Has anyone been unfriended on Facebook?

[Anonymous]

I was unfriended by an ex-roommate. I have no idea why, because I don't post often and never anything obnoious or controversial. I have made my husband unfriend certain women - like the psycho whose profile picture was a picture of her and my husband together. Or the female co-worker who once simulated fellatio with a lollipop in his office.

[Anonymous]

I have been unfriended by the same high school boyfriend TWICE. He friended me (asked to be my friend), then unfriended me. A few weeks later, he friended me again. I accepted because I figured the unfriending was a mistake, but sure enough a few weeks later he was off my list again! I'm fascinated by the whole thing, particularly since we had ended things on good terms a million years ago. I'm not a terribly active poster, and never put political things. Can't figure it out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So for the second time since I joined FB about a year ago, I just noticed that I was "unfriended" by someone. My friend list only hovers in the 80 range, so in both cases I noticed after a while that I wasn't seeing status updates from those people anymore and sure enough...unfriended! Wow. The first was an old coworker who I wasn't super close with. I probably would not have friended her, but she friended me so I figured no harm in accepting - but never interacted with her except to congratulate her when she announced she was pregnant. Then I guess she changed her mind one day. I'd like to think of my FB participation as pretty mild and I honestly can't imagine what I would have done to offend or put off someone - but who knows. The second is a girl I knew from high school, though we were different ages - I was actually the same age as her brother and knew him more. Same thing...she friended me, I accepted. I actually enjoyed her more - made some nice comments here and there about her family photos, etc. Now I just noticed she's no longer a friend. Even though I'm not close with either of these people - I must admit it feels like being rejected a little and kind of weird! Just wondering if anyone else out there has had the same sort of bizarre experience or if it really is just me...

Seriously, why do you care? Don't give it another thought.

[Anonymous]

no not really but it feels like some of my friends dont want anything to do with me they ignore my messages and other things i send them

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:no not really but it feels like some of my friends dont want anything to do with me they ignore my messages and other things i send them

probably because you write in a color that is hard to read and hurts their eyes.

[Anonymous]

Truly, I could care less if someone friended or unfriended me--it doesn't change that I liked them well enough "once upon a time" or even still. People use FB for different reasons... and folks also have varying levels of knowledge about how to change settings, etc.

I will say a few folks I've known have closed down their FB accounts. They just decided they didn't want their life out there.

Really, I wouldn't worry about it.

I, too, hover around 70-80 "friends". And I never use FB unless someone prompts me. I do know folks, tho, who prefer FB over all other social media. I'm old fashioned and make phone calls and occasionally send an email.

[Anonymous]

I have unfriended a couple of people because we didnt' interact at all on FB but we were actually once FIRL. Friends from my old high school etc. whom I can barely remember -- I really don't mind not interacting with them and just having them on my friend list; it's like being in a yearbook. But for those who were once real friends, it sort of hurts my feelings that they're not really interested in reconnecting and I don't want that feeling when I go on FB.

[Anonymous]

I've unfriended people many times and the thought that people would take it personally or feel offended never even occurred to be. (I've been unfriended too). Usually the people I unfriend are exactly like the OP's scenario...people I knew back in the day...we got in touch on Facebook and caught up, really out of curiosity but that's it. We have no ongoing friendship really so after awhile I unfriend these people. I don't really care what they are doing nor do I really want them keeping tabs on me, or seeing pictures when I don't really have a connection with them. It isn't that they did anything offensive, obnoxious or abrasive at all. They are still the same nice person, I just don't feel the need to maintain contact on Facebook.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've unfriended people many times and the thought that people would take it personally or feel offended never even occurred to be. (I've been unfriended too). Usually the people I unfriend are exactly like the OP's scenario...people I knew back in the day...we got in touch on Facebook and caught up, really out of curiosity but that's it. We have no ongoing friendship really so after awhile I unfriend these people. I don't really care what they are doing nor do I really want them keeping tabs on me, or seeing pictures when I don't really have a connection with them. It isn't that they did anything offensive, obnoxious or abrasive at all. They are still the same nice person, I just don't feel the need to maintain contact on Facebook.

I feel the exact same way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:no not really but it feels like some of my friends dont want anything to do with me they ignore my messages and other things i send them

You may be one of my "friends." I'm sorry if I hurt your feelings. I work 32 hours, DH works full time. We have a 3yo and a 1yo. We are renovating our house. We have a pretty active social life. It's not personal, it's just that FB is an occasional diverson for me, not a main source of socialization. I check it every few weeks to see what people are up to. I raretly post, comment, or friend people. I try to respond to people, but some of the messages I've gotten have been from people who I knew long ago, who live far away, and whom I don't see a deep relationship developing with, and it's not a priority for me to respond. I guess I'm a bad FB friend, but it's just not my preferred means of communication.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've been unfriended twice -- both by exes. They friended me, I accepted . . . then with one of them, I did not respond to messages he sent me through FB (which were very short, like, "long time, huh") bc. I think he's a psychopath. The other has a psycho wife who made him quit FB entirely not long after she made him unfriend me. In both cases I still felt rejected, which probably means I need therapy.

I have unfriended a few people, but only those who I actually don't know who they are and accepted their friend requests to see if their info would ring a bell, but then it didn't. If someone posts too many updates, I just hide those but keep them as friends. I completely understand your feelings on this.

Psycho wife? Really? I've had to explain to my BIL that friending waitresses at Hooters is not appropriate nor is friending ladies who are clients of his employees. Perhaps there is more to the story than just the wife being psycho. Lots of men use Facebook to establish inappropriate relationships.