Homework taking 8 hours?
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Anonymous
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My dd was taking forever to do her homework the first year she had her phone. I take her phone while she does homework, and I encourage her to do homework in the kitchen and surprise surprise she is completing homework faster.
Letting your kid do homework while keeping her phone is similar to parents letting a kid do homework while watching tv when we were kids. |
Anonymous
| This is not normal. My daughter is in a scholarship program at school and she does her homework before she leaves every day. Occasionally she will study for a test in the evenings, but she spends most of her after school hours playing her flute. |
Anonymous
+1 It is not at all rare for inattentive ADHD to go undiagnosed until high school (or later) if a kid is highly intelligent & hard working. This is particularly common among females. https://www.chesapeakeadd.com/giftedadhd-high-achievers-with-adhd-ch https://www.chesapeakeadd.com/working-with-gifted-adults-with-adhd https://www.chesapeakeadd.com/adhd-often-missed-in-girls https://www.chesapeakeadd.com/women-and-adhd |
Anonymous
| Another vote for ADHD inattentive |
Anonymous
Not necessarily. I have SEVERE ADD - Inattentive. I was regularly up until the middle of the night with HS course work. My senior year I took 5 different AP subjects and got 5's on them all (so it wasn't an intelligence issue) but I had terrible focus. I was not diagnosed until I was almost done with college, when one of my friends pointed out that while I understood material, I clearly jumped around topics as I spoke, zoned out, and otherwise regularly demonstrated a lack of focus. It was not regularly apparent before because everyone just assumed that I was distracted because I understood the material and was bored in HS. I just compensated through school with a high IQ, but I would have really excelled if people had realized that I had ADD earlier. |
Anonymous
Do you always try to diagnose people over the internet? Amazing. |
Anonymous
Agree!! |
Anonymous
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OP, do you actually know what she's doing?
If she is actually working, is she doing a lot of unnecessary labor, like taking detailed notes on her textbooks (essentially rewriting them vs. jotting down a point or two)? I don't jump to LD. I teach college, and I have had students over the years who are so anxious about their grades they add work -- it almost becomes ritualistic to guard against failure. When I started, I was amazed at the study skills of these students, but it didn't always pay off, either. |
Anonymous
Um, no. If the kid is truly ADHD, you dont' necessarily need meds but you do need accommodations. Do you seriously think 8 hours of homework per night is ok?? No way. |
Anonymous
Same story for me, except it never occurred to me that I might have ADHD until my kids were diagnosed. I went to rigorous privates and a top college and did hours and hours of homework every night, by which I mean I spent a little time actually executing and the rest of the time day dreaming. My life was easier the more it was organized by outside factors like sports and classes with a ton of nightly homework. I was very compliant so if I had to do something, i did it. But long term-projects, even writing assignments, total lack of focus, stress, always catching up. To the parents of kids like that, I do wish someone had picked up on this and helped me out. I managed to get good grades, do well in college and even get advanced degrees. The fact that I wasted sooooo much time in the process isn't even what bothers me now (though in all honestly, I spent much more time day dreaming than studying). It's that life after college is really unstructured and really hard and I didn't have the skills to cope. Basically, I was "fine" (slow and very anxious) relying on my smarts until I lost the structure that school provides. It is very hard for me to juggle normal life. |
Anonymous
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OP, Can you tell us a little about her MS?
One of our kids went to a private HS the other to a competitive public magnet. We saw similar amounts of effort/homework while they caught up/learned what they needed to do to keep up. |
Anonymous
| OP here, thanks for the advice. She's been at the same Big 7 since 4th grade and this issue has just recently emerged. I recently did go ahead and get for screened (from a reputable doctor) for ADHD, and the doctor said she has very little chance of it, and her scores were abnormally good. Maybe it has to do with anxiety? I switched her to downstairs this week so we'll see how that works. |
Anonymous
| My daughter is at a rigorous private and spends 2-3hrs max on HW. Most nights it is 2hrs. |
Anonymous
Not the PP you are referring but everyone else seems content with diagnosing the OP's kid with ADD. I disagree that course load takes that long, but it is insane how overly diagnosed ADD is. You need to teach kids how to focus. No one does that anymore. There is no determiniation and grit. We live in a world on constant immediate gratification and our brains are not given anything to learn how to focus. There are no more study skills classes. No more looking thru encyclopedias and card catalogues. Kids have all this immediate access on computers and they have 10 windows open with half on social media. There is no more focus. The kids aren't born this way. It is learned. |
Anonymous
You are incredibly smug for someone so ignorant. |