Anyone go on babycenter?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I joined and left a moms group on Facebook on the same day because it was all “hey y’all! I’m Kynzee, I’m 21, engaged to a great guy, and I have an 11 month old and another one on the way! I’m a stay at home mom and my awesome fiancé is in the Army! We live with my parents and I love essential oils!” Nope. Not gonna happen.

This is so hilariously accurate.

Sigh. I'm in an FB group for moms of kids with SN and it reminds of me babycenter. All the posts are like this, most are incoherent and out of control. It is full of BAD advice, especially for people who need legal help. Every time I suggest that someone get a lawyer instead of going with with anecdetol evidence on FB, they act like I have three eyes. The posts go like this:
Poster: PanicPanicPanic cps is coming to mah houz because my kid only eats carrots at skewl. what do?
Another Poster: CPS is the devil! they want to eat children.
Another poster: I have 13 kids and cps has never been to my house, but, if they came, I'd slam the door in their face.
Another Poster: where do you live and what resources are you getting?
OP: Live in the middle of nowhwere, not sure about resources, I have (insert name of crappy healthcare here) but my friend says x, y, z should be covered
Me: You need to speak with the therapists, school and a lawyer about this.
Poster: CPS will take your kids!
Poster: Lawyers just want your money.
Poster: Just slam the door and ignore them, they don't get to comment on your parenting.

I should just give up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I joined and left a moms group on Facebook on the same day because it was all “hey y’all! I’m Kynzee, I’m 21, engaged to a great guy, and I have an 11 month old and another one on the way! I’m a stay at home mom and my awesome fiancé is in the Army! We live with my parents and I love essential oils!” Nope. Not gonna happen.

This is so hilariously accurate.

Sigh. I'm in an FB group for moms of kids with SN and it reminds of me babycenter. All the posts are like this, most are incoherent and out of control. It is full of BAD advice, especially for people who need legal help. Every time I suggest that someone get a lawyer instead of going with with anecdetol evidence on FB, they act like I have three eyes. The posts go like this:
Poster: PanicPanicPanic cps is coming to mah houz because my kid only eats carrots at skewl. what do?
Another Poster: CPS is the devil! they want to eat children.
Another poster: I have 13 kids and cps has never been to my house, but, if they came, I'd slam the door in their face.
Another Poster: where do you live and what resources are you getting?
OP: Live in the middle of nowhwere, not sure about resources, I have (insert name of crappy healthcare here) but my friend says x, y, z should be covered
Me: You need to speak with the therapists, school and a lawyer about this.
Poster: CPS will take your kids!
Poster: Lawyers just want your money.
Poster: Just slam the door and ignore them, they don't get to comment on your parenting.

I should just give up.

I laughed reading this post. Why don’t you leave the group if they’re so crazy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The Bargain Hunters board is the only one worth visiting on Babycenter. Make sure you create a new thread introducing yourself and ask where the bargains are. That's how you make friends over there.

Though it is an older group of women it still has middle school catiness and tons of drama...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I joined and left a moms group on Facebook on the same day because it was all “hey y’all! I’m Kynzee, I’m 21, engaged to a great guy, and I have an 11 month old and another one on the way! I’m a stay at home mom and my awesome fiancé is in the Army! We live with my parents and I love essential oils!” Nope. Not gonna happen.

This is so hilariously accurate.

Sigh. I'm in an FB group for moms of kids with SN and it reminds of me babycenter. All the posts are like this, most are incoherent and out of control. It is full of BAD advice, especially for people who need legal help. Every time I suggest that someone get a lawyer instead of going with with anecdetol evidence on FB, they act like I have three eyes. The posts go like this:
Poster: PanicPanicPanic cps is coming to mah houz because my kid only eats carrots at skewl. what do?
Another Poster: CPS is the devil! they want to eat children.
Another poster: I have 13 kids and cps has never been to my house, but, if they came, I'd slam the door in their face.
Another Poster: where do you live and what resources are you getting?
OP: Live in the middle of nowhwere, not sure about resources, I have (insert name of crappy healthcare here) but my friend says x, y, z should be covered
Me: You need to speak with the therapists, school and a lawyer about this.
Poster: CPS will take your kids!
Poster: Lawyers just want your money.
Poster: Just slam the door and ignore them, they don't get to comment on your parenting.

I should just give up.

I laughed reading this post. Why don’t you leave the group if they’re so crazy?

Because for every five crazies there is one legit poster that needs info. I want to help them. I wish the crazies had to tag their posts like we do on the real estate forum with the location. They should have to put (crazy) before they post.

[Anonymous]

I was on BabyCenter before I found DCUM and noticed these things. I felt extremely out of place there, and I was a mid-20s young mom!

I left before my child was 1 and I am still friends on Facebook with about 4 of the women (whom I've never met but feel like I "know" just as well as many of my high school "friends.")

Yes, on the whole, BabyCenter is a totally different demographic than DCUM. But there are still some DCUM-like women on it. Even so, if you hang out on BabyCenter you are not going to catch poor/dumb/anti-vax! It's not bad to interact with other people different than you.

[Anonymous]

I found BabyCenter really helpful for one of their specialty threads on pregnancy with thyroid issues, and helpful in a completely different way for their threads on miscarriages and pregnancy after loss, which came with a brand of religiosity that I have basically no exposure to as a liberal Jewish New Yorker in my mid thirties - but all very warm hearted, extremely supportive, and seemingly open minded. On the flip side, the birth board was CRAZY. Enlightening and depressing window into the rest of America.

