My mother married a man with a terminal illness ...

[Anonymous]

The best you can do is beg her and your sibling to be fair to his sons and allow them to take their memories. At least speaking up will allow you have a clear conscience over it even if they are so heartless that they refuse.

[Anonymous]

Wow OP- I'm sorry to say that your mother is a terrible human being.

[Anonymous]

Sounds litigation -worthy to me. Undue influence.

Make your mom's life living hell at least.

[Anonymous]

Does anyone else think OP is really a child of the deceased? And she framed it this way to get better responses?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Look, the man was ill but obviously well enough to travel. He doesn't sound incompetent. Your mother didn't "have him" or make him do anything. He chose to do so. For now, butt out and DO assume he knew what what was doing and DON'T assume his family situation.

Gold digger 2nd wife here?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does anyone else think OP is really a child of the deceased? And she framed it this way to get better responses?

The woman is cold no matter who she is in this situation.

Women like OPs mom are among the worst of the worst.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Look, the man was ill but obviously well enough to travel. He doesn't sound incompetent. Your mother didn't "have him" or make him do anything. He chose to do so. For now, butt out and DO assume he knew what what was doing and DON'T assume his family situation.

I would not describe somebody with a terminal illness as "sound"... do you know any people with terminal illnesses?

Unfortunately, I have known many. Being diagnosed as terminal doesn't automatically mean you have lost your faculties or make you incompetent to make decisions. It sounds like OP hates her mother and thus, automatically assumes the worst without having the facts. Maybe the man's children were assholes who caused him nothing but pain and she was the ray of sunshine that made his final months joyful.

Most people facing death can't make sound decisions. Most people have family making decisions. Most suffer from severe depression and desperation.

The money should go to the children but it isn't so move on, that is life. Some people suck!

[Anonymous]

Let his three sons deal with it. If she knew he had a terminal illness before marrying him and it was a quick wedding they may have good grounds to sue. You can be sure they are looking into it if they know the terms of the new will.

[Anonymous]

My dad's uncle was a real jerk to his long-time wife when they divorced. He outlived both his (short-term) subsequent wives and left his money to my dad and his brother. They promptly gave it all to the first wife who really deserved it. If you and your sibling get the money when your mom dies, please share it with his children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds litigation -worthy to me. Undue influence.

Make your mom's life living hell at least.

Are you a lawyer? You don’t sound like one.

[Anonymous]

A somewhat similar thing happened with my grandma. She remarried at 83 to an older man. He died a few years later and had left a substantial portion of his will to her. It was lifesaving for my grandma who was now able to live in an assisted living home.

His children were pissed and they fought it but lost. There was no sign that the new will had been coerced. He just really loved my grandma, so a different story. I did feel somewhat bad for the kids but also grateful for my grandma.

I will say I think when she passed that my uncle should have given some of the remaining money to her kids, but he did not