Can I snark for a moment? Gender reveal party $ grabbing, wtf??

Anonymous
Sorry, no new babies around me: are people expected to bring gifts to a gender reveal party?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Sorry, no new babies around me: are people expected to bring gifts to a gender reveal party?


It's an etiquette grey area because gender reveal parties themselves are such a new phenomenon. If you're the kind of person who doesn't like to show up empty handed, then you may feel obligated to bring a gift (or expect gifts if you're the host). Or if you err on the side of caution in etiquette ambiguities, then same.

Either way, it's poor etiquette. If you AREN'T expected to bring a gift, then the hosts shouldn't be expecting to "get" anything out of the party except the pleasure of their guests' company, so why would they expect to take 50% of the pot? And if you ARE expected to bring a gift, then you're giving multiple gifts per event (event being the pregnancy/baby and gifts for the gender reveal, shower, and possibly after the baby is born), so adding another obligation to give is greedy.

Less greedy options:
- Make it a game where tickets are free and the winner gets a prize purchased in advance by the hosts
- Charge for the tickets, but give the winner 100% of the pot
- If you HAVE to have a 50/50, at least have someone else organize the 50/50 and collect money, so the parents to be aren't organizing the party, selling tickets, announcing the winner, then pocketing half of the cash. But really, isn't it just easier to not charge for tickets and miss out on the $20-50?
Anonymous
Tacky AF, like smash cakes and push presents.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My dad said they did a 50/50 contest to guess when I would be born at his construction company workplace in 1991, and they did it when any guy had a kid. So I guess as a concept I don't find it that offensive. But at a gender reveal it's pretty weird. But gender reveals in general are dumb.


This seems more fun, especially for a dad to be. I wouldn't balk at this.


This seems fun especially since it was an established tradition at his workplace. Inviting people into your house and selling tickets is a whole other ballgame.
Anonymous
honestly, I'd consider doing it and donating the money to my favorite charity.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Tacky AF, like smash cakes and push presents.

Wtf is a smash cake, dare I ask?
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