Hanging diplomas

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it's tacky because it makes explicit something that should be understood. We assume that you are educated. You should be showing your education through your actions, not a piece of paper. I don't see how putting up diplomas is any different than posting your investment account balance. After all, you worked hard to earn that money and make those investments, right?

I agree, though, that perhaps a recent grad could get away with it. That's more akin to sticking your report card on the fridge with a magnet. But we should outgrow the need for that particular kind of validation.

I think this presumes that I am hanging my diplomas for you, the guest in my house, as opposed to for me. My diplomas hang in my home office. It's my own little space in our house and the walls and shelves are filled with my memories or things I like. There's also a watercolor I bought from a street vendor in Europe for $10. Photos of family and friends. My freeze-dried wedding bouquet.

I hope that as a guest in my home you feel warm and welcome, but I decorate for me and my family. It's our home. I'm not sure why that is tacky to your sensibilities.

[Anonymous]

I have a product from this company -- lithographs of universities with your diploma - and I LOVE it. I have my diploma hanging in my office, not home, but something like this, I think, would be nice in either a home or an office.

http://www.universitylithos.com/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it's tacky because it makes explicit something that should be understood. We assume that you are educated. You should be showing your education through your actions, not a piece of paper. I don't see how putting up diplomas is any different than posting your investment account balance. After all, you worked hard to earn that money and make those investments, right?

I agree, though, that perhaps a recent grad could get away with it. That's more akin to sticking your report card on the fridge with a magnet. But we should outgrow the need for that particular kind of validation.

Why is it understood? Why do you assume that everyone has college or graduate degrees? Plenty of people's life circumstances are not such that these things are guaranteed, and when they do achieve them, it is a big deal. Even for people for whom it is pretty much a given that they have a degree have every right to be proud of that degree and to display it in whatever manner they see fit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it's tacky because it makes explicit something that should be understood. We assume that you are educated. You should be showing your education through your actions, not a piece of paper. I don't see how putting up diplomas is any different than posting your investment account balance. After all, you worked hard to earn that money and make those investments, right?

I agree, though, that perhaps a recent grad could get away with it. That's more akin to sticking your report card on the fridge with a magnet. But we should outgrow the need for that particular kind of validation.

Agree.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's tacky because it makes explicit something that should be understood. We assume that you are educated. You should be showing your education through your actions, not a piece of paper. I don't see how putting up diplomas is any different than posting your investment account balance. After all, you worked hard to earn that money and make those investments, right?

I agree, though, that perhaps a recent grad could get away with it. That's more akin to sticking your report card on the fridge with a magnet. But we should outgrow the need for that particular kind of validation.

Why is it understood? Why do you assume that everyone has college or graduate degrees? Plenty of people's life circumstances are not such that these things are guaranteed, and when they do achieve them, it is a big deal. Even for people for whom it is pretty much a given that they have a degree have every right to be proud of that degree and to display it in whatever manner they see fit.

Yeah, we have a "right" to wear spandex to the grocery store, too, or any other god-awful tasteless thing we want to. It's not about our rights. No one is trying to outlaw the practice. Amnesty International is not involved, though I wouldn't be surprised if the ACLU is looking into it.

It is understood because if I'm hanging out with you, you are either intelligent enough to have a formal education, or interesting/accomplished enough not to need one. And that you have enough maturity not to need a constant reminder of your accomplishments. Diplomas mean nothing-- think how many narrow-minded nutjobs somehow graduated from an institute of higher learning. It's your behavior that counts, though I understand that establishing a reputation based on your character is hard, whereas hanging a few documents on the wall is the work of a moment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's tacky because it makes explicit something that should be understood. We assume that you are educated. You should be showing your education through your actions, not a piece of paper. I don't see how putting up diplomas is any different than posting your investment account balance. After all, you worked hard to earn that money and make those investments, right?

I agree, though, that perhaps a recent grad could get away with it. That's more akin to sticking your report card on the fridge with a magnet. But we should outgrow the need for that particular kind of validation.

