Confession, I would sleep with my boss to further my career

[Anonymous]

I find my boss and several VPs attractive, plus I'm young (early 20s) and single. so....yeah, I might.

[Anonymous]

I only wish I found out about the sugar babies website when I was in college.

Also a former co,worker would send me dirty text. Offered to fly me out to see him....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You may think you're being secretive about sleeping with your boss, but pretty much everyone in the office will figure it out. There'll be rumors behind your back and people will assume that any promotions or conference invitations you get are due to sleeping with the boss. Still, that doesn't deter some women.

We had this scenario at a corporation and everyone did figure it out. A woman with a high school education who was in clerical position suddenly becomes an internal "management consultant" with no particular portfolio. She would travel with exec. or on his behalf and go out to corporate offices and try to "fix" them.

How were we able to figure out her position was not bonafide and earned through merit? First, she was one of the dumbest and most inarticulate individuals one could meet and she had one of the hottest natural bodies ever. She should have been a Playboy Bunny. There was also the body language between them.

Yes, people can tell.

[Anonymous]

Wow! I'm surprised at the amount of women who are saying they would do it. Um, I wouldn't do it for a promotion, as I have been pretty successful at getting those the old fashioned way--hard work; however, I would sleep with a boss that I found attractive with no strings attached.

[Anonymous]

So, like a prostitute?

Just do your work.

[Anonymous]

Yes, people can tell.

+1

There's no secrets at the office. I see people messin' round from time to time and chuckle at how clever and secret they think they're being. Ha.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow! I'm surprised at the amount of women who are saying they would do it. Um, I wouldn't do it for a promotion, as I have been pretty successful at getting those the old fashioned way--hard work; however, I would sleep with a boss that I found attractive with no strings attached.

See it’s not really about sleeping with your boss but with someone who is many many levels above you. Those type of people could with a wave of their hand make you your boss’s boss make 10 times what you make now.

[Anonymous]

For those who say they would do it "the old fashioned-way", through hard work, you are not getting the point. Sleeping your way to the top doesn't work if you are not qualified, or almost qualified, to be there, because it would very obvious.

The fact of the matter is that for any promotion or desirable job move, there are like twenty qualified people who could do the job pretty much equally well. I see it often in my organization where people on short-term consulting contracts vie to become permanent staff members. For every staff position opening, there are dozens of applicants who are all qualified. One girl I know was consulting for a couple of years before her assignment brought her in touch with a supervisor who took a liking to her. She eventually received a staff position. She is as qualified as any other person within the organization, but we choose among many qualified people. It's not like there is one obvious winner among the applicants. It could easily be you, me, or anyone else. I don't blame her for using the assist that was available to her at the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For those who say they would do it "the old fashioned-way", through hard work, you are not getting the point. Sleeping your way to the top doesn't work if you are not qualified, or almost qualified, to be there, because it would very obvious.

The fact of the matter is that for any promotion or desirable job move, there are like twenty qualified people who could do the job pretty much equally well. I see it often in my organization where people on short-term consulting contracts vie to become permanent staff members. For every staff position opening, there are dozens of applicants who are all qualified. One girl I know was consulting for a couple of years before her assignment brought her in touch with a supervisor who took a liking to her. She eventually received a staff position. She is as qualified as any other person within the organization, but we choose among many qualified people. It's not like there is one obvious winner among the applicants. It could easily be you, me, or anyone else. I don't blame her for using the assist that was available to her at the time.

Yup, this happened with someone I know who works at a large, well known, international NGO. She's the only "Economist" on the staff without an actual PhD in Economics. She's also smoking hot and capable. But no way in hell she'd get officially promoted to the Economist pay scale (completely different pay scale from all other employees) without being the apple of her senior boss's eye.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unfortunately I've never had the opportunity to do so.

Um, wrong industry?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I dont knock anyone who sleeps their way to the top. Everyone has to get their piece of the pie. Im really committed to my husband but if I wasn't and the right opportunity came along I would totally do it. Years ago there was a girl who was sleeping with one of the VPS and everyone was sooooo mean to her but it was very clearly stepped in jealously and not moral authority.

Smh.
I want people at my work, man or woman, to receive promotions based upon their ability to do their job. Not for their ability to have sex with the boss.
I do not want to live in a world where sex determines employment.

Unfortunately, that's the real world - and it's been the real world as long as human civilization has existed. On the other hand, if there was a CEO or other senior executive who refused to tolerate the behavior - and actually fired "valuable" VPs who slept with people in their reporting chain - you might see a difference in a particular organization. The vast majority of executives simply turn a blind eye to it.

As a man, I was once offered an opportunity to sleep with a female partner going through a divorce and turned her down. Just the act of declining cost me the opportunity for promotion. No-win situation.