Divorced men with kids: Would you rather date women with kids, or without?

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Anonymous wrote:Either with or without. I am a divorced dad in his early 50s.

Many women my age are "empty nest" or close so they don't want a guy with young children. I don't feel old enough to date empty nest women, and I have no interest in their preretirement lifestyle, so I prefer a woman a bit younger than me (40s) who has school-age kids.

I also date younger women (20s-30s) and I do it knowing if it becomes long-term she will likely want kids and I'm willing to be an "old dad". Lots of older dads on their second families in my UMC neighborhood.

I have found that women my age or even in their 40s who never had children to be a little weird, with one or two exceptions.

You actually get dates with women that are 20-30 ? No way

I dated a guy in his 50s when I was 24. He was nice, loving, but most importantly, rich. He funded my entire lifestyle, introduced me to contacts who helped my career, and gave me good advice. I did ultimately dump him for now-DH, who is only 3 years older than me. As I became more financially stable in my own right, I realized I wanted a man I was actually sexually attracted to and who would have the energy to play with any kids we had.

I'm in my early 50s. Got three kids under 10. I have plenty of energy for them. Any man who is broken and tired in his 50s is that way because he's too lazy to hit the gym.

PP here. My 50-something ex was energetic too, but he had to work on it. Like you, going to the gym was not optional for him and neither was a good night of sleep, coffee in the morning etc. He was very energetic and in shape for a man his age, but an energetic and in shape 50 something-year-old does not compare to even the average late 20 something or early 30 something man who is at the peak of his testosterone levels and youth. You probably don't realize how you have aged no matter how in shape you feel. The difference once I started dating my then-29 year old now-DH was so glaring. Plus, in your 50s, it's only downhill from there. Meanwhile, unless there is a terrible stroke of bad luck, a man in his late 20s or early 30s has not even hit his peak yet.

I think I definitely made the right choice to spend my poor years with an older man who could take care of me and then my building years with a young man who is right on my level physically. Best of all worlds for me and the kids I now have. I would not have left the 50 something-year-old though if I was still broke, lol.

I know I'm stronger than I was in my late 20s/early 30s because I know what I was lifting then, and I do more now. I know I have more strength and energy than 90% of the young guys out there, because they hardly ever exercise. Yeah there are jacked younger guys out there, but not a lot. I also know I have the testosterone levels of a 20-something, or so the doc said when he checked it. I attribute this to diet and exercise, which will also hopefully hold off that "downhill from here" thing.

Ultimately, all I can do is be the best 50-something guy I can be! I owe that to myself to my kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Either with or without. I am a divorced dad in his early 50s.

Many women my age are "empty nest" or close so they don't want a guy with young children. I don't feel old enough to date empty nest women, and I have no interest in their preretirement lifestyle, so I prefer a woman a bit younger than me (40s) who has school-age kids.

I also date younger women (20s-30s) and I do it knowing if it becomes long-term she will likely want kids and I'm willing to be an "old dad". Lots of older dads on their second families in my UMC neighborhood.

I have found that women my age or even in their 40s who never had children to be a little weird, with one or two exceptions.

You actually get dates with women that are 20-30 ? No way

I dated a guy in his 50s when I was 24. He was nice, loving, but most importantly, rich. He funded my entire lifestyle, introduced me to contacts who helped my career, and gave me good advice. I did ultimately dump him for now-DH, who is only 3 years older than me. As I became more financially stable in my own right, I realized I wanted a man I was actually sexually attracted to and who would have the energy to play with any kids we had.

I'm in my early 50s. Got three kids under 10. I have plenty of energy for them. Any man who is broken and tired in his 50s is that way because he's too lazy to hit the gym.

PP here. My 50-something ex was energetic too, but he had to work on it. Like you, going to the gym was not optional for him and neither was a good night of sleep, coffee in the morning etc. He was very energetic and in shape for a man his age, but an energetic and in shape 50 something-year-old does not compare to even the average late 20 something or early 30 something man who is at the peak of his testosterone levels and youth. You probably don't realize how you have aged no matter how in shape you feel. The difference once I started dating my then-29 year old now-DH was so glaring. Plus, in your 50s, it's only downhill from there. Meanwhile, unless there is a terrible stroke of bad luck, a man in his late 20s or early 30s has not even hit his peak yet.