Why is it understood? Why do you assume that everyone has college or graduate degrees? Plenty of people's life circumstances are not such that these things are guaranteed, and when they do achieve them, it is a big deal. Even for people for whom it is pretty much a given that they have a degree have every right to be proud of that degree and to display it in whatever manner they see fit.

Yeah, we have a "right" to wear spandex to the grocery store, too, or any other god-awful tasteless thing we want to. It's not about our rights. No one is trying to outlaw the practice. Amnesty International is not involved, though I wouldn't be surprised if the ACLU is looking into it.

It is understood because if I'm hanging out with you, you are either intelligent enough to have a formal education, or interesting/accomplished enough not to need one. And that you have enough maturity not to need a constant reminder of your accomplishments. Diplomas mean nothing-- think how many narrow-minded nutjobs somehow graduated from an institute of higher learning. It's your behavior that counts, though I understand that establishing a reputation based on your character is hard, whereas hanging a few documents on the wall is the work of a moment.

Rest assured, you and I will never be hanging out.

[Anonymous]

do whatever the hell you want, its your diploma and your wall. why even ask?

but I wouldn't hang a diploma if I went to a crappy school like Virginia Tech or Univ of Maryland. Maybe if UVA, Ivy League or Georgetown.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's tacky because it makes explicit something that should be understood. We assume that you are educated. You should be showing your education through your actions, not a piece of paper. I don't see how putting up diplomas is any different than posting your investment account balance. After all, you worked hard to earn that money and make those investments, right?

I agree, though, that perhaps a recent grad could get away with it. That's more akin to sticking your report card on the fridge with a magnet. But we should outgrow the need for that particular kind of validation.

Why is it understood? Why do you assume that everyone has college or graduate degrees? Plenty of people's life circumstances are not such that these things are guaranteed, and when they do achieve them, it is a big deal. Even for people for whom it is pretty much a given that they have a degree have every right to be proud of that degree and to display it in whatever manner they see fit.

Yeah, we have a "right" to wear spandex to the grocery store, too, or any other god-awful tasteless thing we want to. It's not about our rights. No one is trying to outlaw the practice. Amnesty International is not involved, though I wouldn't be surprised if the ACLU is looking into it.

It is understood because if I'm hanging out with you, you are either intelligent enough to have a formal education, or interesting/accomplished enough not to need one. And that you have enough maturity not to need a constant reminder of your accomplishments. Diplomas mean nothing-- think how many narrow-minded nutjobs somehow graduated from an institute of higher learning. It's your behavior that counts, though I understand that establishing a reputation based on your character is hard, whereas hanging a few documents on the wall is the work of a moment.

It's your behavior that counts? Like the way you're behaving like a self-righteous bitch?

[Anonymous]

Of course its tacky. But your home, your right to be tacky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

It's your behavior that counts? Like the way you're behaving like a self-righteous bitch?

Listen, this is the place we can be honest. Yes, my responses might come across as bitchy, but you can believe that deep down, people think this way. That's useful information. I would never even hint at these opinions in person, and you would never in a million years know that I felt that way. I expect that people who ask questions here, or follow up on responses with their own questions, want actual answers, and not empty platitudes.

We no longer have rigid, knowable rules of etiquette to guide us. The world has grown too complex for that. But that doesn't stop folks from judging others, so I think it's great that we have a place where we can ask these questions and find out what our peers really think.

I'm not going to say "sorry if that offends you". I'd say it in person, and I'd be so sincere you'd never suspect, too. But here, I am not sorry. Sharing this information is one of the best uses of this forum. I recognize that there are other good uses. If you were to post a "I'm so overwhelmed and exhausted and just want to cry" type thread, well, I'm probably the poster saying "hang in there, sister, I've been there, good times are coming". Because a thread like that is basically a request for support. A thread that asks a question deserves honest answers. Do you disagree?

[Anonymous]

sure its ok to be honest, and its ok to recognize you as a bitch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

It's your behavior that counts? Like the way you're behaving like a self-righteous bitch?

