Venting. Cousin in law is starting to annoy me...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

I’ve been an emotional mess. Sorry if I don’t make sense. I don’t know if it’s hormones or what. The point is that I’m over her trying to rain on our parade. She didn’t seem too happy when I brought up the news that I was accepted into my program, to be honest that was a huge red flag. Is it too hard to be happy for someone when they finally see their hard work pay off?.. She expected everyone to attend her graduation party and a lot of acknowledgment! She acts like I’m getting in the way of her “spotlight” and so to me this is her way to trying to get the spotlight back if you will.

You said in your OP that her Ph.D. wasn't a big deal and you don't understand why people brag about her for being in her program ("I don't get why the fuss. It's not like it's uncommon."). That's the attitude you've been giving her since you met; why should she be happier for you than you are for her?

You're. Projecting. Your. Own. Insecurities. Onto. This. Woman.

You want the same level of hoopla for getting into a PhD program as she got for completing one?

[Anonymous]

getting a phd is much harder than getting accepted into a program.

i am sure Betsy is competing with you, but clearly you are doing the same thing. that's normal. just recognize that you are a part of dynamic.

[Anonymous]

OP I'm with you. She sounds like a hater. Limit what you share with her and his family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I'm with you. She sounds like a hater. Limit what you share with her and his family.

Thank you. So I have been very supportive of her. I just find it odd that she didn't seem to give me the same courtesy.
I kept my interest on the down low, because of this reason. I did want it to be a competition or at the point that I met her, I
did not want to take her thunder, so I humbled myself to keep quiet about my own endeavor.

[Anonymous]

Lol the fact that UP responds to the one person who agreed with her just confirms my suspicions. I feel bad for ops family

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:getting a phd is much harder than getting accepted into a program.

i am sure Betsy is competing with you, but clearly you are doing the same thing. that's normal. just recognize that you are a part of dynamic.

You're right. Completing a phd is much harder than starting. Still, I supported her and wish she would do the same. It feels like she's stretching to eve be happy for me.
I was beyond happy for her, when she graduated.

[Anonymous]

Why do you care?

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you both went/are going to for profit "institution" for your respective doctorates. Your spelling and grammar (and ability to write coherently in general) is appalling. I can't tell you how many truly stupid and semi-illiterate folks I know who have "PhDs" from online/for profit places in things like education or public administration.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like you both went/are going to for profit "institution" for your respective doctorates. Your spelling and grammar (and ability to write coherently in general) is appalling. I can't tell you how many truly stupid and semi-illiterate folks I know who have "PhDs" from online/for profit places in things like education or public administration.

LOL. University of Phoenix being one, right?..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do you care?

This. Quit reading so much into every little reaction. Just live your life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like you both went/are going to for profit "institution" for your respective doctorates. Your spelling and grammar (and ability to write coherently in general) is appalling. I can't tell you how many truly stupid and semi-illiterate folks I know who have "PhDs" from online/for profit places in things like education or public administration.

Add to that the complete lack of understanding of behavior and family dynamics. And this person is going for a PhD in a social science. I'd laugh, but I worry for anyone she may work with who may need competent help in the future.

[Anonymous]

This is what-a cousin? Of some guy u married? Who cares?