Mf gf hit me for the first time (DV in lesbian relationship)

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you deserved the slap. It also sounds like you're a child. Please grow up soon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You lost me when you described your gf as “the more masculine one” instead of simply bigger and stronger. That’s a very straight way of thinking and I now assume you’re a troll.

Perhaps a troll trying to determine if people react differently to violence between lesbian couples versus heterosexual couples?

Agree.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree that you started it and I’d probably slap you too. Frankly, you should’ve just taken the slap and let it go but apparently you fought back physically too.

No domestic violence is ever the answer, but I do feel differently because it’s two women. I’ve been in a fist fight with a woman who outweighed me by a good 60 pounds. It meant nothing, it was a fair fight and I won. (Not a domestic, just a regular old cat fight.)

It is not fair to make unfounded accusations, then think you can flip out and destroy very expensive property with no repercussions. You wanted to control her. Your means of that was to interrogate her, and when you didn’t like the answer, make it impossible for her to use her phone. That’s worse than a smack to me.

Exactly her gf being bigger means nothing. She still started the fight and I've been up bitches way bigger than me before. She shouldn't have started some shit if she wasn't prepared to fight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree that you started it and I’d probably slap you too. Frankly, you should’ve just taken the slap and let it go but apparently you fought back physically too.

No domestic violence is ever the answer, but I do feel differently because it’s two women. I’ve been in a fist fight with a woman who outweighed me by a good 60 pounds. It meant nothing, it was a fair fight and I won. (Not a domestic, just a regular old cat fight.)

It is not fair to make unfounded accusations, then think you can flip out and destroy very expensive property with no repercussions. You wanted to control her. Your means of that was to interrogate her, and when you didn’t like the answer, make it impossible for her to use her phone. That’s worse than a smack to me.

I know I should've walked away after the slap but I was already heated and then when she hit me, it just made it worse. I regret the whole thing. I know I started it which was immature of me but I can't believe she took it as far as she did. I damaged her phone and I would've paid for it once I calmed down and realized what I'd done. She didn't have to beat me up over a material object. I guess that's what is really making me question her and our relationship. ~ OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree that you started it and I’d probably slap you too. Frankly, you should’ve just taken the slap and let it go but apparently you fought back physically too.

No domestic violence is ever the answer, but I do feel differently because it’s two women. I’ve been in a fist fight with a woman who outweighed me by a good 60 pounds. It meant nothing, it was a fair fight and I won. (Not a domestic, just a regular old cat fight.)

It is not fair to make unfounded accusations, then think you can flip out and destroy very expensive property with no repercussions. You wanted to control her. Your means of that was to interrogate her, and when you didn’t like the answer, make it impossible for her to use her phone. That’s worse than a smack to me.

I know I should've walked away after the slap but I was already heated and then when she hit me, it just made it worse. I regret the whole thing. I know I started it which was immature of me but I can't believe she took it as far as she did. I damaged her phone and I would've paid for it once I calmed down and realized what I'd done. She didn't have to beat me up over a material object. I guess that's what is really making me question her and our relationship. ~ OP

But it’s more than a material object. I’d classify this as “she beat me up over a material object” if you accidentally dropped it or stepped on it and she lost her mind. But you accused her of cheating, flipped out when she wouldn’t give you her password, and purposely smashed it when you didn’t get your way—when she didn’t give in to your control.

[Anonymous]

You are psycho. What exactly did you expect when you threw her phone across the room or demanded her password when you have no reason or to trust her. You have issues.

[Anonymous]

What she did was wrong, but that doesn't change what you did wrong as well.

[Anonymous]

Wow. White Knights exist even for lesbians.

Didn't I read somewhere that lesbians have one of the highest rates of domestic abuse of any demographic group?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow. White Knights exist even for lesbians.

Didn't I read somewhere that lesbians have one of the highest rates of domestic abuse of any demographic group?

What's a white knight lmao.
And yes their DV rates are the highest. Women are crazy lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow. White Knights exist even for lesbians.

Didn't I read somewhere that lesbians have one of the highest rates of domestic abuse of any demographic group?

I can see how this would be true. I’ve played softball for 30 years, and even in adult rev leagues, there are a lot of lesbians. I’ve seen/heard of many volatile fights between them. Way more so than my observations of hetero relationships. Also, more drama on FB.

[Anonymous]

You lost a fight you started.

[Anonymous]

Whatever you do, no babies until you go to therapy and work on your anger.

[Anonymous]

OP is a troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree that you started it and I’d probably slap you too. Frankly, you should’ve just taken the slap and let it go but apparently you fought back physically too.

No domestic violence is ever the answer, but I do feel differently because it’s two women. I’ve been in a fist fight with a woman who outweighed me by a good 60 pounds. It meant nothing, it was a fair fight and I won. (Not a domestic, just a regular old cat fight.)

It is not fair to make unfounded accusations, then think you can flip out and destroy very expensive property with no repercussions. You wanted to control her. Your means of that was to interrogate her, and when you didn’t like the answer, make it impossible for her to use her phone. That’s worse than a smack to me.

I know I should've walked away after the slap but I was already heated and then when she hit me, it just made it worse. I regret the whole thing. I know I started it which was immature of me but I can't believe she took it as far as she did. I damaged her phone and I would've paid for it once I calmed down and realized what I'd done. She didn't have to beat me up over a material object. I guess that's what is really making me question her and our relationship. ~ OP

It’s not acceptable to damage things when mad. Both of you need anger management help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree that you started it and I’d probably slap you too. Frankly, you should’ve just taken the slap and let it go but apparently you fought back physically too.

No domestic violence is ever the answer, but I do feel differently because it’s two women. I’ve been in a fist fight with a woman who outweighed me by a good 60 pounds. It meant nothing, it was a fair fight and I won. (Not a domestic, just a regular old cat fight.)

It is not fair to make unfounded accusations, then think you can flip out and destroy very expensive property with no repercussions. You wanted to control her. Your means of that was to interrogate her, and when you didn’t like the answer, make it impossible for her to use her phone. That’s worse than a smack to me.

I know I should've walked away after the slap but I was already heated and then when she hit me, it just made it worse. I regret the whole thing. I know I started it which was immature of me but I can't believe she took it as far as she did. I damaged her phone and I would've paid for it once I calmed down and realized what I'd done. She didn't have to beat me up over a material object. I guess that's what is really making me question her and our relationship. ~ OP

It wasn’t over a material object - it was over your behavior - jealous, controlling, entitled, violent. You need to get a handle on this before you enter another relationship (because this one is over - you can’t come back from a physical fight).