[Anonymous]

The saddest threads for me are the young women who really want to stay at home, be moms, keep a decent home and seem like hardworking, kind people and whose husbands, fiances, or SOs simply cannot stop getting fired/quitting jobs, and throwing the young mom and kids into poverty and chaos. Yes, they should know better but it's so sad.

[Anonymous]

Ugh everyone here is being a little snobby and classist for my liking but of course you're not wrong - these babies aren't as fortunate as the babies here. It's just sad evidence that there is not enough access to or accurate education about birth control and abortion.

But we are the ones that are out of touch with the reality of what most women in this country experience. Not them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why all the hate on DCUM for essential oils? Geez.

Because its a bunch of bull. When you're barfing nonstop because of HG, the last thing you want to hear is "Have you tried peppermint oil?! (Stupid prayer hand emoji)" No, and move out of my way so I can get my Zofran refilled.

Essential oils rank up there with amber teething necklaces.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why all the hate on DCUM for essential oils? Geez.

Because its a bunch of bull. When you're barfing nonstop because of HG, the last thing you want to hear is "Have you tried peppermint oil?! (Stupid prayer hand emoji)" No, and move out of my way so I can get my Zofran refilled.

Essential oils rank up there with amber teething necklaces.

Aromatherapy helps my nausea. Sorry it doesn’t work for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ugh everyone here is being a little snobby and classist for my liking but of course you're not wrong - these babies aren't as fortunate as the babies here. It's just sad evidence that there is not enough access to or accurate education about birth control and abortion.

But we are the ones that are out of touch with the reality of what most women in this country experience. Not them.

Birth control and abortions? Have you been on baby center? These very poor moms really want these babies. Sadly they picked the wrong baby daddy's. The baby daddy drama is intense there! Their MiL stories make dcums seem sane.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ugh everyone here is being a little snobby and classist for my liking but of course you're not wrong - these babies aren't as fortunate as the babies here. It's just sad evidence that there is not enough access to or accurate education about birth control and abortion.

But we are the ones that are out of touch with the reality of what most women in this country experience. Not them.

Birth control and abortions? Have you been on baby center? These very poor moms really want these babies. Sadly they picked the wrong baby daddy's. The baby daddy drama is intense there! Their MiL stories make dcums seem sane.

You really don't think sex ed, access to birth control, and access to abortion aren't factors here?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ugh everyone here is being a little snobby and classist for my liking but of course you're not wrong - these babies aren't as fortunate as the babies here. It's just sad evidence that there is not enough access to or accurate education about birth control and abortion.

But we are the ones that are out of touch with the reality of what most women in this country experience. Not them.

Birth control and abortions? Have you been on baby center? These very poor moms really want these babies. Sadly they picked the wrong baby daddy's. The baby daddy drama is intense there! Their MiL stories make dcums seem sane.

You really don't think sex ed, access to birth control, and access to abortion aren't factors here?

Nope. New poster here. I think it is a much broader educational issue. I am sure many of these poor women were trying to comceive at a young age, in a bad situation. It is a biological urge to want children. And ut is part of the American dream. The women you are talking about do not have college degrees and advancing careers, or husbands that make. a lot of money. Waiting 5-10 years to procreate changes nothing for them. Their life situations are what they are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ugh everyone here is being a little snobby and classist for my liking but of course you're not wrong - these babies aren't as fortunate as the babies here. It's just sad evidence that there is not enough access to or accurate education about birth control and abortion.

But we are the ones that are out of touch with the reality of what most women in this country experience. Not them.

Birth control and abortions? Have you been on baby center? These very poor moms really want these babies. Sadly they picked the wrong baby daddy's. The baby daddy drama is intense there! Their MiL stories make dcums seem sane.

You really don't think sex ed, access to birth control, and access to abortion aren't factors here?

Nope. New poster here. I think it is a much broader educational issue. I am sure many of these poor women were trying to comceive at a young age, in a bad situation. It is a biological urge to want children. And ut is part of the American dream. The women you are talking about do not have college degrees and advancing careers, or husbands that make. a lot of money. Waiting 5-10 years to procreate changes nothing for them. Their life situations are what they are.

I went to high school in a rural area (I'm 32). Out of my graduating class only three of us left the state for college that weren't going to Iowa for the popular Christian college. Most went straight into the workforce it to the local community college. Most married within 2 years and now have young teenagers. A lot of people went to work in family farms or the family business. A lot of the women stay home or work only part time. MLM is rampant - Plexus is very popular. People get buy but it's a very different lifestyle than DC.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The Bargain Hunters board is the only one worth visiting on Babycenter. Make sure you create a new thread introducing yourself and ask where the bargains are. That's how you make friends over there.

LOL!

I found that board when they actually still posted bargains and that was a loong time ago!

I do love it still for entertainment purposes on occasion and for the occasional learning of something. They do a decent thread every year about homemade gifts as well as Amazon bargains.

I also learned about magic cream there for shaving as well as what to do if Cps shows up (hint : legally you don't have to let them in without a warrant)

Another great board for entertainment is the DWIL board. Crazy stories there including jailed MILs

There is also a Girl Scout mom board that is helpful.