Any other women out there with a lover 20+ years younger?

[Anonymous]

Question for those with the older ladies with younger boy toys who are not officially a "boyfriend": do you interact much in public? Do you introduce them to your friends? Or is it pretty much strictly a "Netflix and chill" in the private confines of your home?

I was the younger guy when in grad school in my late 20s, she was a divorcee in her late 30s. After initially meeting her at a bar for drinks, all our subsequent "dates" were me showing up at her Woodley Park apartment in the afternoons when she was teleworking or in the evenings. No sleep overs. This went on for nearly four years.

[Anonymous]

When I was in my mid-20s I tried to have a relationship with a woman who was 25 years older than me. She was a nympho, and a flake, and it bothered me that her daughter was my age. In retrospect I learned little from her and should have been spending my time with women my age.

Now that I am old, I date women my age, and sometimes much younger, but find it a huge turn-off when a woman close to my age brags about having had "young lovers". I'm a complete hypocrite, but I won't be in a relationship with that kind of women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm almost 50, divorced for several years, and having a casual relationship with someone under 30. It's slightly more than just sex, but not by much. We go out infrequently on dates and we have a great time talking, working out, cooking, etc. whenever we get together. We have amazing sex.

We've been at this a while and it occurs to me that I don't know a single other older woman/younger guy couple with this kind of age spread. Do you?

Just curious - what makes it amazing?

Oh, and you're my hero.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm almost 50, divorced for several years, and having a casual relationship with someone under 30. It's slightly more than just sex, but not by much. We go out infrequently on dates and we have a great time talking, working out, cooking, etc. whenever we get together. We have amazing sex.

We've been at this a while and it occurs to me that I don't know a single other older woman/younger guy couple with this kind of age spread. Do you?

Yeah me. I am in my 50ties and had 2 relationships with men 20+ yrs younger. Both of them I met through common interests and they approached me. I look a lot younger and am in great shape. We broke up because they both wanted children and marriage neither of which I have any interest in at my age, BTDT. Fun and sex: it was great while it lasted.

The main problem is that after awhile, I find them "young" and not as worldly or sophisticated as I am even though they are both very accomplished, well educated professionals... I tend to dominate the relationship after awhile and treat them like children which I don't particularly like. I already have children and don't want more!

[Anonymous]

Subtle brag?

[Anonymous]

It's a curiosity. Stacie's mom and all that. It's one of those things to check off the bucket list.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Ha, sorry, I agree the word "lover" is stupid but I can't think of another that fits the situation. He's not my boyfriend or partner or significant other …

I don't have notable self esteem issues. I was married for a long time to a classic D.C. type and we're still friendly and coparenting teens. I'm having a wonderful time with my male friend and just take this day by day.

fwiw, he's 29, a professional I met through work. I imagine he'll split off at some point and follow the script of wife/kids/mortgage, and I'll be OK with that when it happens, as long as he's respectful about it.

You could just say your banging a 29 year old, instead of lover.

He could be your child so it is gross.

Your an almost 50 facing divorce, bragging about a "lover" on an anonymous forum, and you are facing being single the rest of your life, you most certainly have self esteem issues.

Take it one day at a time... like alcoholics.

Disregard this bitter, illiterate person, OP. She probably hasn’t had an orgasm for the last twenty years.

Whoa that person sounds super bitter.

For some reason I doubt it's a woman. I think it's some older guy with sagging man boobs and erectile dysfunction who's pissed he can't keep up with the young girls anymore and the women his age are being satisfied by hot young bodies with tight abs.

What woman would begrudge another woman hot sex with a tight bodied man and fun???

New poster to this thread.

[Anonymous]

OP,
I'm in my mid-40s and often complain to friends that I'm approached by young guys A LOT! I mean A LOT! And I'd really, really love to be with a man my age or slightly older. Heck, I'd go up to 60s. I just see 20-somethings as too young. Besides, my own child is early 20s but it seems that 29 year olds and a few early 20s flock to me. I look younger than my age. Trust me, these guys are not approaching someone they think are their mothers age.

I'm considering going for it for the lighthearted fun and sex. (Their bodies are AH MAY ZING!!) But everytime I think about it I go "EW! Kiddie peen!" Friends have almost talked me out of my repulsion but we'll see.

I think most 20-something guys had sex with women in their 40s-almost as if it's a rite of passage of sorts. A few of my male friends during my younger years certainly have.

I say GO FOR IT and HAVE FUN!

[Anonymous]

I'm 32, so no. I seriously can't even imagine dating a twenty-five-year-old, even, but more power to you, OP. Get it!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's a curiosity. Stacie's mom and all that. It's one of those things to check off the bucket list.

I think that's part of it.

But a lot of these guys are looking at older women as serious potential mates. I've certainly met a few who were.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm almost 50, divorced for several years, and having a casual relationship with someone under 30. It's slightly more than just sex, but not by much. We go out infrequently on dates and we have a great time talking, working out, cooking, etc. whenever we get together. We have amazing sex.

We've been at this a while and it occurs to me that I don't know a single other older woman/younger guy couple with this kind of age spread. Do you?

Yeah me. I am in my 50ties and had 2 relationships with men 20+ yrs younger. Both of them I met through common interests and they approached me. I look a lot younger and am in great shape. We broke up because they both wanted children and marriage neither of which I have any interest in at my age, BTDT. Fun and sex: it was great while it lasted.

The main problem is that after awhile, I find them "young" and not as worldly or sophisticated as I am even though they are both very accomplished, well educated professionals... I tend to dominate the relationship after awhile and treat them like children which I don't particularly like. I already have children and don't want more!

I've been there and agree. For a time you feel very energized that you can attract someone much younger but then the brain takes over and you really long for someone more like you.

[Anonymous]

I think it's really common actually, esp in divorcees of both sexes. It's a cliche.

[Anonymous]

Are you not tired of being mistaken for his mom when out?

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Anonymous wrote:In my opinion, if you are within the age difference formula (your age/2 + 7) you are good. Outside of that range, people will judge. Not that you have to care what they think.

That rule is for men, not women

[Anonymous]

To all the "get it!" approving women think of how you'd react to a 50 year old man dating a 25 year old woman...