Husband tried to commit suicide

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Got luck and stopped him at the last moment. I did’t think anything was wrong, he’s acted about the same. I’m devastated he would do that to us. I’ve been essentially on suicide watch for a couple of days and can’t sleep, I’m worried if I do he’ll harm himself. I’ve removed the guns from the house, but he’s locked himself in the bathroom yesterday and I’m afraid he’ll down a bunch of pills.

There's your problem. You seem more worried about yourself than the man going through a mental crisis. Get him psychiatric help.

[Anonymous]

serious question - is calling 911 in this situation when you find someone trying to harm themselves not an option?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hope you help him get help. He needs it. I have a friend whose husband tried multiple times. He was even revived from a suicide. The Doc told him next time he might be successful and he was. He may need meds and he may need to stay on them long term, which can be hard for people to do. I am thinking of you and hope that he gets help.

What makes it hard for people to stay on meds (besides side effects)?

When they’re for mental health, a lot of people stop taking them after a long time of feeling normal and well - because of the mess. Thinking they don’t need them anymore. But then they go off the meds and things go haywire again because it’s always been the meds regulating and normalizing them.

[Anonymous]

Meds not mess!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hope you help him get help. He needs it. I have a friend whose husband tried multiple times. He was even revived from a suicide. The Doc told him next time he might be successful and he was. He may need meds and he may need to stay on them long term, which can be hard for people to do. I am thinking of you and hope that he gets help.

What makes it hard for people to stay on meds (besides side effects)?

When they’re for mental health, a lot of people stop taking them after a long time of feeling normal and well - because of the mess. Thinking they don’t need them anymore. But then they go off the meds and things go haywire again because it’s always been the meds regulating and normalizing them.

And because the side effects can be awful.

I'm diagnosed bipolar. I am non-compliant because the side effects of the medication that works for me are intolerable. They're fine if I'm in dire need and it's meds or die. But I cannot be a functional person and be medicated. Unfortunately, the mental health profession cannot cope with unmedicated patients. I understand it makes us a risk. But I wish there was more understanding about how intolerable some side effects are. People who take medicine for high blood pressure get more sympathy for not being able to maintain an erection than people who take meds for mental health do about some of their side effects.

[Anonymous]

OP, you need help for him and for you. You should either take him to the ER or call your family doctor and talk to a private facility now. And you also need to see someone - it is not easy dealing with this on your end.

[Anonymous]

I have been in the psychiatric unit at Suburban. It's not so bad. I would take him to the ER there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:serious question - is calling 911 in this situation when you find someone trying to harm themselves not an option?

This is an option and should have been the first thing she did. He needs help from trained professionals.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Got luck and stopped him at the last moment. I did’t think anything was wrong, he’s acted about the same. I’m devastated he would do that to us. I’ve been essentially on suicide watch for a couple of days and can’t sleep, I’m worried if I do he’ll harm himself. I’ve removed the guns from the house, but he’s locked himself in the bathroom yesterday and I’m afraid he’ll down a bunch of pills.

There's your problem. You seem more worried about yourself than the man going through a mental crisis. Get him psychiatric help.

+1 that's exactly what I thought when I read OPs post.

[Anonymous]

Troll. Same writing style and IP address of similar vapid outbursts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Got luck and stopped him at the last moment. I did’t think anything was wrong, he’s acted about the same. I’m devastated he would do that to us. I’ve been essentially on suicide watch for a couple of days and can’t sleep, I’m worried if I do he’ll harm himself. I’ve removed the guns from the house, but he’s locked himself in the bathroom yesterday and I’m afraid he’ll down a bunch of pills.

There's your problem. You seem more worried about yourself than the man going through a mental crisis. Get him psychiatric help.

+1 that's exactly what I thought when I read OPs post.

[Anonymous]

When my daughter tried this we immediately took her to the ER where she was put on medication and was evaluated for a few days. Because my husband was law enforcement we were allowed to take her home but she was put on homebound studies and was watched continuously since I do not work. She was cleared by her therapist to return to school after three months, and lasted two weeks before she tried it again, and we had her sent to a psych ward that time. She was then put back on suicide watch at home and at the end of the school year I sent her to live with her dad to get her out of that school. She's now off her meds, happy, and has not attempted anything in more than six months. It was a hard decision, but we would do anything to save her life. My dad committed suicide when I was 11. I know what it does to a family, and I know that you cannot be too careful when someone is depressed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I feel for you. What kind of help is he getting? He needs more help ASAP than you are able to provide for him.

I would suggest calling the suicide prevention hotline. They will help you figure out what to do next.

He’s sleeping right now after essentially being up for over 24 hours.

I’d call ASAP tomorrow morning. I’d personally take him to iNova iPAC, they’re open. If you can’t get him up take him tomorrow morning. I’ve been in his boat, it’s a tough thing. Ironically, for guys it stinks because we’re on our own. Wives/GFs will dump you off at the first sign of trouble like this as they don’t want to take the responsibility of dealing with it.

I'm a woman. My jaw just dropped! PP, that's horrible and I'm sorry you were treated that way!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When my daughter tried this we immediately took her to the ER where she was put on medication and was evaluated for a few days. Because my husband was law enforcement we were allowed to take her home but she was put on homebound studies and was watched continuously since I do not work. She was cleared by her therapist to return to school after three months, and lasted two weeks before she tried it again, and we had her sent to a psych ward that time. She was then put back on suicide watch at home and at the end of the school year I sent her to live with her dad to get her out of that school. She's now off her meds, happy, and has not attempted anything in more than six months. It was a hard decision, but we would do anything to save her life. My dad committed suicide when I was 11. I know what it does to a family, and I know that you cannot be too careful when someone is depressed.

PP, I know this was a huge sacrifice and I'm so proud of you! Schools can be HORRIBLE environments for kids

[Anonymous]

Some people can just not deal with being admitted. I am one of them. I didn’t outpatient program for a couple of weeks and it really helped. Plus the constant therapy is also a must. I know other people who have suffered the same thing and being cooped up in a hospital didn’t really work for them.