your teammates who do the right thing and show up on time. Honestly if you were late to your job evry day it wouldn’t be acceptable. late for school the same . If your join any team it’s part of the commitment . If you don’t take it serious enough to show don’t join the team just take your kid to the park and kick it around with them . I’m not acting like it’s the us national team. But it is a commitment don’t let others down .

+1. This is part of why we do sports in the first place: To build character, learn discipline, value teamwork, sportsmanship. Obviously there are exceptions to the rule and there's no need to go crazy about it, but as a general matter you should make a point of being on time.

Incidentally, who pays has zero to do with it (and gosh I hope you're not teaching your kid that you don't need to be accountable to others just because you're writing a check. That's a pretty terrible lesson to teach a child!) If you make a commitment to a team, you commit to practices. So make every reasonable effort to be on time, understanding that from time to time, things will come up and that's ok, too.

Gee, I don’t know, I kinda think teaching a commitment that work and a job that feeds a family are important too. I know letting the team down is serious business but so is paying the mortgage and feeding the family. Jesus the bubble you people live in.

If you are teaching your child that these all matter ( mortgage and team) and they work hard on and off the field, i think they’ll be ok. if they are late, a slacker, and don’t work hard off the field, no one will be happy. Cheers

The person likely didn’t ask the question if they didn’t think it important and they likely didn’t ask if getting to practice on time did not present some real hardship.

Taking a job seriously is not being a slacker and being ten minutes late is not letting anyone down on a youth soccer team.

Youth Soccer is a extra curricular recreation activity not the Marines.

To the OP, talk to the coach like an adult and ignore the advice based on fear in this board.

Wtf are you talking about, fear? It’s a common courtesy, asshole.

Yes and the courtesy goes to the coach and not the parents.

Talk to the coach, and ignore the parents.

Seriously, talk to the actual coach and apprise them of the situation. All these jerks are acting all indignant spouting bs like “don’t forget you pay them” or “you’re letting your coworkers down when you leave early” when literally a text to the coach AS A COURTESY would suffice.