If you have a sister

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Anonymous wrote:Two sisters. My parents didn't feel comfortable with their children getting along well with each other, so that affects our relationships today. I'd love to be close, but understand that's not going to happen.

Can you elaborate? Why wouldn't your parents want their children to have a close relationship? So sad.

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My sister and I are 10 years apart. I’m 52 and she’s 62. I love my sister and I would die for her, and I know she would do the same for me. I am so blessed to have her because when my kids were little so would help our A LOT, since her children were young adult when mine were school aged. We talk about 2-3x a week and see each other maybe once or every other week. We live about 10 mins from each other.

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One sister, two years younger than me. My best friend. We used to live in the same area, but don't now, and I miss her every day. I'm so sad not to have that front row seat to watching her kids grow up (and she mine). Family holidays aren't as fun.

Growing up we were close but fought a fair amount, too. We're very similar in some ways and very different in others.

It makes me so sad that my DD doesn't have a sister; I've had to stop myself from apologizing to her.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I do not have a sister. I do feel a closer kinship to women friends who also do not have a sister. In some instances we have talked about it, talked about how we should just consider ourselves sisters since we don't have one. What that means to me/us is the intent to be life long friends and to always be there for each other for big events, happy or sad ... even if we go through periods of time when the relationship is strained or we don't always feel as close.

My DD doesn't have a sister and I do, with whom I'm very close. I commented to my SIL once that I felt bad DD doesn't have a sister. SIL has two brothers, no sisters. She made a comment along the lines of what you said, that DD would find a BFF who also doesn't have a sister. I hope she does.

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One sister, 3 years apart, but felt like much, much more growing up due to being at the total opposite ends of the maturity spectrum. We like each other a fair bit and can have fun when we are together, but we rarely speak on the phone and only text occasionally. Not really friends or close and we live on opposite coasts. She reverts to a spoiled teenager if we are with just our parents which is a real turnoff and puts me off pursuing a closer relationship.

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She is almost exactly 3 years older & we are now in our late 30s & early 40s. Except for a period of a few years when she was about 12-16 & I was about 9-13, we have always been close. I have no kids of my own but am very close to her 2 kids (my nephews) & help her & my brother-in-law out with them frequently, watch them on weekends/days off from school, pick them up from school often, etc. I was recently extremely ill & she was (& still is) my rock who has been there for me in so many ways without my even asking & despite being very busy herself with a career, DH, many friends, & 2 active kids under the age of 7.

Our family isn’t perfect (whose is?) — our parents are divorced & there are some depression, PTSD, anxiety, & ADHD issues— but we are overall very lucky because we have each other. We are very much best friends & always do our best to be there for each other.

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Anonymous wrote:She is almost exactly 3 years older & we are now in our late 30s & early 40s. Except for a period of a few years when she was about 12-16 & I was about 9-13, we have always been close. I have no kids of my own but am very close to her 2 kids (my nephews) & help her & my brother-in-law out with them frequently, watch them on weekends/days off from school, pick them up from school often, etc. I was recently extremely ill & she was (& still is) my rock who has been there for me in so many ways without my even asking & despite being very busy herself with a career, DH, many friends, & 2 active kids under the age of 7.

Our family isn’t perfect (whose is?) — our parents are divorced & there are some depression, PTSD, anxiety, & ADHD issues— but we are overall very lucky because we have each other. We are very much best friends & always do our best to be there for each other.

^ We are very different in a lot of ways (she is much more extroverted & less socially anxious, for instance) & we probably wouldn’t have become friends randomly if not related but somehow the relationship works.

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One sister, almost three years older. We are close, definitely look out for each other. Not "best friends," but we get each other and see eye to eye on the important stuff. She has also been a terrific aunt to my kids, which I really appreciate. (She is not married and doesn't have kids of her own.)

FWIW, OP, I think sibling closeness has more to do with personality than gender. My sister and I are cut from the same cloth and that's why we get along. My kids (boy and girl) are close too, and I think it's a personality thing with them as well.

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Five year age difference. We talk frequently, usually twice a day, but not about super personal stuff. That's just how she is built. We talk about regular day to day stuff and knows she can count on me in an emergency

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1 sister, 7 years younger. Growing up first she was a bit of a pest, always following me and my friends around, then once I was driving we got more attached, I really liked taking her to do things just the two of us. Then I went to college when she was starting middle school, so we were not as close for a while. Once she graduated college we got a lot closer. I'm definitely there for her whenever she needs me and I know she's the same for me.

We have a brother who is a year and a half younger than me. We were very close growing up, similar groups of friends, but we don't talk as much as my sister and I. If either of us needed something from each other though I know the other would be there.

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3.5 years, and yes, very close.

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I have a twin sister and a sister who is eight years older (and some brothers). I'm very close with both my sisters - in fact, we call my older sister our honorary triplet. I don't live close to either of them, but we make a point to get together often and thoroughly enjoy it when we do. We go through periods of talking/texting nearly every day, and periods of not talking for a while, but they are the people I would call first in a crisis -- or randomly text from Nordstroms if I can't decide which pair of boots to buy!

I'm close with my brothers too, but it's a different relationship - we don't talk nearly as much.

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One sister, 4 yrs younger. We're very close. Talk almost every day.

Parents have both since remarried so we have a variety of stepsibligs who we are friendly with but not close.

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I have two sisters. We are all about three years apart in age. I am super close to both of them. We talk every day, usually several times. They are my best friends. I also have two adult daughters. They are very close as well. They just rented an apartment together. Sister bonds can be incredible.

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I have one sister, 12 years younger. We're pretty close, more so than I am with my brothers. I remember taking care of her as a baby and a young child, and it was a ton of fun. Now I am expecting our first baby and she's a newly minted Labor & Delivery nurse. so she's giving me all sorts of helpful advice about the big day. She can't wait to be an aunt.