Ex husband skipping the country

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ex husband is leaving the country and will not give more information than the continent he will be on. No return date, no number if there is an emergency, nothing. We have joint legal custody. Is there any recourse? He sprung this on me today and is leaving sometime next week. I believe this is so he can avoid child support.

Never ever marry an h1b

+1. Doesn’t end well

Nowhere did OP say her ex is an H1B visa holder. She only said that he claimed he was looking to move to a cheaper country.

Even if he were an H1B holder, your statements are biased nonsense. You're not helping OP with your pot-stirring.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our child support agreement was written in such a way that he didn't have to pay me until after I it equalled $20k because I got the house, and didn't have the $20k he was demanding. He quit his well paying job just as he hit that threshold and now is skipping the country.

I just got word that my mother is dying and I have to figure out a way to get halfway across the country to her before she does. I don't have the time or energy to deal with this in the manner I should. But thank you all.

Quitting his job is not an excuse that a judge would look as an appropriate excuse to stop paying child support.

I'm sorry that your mother is not doing well. At the very least, email your ex and let him know that leaving the country and quitting his job are not valid reasons to stop any child support. Something like...

Dear Larlo:

You shared with me on June 16, 2018 that you were leaving the country. According to our signed agreement, child support payment in the amount of $____ is due on ______. Should you choose to withhold any payments, I will follow-up with a lawyer and the appropriate law enforcement which may jeopardize your return to the US.

Have a safe trip.

Madge

It’s a common tactic by some ‘men’ to quit their job during divorce proceedings so that they don’t have to pay more than the minimum child support. You can take them back to court after he gets another job but that costs money and he could quit his job again.

[Anonymous]

Op here.

To clarify, ex liked babies but didn't like the children after the age of 6 when they had real opinions of the world around them and didn't always do as they were told. He wasn't trapped and was thrilled to be a dad. I wasn't thrilled to be a mom, the birth control I was on was later recalled because it wasn't as effective as they thought. I cried for months. However, I adored DC1 and agreed to have DC2.

Ex is not here on a Visa, is a US citizen. His world was rocked several years ago when a scandal broke at his place of employment and he became collateral damage. He was unemployed and depressed for a long time.
Ex told DC1 the country he is going to and the type of place he will be staying in. So I have it narrowed down to less than 150 possibilities. He will see the children before he goes and will get me a notarized statement saying I have full legal custody while he is out of the country. It is a start.

I am surviving without child support and have been for the last 2 years. I don't earn much but I can almost make ends meet. Few extras for us all but we have what we need. Child support would mean 2 pairs of shoes instead of one.

As told

[Anonymous]

OP, you cannot stop him from going. You can file in court for the child support issue once he is in arrears. Sell the house and cut back knowing he isn't going to provide.