I think I definitely made the right choice to spend my poor years with an older man who could take care of me and then my building years with a young man who is right on my level physically. Best of all worlds for me and the kids I now have. I would not have left the 50 something-year-old though if I was still broke, lol.

I know I'm stronger than I was in my late 20s/early 30s because I know what I was lifting then, and I do more now. I know I have more strength and energy than 90% of the young guys out there, because they hardly ever exercise. Yeah there are jacked younger guys out there, but not a lot. I also know I have the testosterone levels of a 20-something, or so the doc said when he checked it. I attribute this to diet and exercise, which will also hopefully hold off that "downhill from here" thing.

Ultimately, all I can do is be the best 50-something guy I can be! I owe that to myself to my kids.

Sure, everyone's exceptional online. All you have proved with this post is that you're delusional and in denial. I am 29 and if I had a dollar for every old man who looks every bit his age and then some, but claims to be "very youthful," I would be very, very rich. You are in la la land.

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Anonymous wrote:Either with or without. I am a divorced dad in his early 50s.

Many women my age are "empty nest" or close so they don't want a guy with young children. I don't feel old enough to date empty nest women, and I have no interest in their preretirement lifestyle, so I prefer a woman a bit younger than me (40s) who has school-age kids.

I also date younger women (20s-30s) and I do it knowing if it becomes long-term she will likely want kids and I'm willing to be an "old dad". Lots of older dads on their second families in my UMC neighborhood.

I have found that women my age or even in their 40s who never had children to be a little weird, with one or two exceptions.

You actually get dates with women that are 20-30 ? No way

I dated a guy in his 50s when I was 24. He was nice, loving, but most importantly, rich. He funded my entire lifestyle, introduced me to contacts who helped my career, and gave me good advice. I did ultimately dump him for now-DH, who is only 3 years older than me. As I became more financially stable in my own right, I realized I wanted a man I was actually sexually attracted to and who would have the energy to play with any kids we had.

I'm in my early 50s. Got three kids under 10. I have plenty of energy for them. Any man who is broken and tired in his 50s is that way because he's too lazy to hit the gym.

PP here. My 50-something ex was energetic too, but he had to work on it. Like you, going to the gym was not optional for him and neither was a good night of sleep, coffee in the morning etc. He was very energetic and in shape for a man his age, but an energetic and in shape 50 something-year-old does not compare to even the average late 20 something or early 30 something man who is at the peak of his testosterone levels and youth. You probably don't realize how you have aged no matter how in shape you feel. The difference once I started dating my then-29 year old now-DH was so glaring. Plus, in your 50s, it's only downhill from there. Meanwhile, unless there is a terrible stroke of bad luck, a man in his late 20s or early 30s has not even hit his peak yet.

I think I definitely made the right choice to spend my poor years with an older man who could take care of me and then my building years with a young man who is right on my level physically. Best of all worlds for me and the kids I now have. I would not have left the 50 something-year-old though if I was still broke, lol.

I know I'm stronger than I was in my late 20s/early 30s because I know what I was lifting then, and I do more now. I know I have more strength and energy than 90% of the young guys out there, because they hardly ever exercise. Yeah there are jacked younger guys out there, but not a lot. I also know I have the testosterone levels of a 20-something, or so the doc said when he checked it. I attribute this to diet and exercise, which will also hopefully hold off that "downhill from here" thing.

Ultimately, all I can do is be the best 50-something guy I can be! I owe that to myself to my kids.

Sure, everyone's exceptional online. All you have proved with this post is that you're delusional and in denial. I am 29 and if I had a dollar for every old man who looks every bit his age and then some, but claims to be "very youthful," I would be very, very rich. You are in la la land.

Another 50s guy: you have no experiences to contribute and I’d say you should check your app to see you are.