Co-worker sits "criss-cross applesauce" in meetings

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are you going to call it "criss-cross applesauce" when you tattle to mommy?

I've never said a word about it to my boss or anyone other than asking my coworker about it. I got it. I'll MMOB.

I wouldn’t want to work with OP. I’m CEO of Fortune 500 company and I sit cross cross applesauce because it’s mor comfortable and I’m a human.

You sit that way during meetings? With other people?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you going to call it "criss-cross applesauce" when you tattle to mommy?

I've never said a word about it to my boss or anyone other than asking my coworker about it. I got it. I'll MMOB.

I wouldn’t want to work with OP. I’m CEO of Fortune 500 company and I sit cross cross applesauce because it’s mor comfortable and I’m a human.

it's amazing how many CEOs of Fortune 500 companies come by DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you going to call it "criss-cross applesauce" when you tattle to mommy?

I've never said a word about it to my boss or anyone other than asking my coworker about it. I got it. I'll MMOB.

I wouldn’t want to work with OP. I’m CEO of Fortune 500 company and I sit cross cross applesauce because it’s mor comfortable and I’m a human.

it's amazing how many CEOs of Fortune 500 companies come by DCUM.

By Fortune 500 they mean their own LulaRoe Store.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What other option exists besides minding your own business? I mean, I’m being completely serious. She knows she’s doing it. You are likely the only one who cares. Are you going to report her?

It's highly unlikely that OP is the only one who cares. Lots of people she meets with would find this extremely unprofessional and distracting. If I were mentoring this person, I would tell her she ought to stop.

OP, what does the boss think?

OP here. I haven't brought it up to the boss, because I know it's really petty of me. Yes, yes. I know it's petty, but I still think she looks unprofessional. I think my boss has bigger fish to fry with this person's behavior, so how she sits in meetings is probably pretty low on her list of priorities.

So I get it. I'll MMOB about it. Can I still silently judge?

Of course! I'm silently judging her along with you.

For those of you who say you do this because your feet don't touch the ground, keep in mind that this seems to be happening mostly at regular staff meetings. Hopefully in your own offices you can ask for, and receive, appropriately-sized chairs for your height. That doesn't seem to be the issue with OP's free-spirited colleague.

In higher education? Unless this person works in an executive/administrative office, most of their meetings are probably in seminar rooms. I'm the PP who said I also work in higher ed, and I'd say about 60% of my meetings are in three different seminar rooms--one on the same floor as my office, one on the floor up, and one in the next building over. Another 20% of my meetings are in my department chair's office. It would be 10x as inappropriate for me to demand special chairs for all those spaces or drag my own chair around to those rooms.

Also, we're not exactly flush with cash in higher ed. When we buy "new" furniture, it's whatever has been cast off by the wealthier units on campus or whatever has been made by state prisoners in the furniture workshop.

Me again. I should also mention that I teach in those same seminar rooms. There I am, a tenured professor, sitting in one of those uncomfortable chairs with my legs criss-cross applesauce. Sometimes I even have one "crossed," and the other bent with the knee pulled up to my chest. Sometimes I even find myself with both legs tucked under, kneeling on the seat. We get into invigorating conversations in the classroom, and sometimes I'm just trying to follow/lead the flow of ideas, and I really don't care what my legs are doing. Somehow, my students keep writing dissertations, earning PhDs, and getting jobs. And I'm about to get promoted. All with unprofessional ergonomic habits.

[Anonymous]

Gah I sit like this often but normally just at my own desk. I try not to do it in meetings. I'm just very flexible. I'm short and my feet dangle which is uncomfortable too. It feels even more unprofessional to make my chair low enough that my feet hit the floor. That would mean I'm sitting much lower than everyone else. I also have cold feet so I like sitting on them.

I sit on my feet or criss cross applesauce so much that when I'm anxious it's a comfortable position and I need to sit like that. I have trouble driving for more than 5 hours because I hate sitting with my feet on the floor driving. I'm currently sitting on my couch nursing with my feet up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you going to call it "criss-cross applesauce" when you tattle to mommy?

I've never said a word about it to my boss or anyone other than asking my coworker about it. I got it. I'll MMOB.

I wouldn’t want to work with OP. I’m CEO of Fortune 500 company and I sit cross cross applesauce because it’s mor comfortable and I’m a human.

it's amazing how many CEOs of Fortune 500 companies come by DCUM.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Gah I sit like this often but normally just at my own desk. I try not to do it in meetings. I'm just very flexible. I'm short and my feet dangle which is uncomfortable too. It feels even more unprofessional to make my chair low enough that my feet hit the floor. That would mean I'm sitting much lower than everyone else. I also have cold feet so I like sitting on them.

I sit on my feet or criss cross applesauce so much that when I'm anxious it's a comfortable position and I need to sit like that. I have trouble driving for more than 5 hours because I hate sitting with my feet on the floor driving. I'm currently sitting on my couch nursing with my feet up.

