Went to my bridal dress fitting with future MIL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She said something positive. She wasn't warm or gushy, and it is disappointing that she said "beautiful" to a stranger and not to you. Texting was also rude, but unless she literally gave you no attention, I'd write that off as a wash.

But good things are good, so let's look at the good things:
1) She came with you.
2) She said something positive to you.
3) She is involved with the wedding, and (from what we can tell from this post), not OVERLY inolved which is a good thing.

Be sure to manage your expectations. It seems like what she can give is cordiality and a general good will.

It seems like you won't be super-close and best-friendy. That's OK--I'm sure you have plenty of family and friends in your life with whom you ARE very close.

Be cordial and have a general good will toward her, and you will be fine. Get your fix of close, womanly friendship/family relations elsewhere.

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[Anonymous]

She's not your mother so she's not going to go overboard in either direction unless you have a very close relationship with you. Picking out a bridal dress is a mother/daughter thing (or sister, MOH, best friend) not a MIL thing. Cut her some slack.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I put myself through college working at a bridal shop.

Never. Ever. Bring your MIL to your wedding dress fitting. Period.

Good advice! I went alone when I bought my dress. I didn't want to hear other opinions of what THEY thought what would look good on me.

[Anonymous]

Is she by chance a southern Mom? I’m from the Deep South. That’s something I would say if I didn’t like the dress but wanted to be polite.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What a weird thing to do, to bring your MIL.
Op, you deserve whatever happens
Maybe if you're a saint, you bring her, doing the best deed of your life
If being a part of it would bring her great joy
But if you're committed to being a saint, you don't then go looking to find a reason to criticize her. That just doesn't make sense.

Are these supposed to be song lyrics?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I get it. I actually feel bad that I didn't invite my MIL to go dress shopping with me as she doesn't have a daughter. I would feel the same way (and my MIL is just as passive aggressive as yours). Not the worst MIL in the world, but be prepared for lots of PA remarks. Some mothers just looooove their sons!

Congratulations!

Ugh. I have this kind of MIL too. Sadly she doesn't realize she is shooting herself in the foot; we see her less and less these days

+100. My MIL is a passive aggressive and very envious bitch. Not only to me, but to every woman in her life, including her daughters. I keep her at arm's length, which means she misses out on A LOT of things she would otherwise have been invited to. Clearly, it's worth it to her because she's still a bitch after all these years.

You don’t sound that great either.

[Anonymous]

Big mistake.

[Anonymous]

Someday you will have a real problem.

[Anonymous]

Are you fat? That kind of comment makes me think you are fat.

[Anonymous]

Some people aren't naturally full of superlatives all day long.

That said, for whomevers wedding dress no matter what it looked like I'd call it beautiful

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you an invalid? Why couldn't you go alone?
Need adoration, attention?

Wow. Why so nasty? I think OP like most brides likes to share the excitement of wedding prep. I'm thinking you don't get any attention.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What a weird thing to do, to bring your MIL.
Op, you deserve whatever happens
Maybe if you're a saint, you bring her, doing the best deed of your life
If being a part of it would bring her great joy
But if you're committed to being a saint, you don't then go looking to find a reason to criticize her. That just doesn't make sense.

WHAT????? Why is it weird to bring your MIL? I adore mine.

[Anonymous]

Page 3 and OP never came back. Classic

[Anonymous]

OP, nobody will ever feel the same about your wedding and related stuff as you feel. It's most special to you. For others - not as much, keep your expectations low.

[Anonymous]

MILs can't win.

I think she did not like the dress (her personal opinion), but she said a nice thing so to not hurt your feelings (thoughtful and polite).

MILs know they are walking on egg shells so she might have been playing it safe.