Can't stop lactating after stillbirth

[Anonymous]

I went through something similar in 2016 and like the PP found a combination of couples grief counseling, individual therapy, books on infant loss (Like Empty Cradle, Broken Heart) and groups like pregnancyloss.org helped over time. Being gentle with yourself and family (ie not attending baby showers that seem to pop up all over the place) also helps.

[Anonymous]

Op here. Thanks for the book recs. I just got Broken cradle Empty heart. A LOT of very well meaning people keep telling me their miscarriage stories and its making me insane, which I know loss is loss and it shouldn't. We also haven't been super public about the fact they had to remove my uterus so the go to "try again" convo thats also very well meaning doesn't apply. Makes me want to hide indefinitely.

[Anonymous]

OP, I am so sorry. I would see about a grief support group. I work in Hospice care so very different. But at the same time, grief is grief. Our families find tremendous support in our groups even if they never say a word. Just being present with other people who truly get your pain really helps. Wishing you moments of peace as you move through this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Thanks for the book recs. I just got Broken cradle Empty heart. A LOT of very well meaning people keep telling me their miscarriage stories and its making me insane, which I know loss is loss and it shouldn't. We also haven't been super public about the fact they had to remove my uterus so the go to "try again" convo thats also very well meaning doesn't apply. Makes me want to hide indefinitely.

I went through this, OP. It was during a period when all my friends and same aged relatives were dropping babies left and right. It's been about 16 years but you will heal and move on. My husband and I adopted the most beautiful twin babies. They are now 15 years old and we could not be more pleased. Hugs and good luck.