Has anyone been unfriended on Facebook?

[Anonymous]

Actually a "frenemy" from college unfriended me about two weeks ago.

She attacked me on Facebook and when I replied back that I was not going to argue with her because quite frankly she knew nothing about my life these days...she then unfriended me. Her comments to me were really nasty.

Always thought she was a little crazy...now I know she is.

[Anonymous]

I unfriended someone today. He is more of an acquaintance although I had hoped to get to know him better (both single) Today he posted a picture of Obama, doctored to have an acorn cap on his head.

I know the guy is conservative and I'm liberal, but a doctored disrespectful picture of the president? Wow, he's full of a lot of anger. It disgusted me and I thought, this is not someone I want to be friends with, in real life or otherwise. So I unfriended him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I unfriended someone today. He is more of an acquaintance although I had hoped to get to know him better (both single) Today he posted a picture of Obama, doctored to have an acorn cap on his head.

I know the guy is conservative and I'm liberal, but a doctored disrespectful picture of the president? Wow, he's full of a lot of anger. It disgusted me and I thought, this is not someone I want to be friends with, in real life or otherwise. So I unfriended him.

I posted about being unfreinded by someone I met in a class. I got the impression her family was conservative and Republican, and I had posted something funny about the Bush administration on FB. I wondered if she had unfreinded me for that reason but then thought, so what, I'm liberal and I shouldn't have to hide that to not risk being unfreinded.

[Anonymous]

pretty damn uptight if you can't even be friends with someone who has different political views. that works on both sides.

[Anonymous]

When I first started using fb I friended a ton of people right away. Usually through the friend finder tool. I just starting cutting folks. Usually the people I hardly knew/know, who also don't post much.

I was starting to feel that my "friends" number was artificially inflated. So I cut back to those I actually care to keep up with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:pretty damn uptight if you can't even be friends with someone who has different political views. that works on both sides.

I have plenty of friends who are not liberal like me. Posting ugly pictures of the president is another thing.

[Anonymous]

I've been unfriended twice -- both by exes. They friended me, I accepted . . . then with one of them, I did not respond to messages he sent me through FB (which were very short, like, "long time, huh") bc. I think he's a psychopath. The other has a psycho wife who made him quit FB entirely not long after she made him unfriend me. In both cases I still felt rejected, which probably means I need therapy.

I have unfriended a few people, but only those who I actually don't know who they are and accepted their friend requests to see if their info would ring a bell, but then it didn't. If someone posts too many updates, I just hide those but keep them as friends. I completely understand your feelings on this.

[Anonymous]

I think that FB inadvertently drops some friends from your list too---especially back during the times when they were changing formats. I had a couple friends e-mail asking "Why did you un-friend me" when I hadn't. These were close family friends that I would never, in a million years, consider un-friending. This is when I learned not to take it personal if it looked like someone un-friended you---it may be FB's fault!

[Anonymous]

I have been unfriended! It is a little weird. I barely post, except for pics of the kids, so how much could I really have offended someone?

[Anonymous]

I'm determined to keep my number low, so every once in a while I'll weed out the randoms.

On the flipside, I always find it a bit funny when I'll look for someone (like "Gee, haven't heard from Joe in a while.."and realize they're not on my friends list anymore--basically meaning that I was one of his/her randoms. Karma, I guess.

Facebook is such a phenomenon in so many ways--putting your friendships out there in such obvious, quanitifiable ways (Friend yes or no? Did you block certain information or none?), to say nothing of the phenomenon that we've ALL experienced of inappropriate flirting with exes, etc.

I think it all stems from the fact that FB provides us with a level of totally censored intimacy that we've never had with so many people before (honestly, have you ever left a BAD photo of you tagged? Would you ever share so many mundane things about your life with your ex-boyfriend from high school? Plus he looks hot...and repeat).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The other has a psycho wife who made him quit FB entirely not long after she made him unfriend me. quote]

I'm sure some of my soon to be ex-husband's friends think I am a "psycho". If I forwarded them all the evidence of my husband's affairs - one of which was based in FB - they might understand I wasn't crazy; he was a compulsive liar and cheat. And the woman - you would not BELIEVE the porn she sent him!!!

So give the psycho wife the benefit of the doubt - you have NO idea what might really be going on in that relationship.

[Anonymous]

I unfriended an ex-coworker last week - it was the first time I ever unfriended someone. I didn't realize until after we were FB friends that he used FB to post nothing but vitriolic and hateful political messages. I was nervious to unfriend him - it seemed extreme - so I just "hid" his posts for a while. The other day I saw a post of his slip through the cracks - he put something about "border jumpers" and Joe Wilson being an american hero. Goodbye, ex-friend. I will not miss you.

[Anonymous]

I unfriend people who are not close friends and either don't post or post too much minor stuff (e.g, "I'm eating a sandwich and watching Top Chef"). If there is no back and forth of comments, my thought is why do they need to read my status updates. Bottom line is I realized that I friended too many people initially and I am correcting it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please pardon me if this seems like a hijack of this thread, but just wanted to add w/re the PP, I work in a position that, for better or worse, has required me to become knowledgeable about child pornography crimes. FWIW, I personally -- and this is only a personal recommendation in the hopes that folks will at least just think about it -- think people should exercise extreme caution about putting their child's images on the internet where anyone and everyone can see, download, and access them. At a minimum, please consider using only a secure site where you can control who has access to the images. Yes, we are all proud of our children and want to share photos, but in this day and age folks should consider using good judgment in doing so. Also, as mentioned above, your child's personal privacy is an important thing, so please think about respecting it for them by limiting who has access to it until your child is mature enough to make his/her own judgments about their own privacy.

Can you please elaborate on the risks of, for example, putting your children's photos on FB where only your "friends" can have access? I guess I'm naive. I just don't understand what would happen, if say, for example, some random friend from high school is unbenownst to you a pedophile. As long as your home contact info is not on your profile, what can they do with photos of your kids? I mean, I guess they could make some disturbing cut & pastes. Is that the kind of thing you're talking about? Again, forgive my naivete! I'm genuinely curious/concerned about risks, but do enjoy sharing photos of my kids with family & friends via FB, because it's so easy.

[Anonymous]

I unfriended a lot of people for different things, first my sisters in law, they just wanted to be my friends to gossip, and then people who are not interested in talk with me, now I have like 80 friends but they are really, really close and good friends.