Another short fidgety person. I also sit like this. And am super grateful that I get to work at home.I am currently barefoot with my feet up on the coffee table and a cat sitting next to me. But plenty of times I sit with my legs crossed. (Do people not call this "indian style" anymore?)

As for OP: I can tell you that I would be mortified if you reported me for sitting in a way you didn't approve of. I mean come *on*. Worry about your own work, ok?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's a sensory thing, OP. It helps focus when you have to sit for some people. If she didn't do that it would come out in some other way, like tapping a pen or fidgeting. That said, if you think it's truly offputting and hurting her career, you should tell her. She may be able to find a different way to compensate.

Is this true? Is it really a sensory thing? I actually can focus better when I sit like that. I have no clue why it feels more comfortable. I do a lot of document review and for hard documents I absolutely have to sit like that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Gah I sit like this often but normally just at my own desk. I try not to do it in meetings. I'm just very flexible. I'm short and my feet dangle which is uncomfortable too. It feels even more unprofessional to make my chair low enough that my feet hit the floor. That would mean I'm sitting much lower than everyone else. I also have cold feet so I like sitting on them.

I sit on my feet or criss cross applesauce so much that when I'm anxious it's a comfortable position and I need to sit like that. I have trouble driving for more than 5 hours because I hate sitting with my feet on the floor driving. I'm currently sitting on my couch nursing with my feet up.

Another short fidgety person. I also sit like this. And am super grateful that I get to work at home.I am currently barefoot with my feet up on the coffee table and a cat sitting next to me. But plenty of times I sit with my legs crossed. (Do people not call this "indian style" anymore?)

As for OP: I can tell you that I would be mortified if you reported me for sitting in a way you didn't approve of. I mean come *on*. Worry about your own work, ok?

Pp here. I do say Indian style but I bet it's not PC. Wish there was a better name. I hate sitting with my legs crossed at the knees

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's a sensory thing, OP. It helps focus when you have to sit for some people. If she didn't do that it would come out in some other way, like tapping a pen or fidgeting. That said, if you think it's truly offputting and hurting her career, you should tell her. She may be able to find a different way to compensate.

Is this true? Is it really a sensory thing? I actually can focus better when I sit like that. I have no clue why it feels more comfortable. I do a lot of document review and for hard documents I absolutely have to sit like that.

yes, it's sensory! you're giving sensory input into your body by creating the muscle tension and something for your joints to feel.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Gah I sit like this often but normally just at my own desk. I try not to do it in meetings. I'm just very flexible. I'm short and my feet dangle which is uncomfortable too. It feels even more unprofessional to make my chair low enough that my feet hit the floor. That would mean I'm sitting much lower than everyone else. I also have cold feet so I like sitting on them.

I sit on my feet or criss cross applesauce so much that when I'm anxious it's a comfortable position and I need to sit like that. I have trouble driving for more than 5 hours because I hate sitting with my feet on the floor driving. I'm currently sitting on my couch nursing with my feet up.

Another short fidgety person. I also sit like this. And am super grateful that I get to work at home.I am currently barefoot with my feet up on the coffee table and a cat sitting next to me. But plenty of times I sit with my legs crossed. (Do people not call this "indian style" anymore?)

As for OP: I can tell you that I would be mortified if you reported me for sitting in a way you didn't approve of. I mean come *on*. Worry about your own work, ok?

Pp here. I do say Indian style but I bet it's not PC. Wish there was a better name. I hate sitting with my legs crossed at the knees

you can say "tailor style."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Gah I sit like this often but normally just at my own desk. I try not to do it in meetings. I'm just very flexible. I'm short and my feet dangle which is uncomfortable too. It feels even more unprofessional to make my chair low enough that my feet hit the floor. That would mean I'm sitting much lower than everyone else. I also have cold feet so I like sitting on them.

I sit on my feet or criss cross applesauce so much that when I'm anxious it's a comfortable position and I need to sit like that. I have trouble driving for more than 5 hours because I hate sitting with my feet on the floor driving. I'm currently sitting on my couch nursing with my feet up.

Another short fidgety person. I also sit like this. And am super grateful that I get to work at home.I am currently barefoot with my feet up on the coffee table and a cat sitting next to me. But plenty of times I sit with my legs crossed. (Do people not call this "indian style" anymore?)

As for OP: I can tell you that I would be mortified if you reported me for sitting in a way you didn't approve of. I mean come *on*. Worry about your own work, ok?

Pp here. I do say Indian style but I bet it's not PC. Wish there was a better name. I hate sitting with my legs crossed at the knees

you can say "tailor style."

it's sukhasana in yoga.

[Anonymous]

Millennials.

[Anonymous]

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OP here. But they're not under the table. They're leaning against the table so everyone can see it happening. (She's not remotely short.) I get that it's not a big deal for most people. I guess I'm in the minority on this.

What do you mean her legs are not under the table but instead are leaning against the table? I can't picture this.

[Anonymous]

Criss cross office sauce.

I suppose of the many odd things coworkers can do, this one is fairly mild, but it is strange. Is she taking her shoes off to do this, OP?