Listen, this is the place we can be honest. Yes, my responses might come across as bitchy, but you can believe that deep down, people think this way. That's useful information. I would never even hint at these opinions in person, and you would never in a million years know that I felt that way. I expect that people who ask questions here, or follow up on responses with their own questions, want actual answers, and not empty platitudes.

We no longer have rigid, knowable rules of etiquette to guide us. The world has grown too complex for that. But that doesn't stop folks from judging others, so I think it's great that we have a place where we can ask these questions and find out what our peers really think.

I'm not going to say "sorry if that offends you". I'd say it in person, and I'd be so sincere you'd never suspect, too. But here, I am not sorry. Sharing this information is one of the best uses of this forum. I recognize that there are other good uses. If you were to post a "I'm so overwhelmed and exhausted and just want to cry" type thread, well, I'm probably the poster saying "hang in there, sister, I've been there, good times are coming". Because a thread like that is basically a request for support. A thread that asks a question deserves honest answers. Do you disagree?

I only disagree that your responses "might come across as bitchy." Not only do they VERY MUCH come across as bitchy, but what it reveals is that deep down, you are a judgemental bitch. (as you admitted) And if you think that doesn't come across in person, I can very much assure you that it does.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

It's your behavior that counts? Like the way you're behaving like a self-righteous bitch?

Listen, this is the place we can be honest. Yes, my responses might come across as bitchy, but you can believe that deep down, people think this way. That's useful information. I would never even hint at these opinions in person, and you would never in a million years know that I felt that way. I expect that people who ask questions here, or follow up on responses with their own questions, want actual answers, and not empty platitudes.

We no longer have rigid, knowable rules of etiquette to guide us. The world has grown too complex for that. But that doesn't stop folks from judging others, so I think it's great that we have a place where we can ask these questions and find out what our peers really think.

I'm not going to say "sorry if that offends you". I'd say it in person, and I'd be so sincere you'd never suspect, too. But here, I am not sorry. Sharing this information is one of the best uses of this forum. I recognize that there are other good uses. If you were to post a "I'm so overwhelmed and exhausted and just want to cry" type thread, well, I'm probably the poster saying "hang in there, sister, I've been there, good times are coming". Because a thread like that is basically a request for support. A thread that asks a question deserves honest answers. Do you disagree?

I only disagree that your responses "might come across as bitchy." Not only do they VERY MUCH come across as bitchy, but what it reveals is that deep down, you are a judgemental bitch. (as you admitted) And if you think that doesn't come across in person, I can very much assure you that it does.

My social calendar and professional success would indicate otherwise.

I'm just about to head out for some coffee; can I pick something up for you? Better yet, come take a walk with me! We could both use a little break, and I've been meaning to ask you about that conference/ your husband's shoulder surgery/ Junior's new pre-school...

[Anonymous]

Ugh . . . I am not the person you've been bantering with, PP, but you made me throw up in my mouth a little. I don't know how anyone tolerates you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

It's your behavior that counts? Like the way you're behaving like a self-righteous bitch?

Listen, this is the place we can be honest. Yes, my responses might come across as bitchy, but you can believe that deep down, people think this way. That's useful information. I would never even hint at these opinions in person, and you would never in a million years know that I felt that way. I expect that people who ask questions here, or follow up on responses with their own questions, want actual answers, and not empty platitudes.

We no longer have rigid, knowable rules of etiquette to guide us. The world has grown too complex for that. But that doesn't stop folks from judging others, so I think it's great that we have a place where we can ask these questions and find out what our peers really think.

I'm not going to say "sorry if that offends you". I'd say it in person, and I'd be so sincere you'd never suspect, too. But here, I am not sorry. Sharing this information is one of the best uses of this forum. I recognize that there are other good uses. If you were to post a "I'm so overwhelmed and exhausted and just want to cry" type thread, well, I'm probably the poster saying "hang in there, sister, I've been there, good times are coming". Because a thread like that is basically a request for support. A thread that asks a question deserves honest answers. Do you disagree?

You are so seriously overthinking this. It's a friggin degree. On a wall. BFD.