My ex sent me a card today

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe therapy will help sort out all your issues.

+1

There's a lot more going on than your ex.

She kept saying that I needed therapy because I can’t see how damaged I am. The thing is I don’t think I’m paranoid about why I don’t trust her. It’s a gut feeling that I have.

OP, you said she’s loyal and would never cheat but you also say that you don’t trust her. Huh? This thinking alone suggests that you more than likely need therapy. What you’re saying sounds pretty illogical....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe therapy will help sort out all your issues.

+1

There's a lot more going on than your ex.

She kept saying that I needed therapy because I can’t see how damaged I am. The thing is I don’t think I’m paranoid about why I don’t trust her. It’s a gut feeling that I have.

OP, you said she’s loyal and would never cheat but you also say that you don’t trust her. Huh? This thinking alone suggests that you more than likely need therapy. What you’re saying sounds pretty illogical....

This.

[Anonymous]

I think you’d benefit from individual therapy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you’d benefit from individual therapy

+1. It sounds like your trust issues ruined something with a good person

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like she is a really good person and like she might not be totally over you. But that doesn't necessarily mean the best step is to get back together or that she necessarily is sure she wants to get back together -- just that she still has some feelings toward you.

I think it would be nice to reach out and say thank-you and that you really appreciated the card. If you want to, say that you miss her and wish things had turned out differently. If she responds positively, then see if she wants to meet up. But don't get your hopes up too much, and take it slow.

I agree with the PPs who said that you have some issues to work out, and I think you need to be upfront with her about the fact that you know this and that this contributed to the breakup.

Thanks. I said thank you for the card. She never replied.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think you’re good boyfriend material.