Anyone ever get so tired of doing everything for every freakin holiday

[Anonymous]

I haven't got to start holidays yet so I'd be excited to start. Every holiday we stay at relatives and there's no room for any new traditions. My kids stockings are filled, other people buy them presents from santa (wtf) and other raster bunnies leave baskets. Someday

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I haven't got to start holidays yet so I'd be excited to start. Every holiday we stay at relatives and there's no room for any new traditions. My kids stockings are filled, other people buy them presents from santa (wtf) and other raster bunnies leave baskets. Someday

This would be a big no for me. The minute I had kids, we set our own traditions in our own house.

[Anonymous]

My kids are in HS so I get pastries for breakfast and we go out for a late lunch.

No baskets, which are just wasteful junk.!

I have slowly going minimalist since there are no "kids".

We did Thanksgiving last year and my H made the turkey. My kids had to make 1 side each. I made 2 appetizers, I bought a pie. We supplied drinks. Everybody else had to bring what they wanted and it was very relaxed. It's hard but you have to delegate and let go of everything being perfect. My H said, what if the turkey is dry... I said , then we eat sides. Who cares.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I haven't got to start holidays yet so I'd be excited to start. Every holiday we stay at relatives and there's no room for any new traditions. My kids stockings are filled, other people buy them presents from santa (wtf) and other raster bunnies leave baskets. Someday

This would be a big no for me. The minute I had kids, we set our own traditions in our own house.

Well our options are either to see family or get nuclear traditions. I wish we lived nearby

[Anonymous]

No. I love the holidays and my spouse and children do, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. I love the holidays and my spouse and children do, too.

Ever so helpful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. I love the holidays and my spouse and children do, too.

You can love the holidays without going overboard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD is great, no problems there. But DH.....

He complained that coloring eggs was “extravagant” (eggstravagant?) so I went out to Walmart last night to get plastic eggs and pick through what candy was left.

He complained about the candy I got.

He complained that he didn’t want to go outside to hide eggs and I was a bitch for not immediately praising him for coming up with the brilliant idea of hiding eggs inside.

He complained about where I was hiding the eggs.

He complained that I was selfish because I wanted to shower and get dressed before doing the egg hunt. So he went ahead and did the egg hunt with DD while I was in the shower.

He complained that I’m a horrible person for wanting to incorporate any of my own family traditions into Easter.

Tonight he will probably complain that I don’t want to give him “Easter sex”. Gross.

And he wonders why I stopped doing Christmas, Thanksgiving, and his birthday. Guess I can now add Easter to the list.

DTMF

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD is great, no problems there. But DH.....

He complained that coloring eggs was “extravagant” (eggstravagant?) so I went out to Walmart last night to get plastic eggs and pick through what candy was left.

He complained about the candy I got.

He complained that he didn’t want to go outside to hide eggs and I was a bitch for not immediately praising him for coming up with the brilliant idea of hiding eggs inside.

He complained about where I was hiding the eggs.

He complained that I was selfish because I wanted to shower and get dressed before doing the egg hunt. So he went ahead and did the egg hunt with DD while I was in the shower.

He complained that I’m a horrible person for wanting to incorporate any of my own family traditions into Easter.

Tonight he will probably complain that I don’t want to give him “Easter sex”. Gross.

And he wonders why I stopped doing Christmas, Thanksgiving, and his birthday. Guess I can now add Easter to the list.

Sounds like you may want to stop doing marriage with him next! What a d!ck.

[Anonymous]

we don't live near family so when we 'do' holidays, it is small. Maybe invite friends or occasionally a family member or two travels (like an aging parent) We do what we want--lasagna for Thanksgiving? sure. Last xmas, we went away and had xmas dinner at a little Brazilian restaurant. Today, we made pancakes, hid eggs and are hanging out. Most holidays, days, We only do a few gifts for the kids and that's it. Since we never had high expectations, we are not disappointed. The only family member not on board is my stepmother, who goes insane for every holiday and ends up having a miserable time and making everyone else miserable because you've not expressed enough gratitude for efforts she's made to decorate every nook and cranny, etc. Growing up with that kind of stress turned me into an anti-holiday person until I realized they didn't have to be stressful--it just depends on other people's expectations and how much you care about them or not. Once I stopped, phew! But fortunately my spouse is on the same page.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I haven't got to start holidays yet so I'd be excited to start. Every holiday we stay at relatives and there's no room for any new traditions. My kids stockings are filled, other people buy them presents from santa (wtf) and other raster bunnies leave baskets. Someday

Communicate. Don’t take people up on their hospitality than whine because they can’t read your mind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DCUM Martyrs n Doormats Brigade.

Delegate
Set boundaries
Ask for help
Be specific
Don’t do things you don’t enjoy
Buy stuff you don’t want to make
Communicate

Exactly! Decide what you want to do, and ask others to participate.

[Anonymous]

Easter is easy. Fill baskets for the teenagers. Heat up ham in the oven, make a couple of sides along with some asparagus an crescent rolls. We'll say a prayer at dinner.

I love the fresh spring air, the flowers coming up and the sounds of birds outside.

[Anonymous]

Yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Easter is easy. Fill baskets for the teenagers. Heat up ham in the oven, make a couple of sides along with some asparagus an crescent rolls. We'll say a prayer at dinner.

I love the fresh spring air, the flowers coming up and the sounds of birds outside.