Men: honestly, why do you pull away?

[Anonymous]

I would say that men's "filter" or "decision points" are placed later than a woman's. Many women won't sleep with a guy or get into a short term relationship if they don't see long term potential. Mens' filter points are a little later. They're willing to go with the flow but after a few months when things could potentially become more official, people do couple things, meet friends, etc, is when they start to seriously consider long term potential.

This might seem unfair like some sort of power imbalance, but it's really just a selection set issue. The men who you don't like long term don't make it to that 1-2 month mark in the first place.

I also would add, and I don't mean this to be cruel, people who often find themselves getting dumped or chasing after people with marginal influence, may be playing out of their league. It may be that the men you are pursuing think that you're fine to date for a month or two but want someone better/younger/smarter/prettier for a long term relationship.

FINALLY, if it is important to you not to sleep with someone for whom there's no long term potential, you should talk about it with your partner. Most men don't want to actively deceive anyone. It doesn't mean he won't change his mind but it could get him to consider the issue more seriously.