Do men love harder than women in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

Women by nature are inherently materialistic. They've been genetically programmed to protect their offspring. Falling in love and finding a mate for them is a stepping stone to a. Finding a partner to procreate with and b. Provide for the child. As such they look at their partners as providers and fathers to their children. It doesn't matter if the man is the most brilliant mathematician ever, if he isn't a suitable father, a woman will not want to be with him long term. If a man is the kindest most loving person ever but works at Walmart, a woman will not want to be with him either. It's a delicate balance between having the emotional intelligence to be a good dad and partner and the $$$ to provide that makes a woman fall in love.

I've seen too many women dump rich jerks and poor diamond-in-the-doughs because they didn't meet all the criteria.

Women do not love a man just because he's awesome.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Women file for divorce because they actually put work into a marriage. When you work, work, work and the other person is just sitting there with their balls out not actively working on the problem you get frustrated and decide it's time to move on.

That was nothing like my marriage, which was one long list of demands from my exDW. As each demand was satisfied, two more took its place.

Mmmm. You are in the extreme minority, to put it mildly.

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[Anonymous]

I think women fall in love more easily, but when men fall, they fall hard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think women fall in love more easily, but when men fall, they fall hard.

Statistics say men fall in love faster than women though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seems men often seem much more devastated when a relationship is over.

Because women have supportive friends and men don't.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Seems men often seem much more devastated when a relationship is over.

Because women have supportive friends and men don't.

Alternatively, women are more glad to be single again.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Women file for divorce because they actually put work into a marriage. When you work, work, work and the other person is just sitting there with their balls out not actively working on the problem you get frustrated and decide it's time to move on.

That was nothing like my marriage, which was one long list of demands from my exDW. As each demand was satisfied, two more took its place.

Mmmm. You are in the extreme minority, to put it mildly.

I have several friends who had the exact same issues with their ex-wives. Plenty of NPD and BPD types around, especially in the DC area.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Women file for divorce because they actually put work into a marriage. When you work, work, work and the other person is just sitting there with their balls out not actively working on the problem you get frustrated and decide it's time to move on.

That was nothing like my marriage, which was one long list of demands from my exDW. As each demand was satisfied, two more took its place.

Mmmm. You are in the extreme minority, to put it mildly.

I have several friends who had the exact same issues with their ex-wives. Plenty of NPD and BPD types around, especially in the DC area.

Extreme minority, again.

[Anonymous]

Divorced men remarry more frequently, but one reason is they have a much larger pool to choose from. I am 51 and divorced and routinely date women ages 23-54. I expect that when I remarry it will be to a 40 year old woman who wants to have a baby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Divorced men remarry more frequently, but one reason is they have a much larger pool to choose from. I am 51 and divorced and routinely date women ages 23-54. I expect that when I remarry it will be to a 40 year old woman who wants to have a baby.

I truly doubt that. The fact is women are always going to have more dating options. If your ex wife wanted to date 23 year olds, she would have no issue with it. It wouldn't even really feel like an accomplishment, as it does for you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My observation as an old married lady - women are more likely to stick with a guy and try to make it work, even with doubts or lukewarm feelings. They are much more prone to "talking themselves into" a guy and projecting potential and optimistic feelings onto the relationship. However, my male friends were always all-or-nothing with women. If they were dating someone, but not in love, they were much more likely to break things off or act like an ass until the woman broke it off. However, once the guy found "the one" he was hooked for life. This is why so many women get confused by men who won't commit, or send mixed signals. Honey, he just doesn't want to commit TO YOU. I watched multiple male friends do a total 180 as soon as they found their future wife. Women see every man they date as a potential husband.

Wow. Too real.

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All the way this.

My fiancé wasn't exactly a player, but he always did he breaking up and never got too invested, even in long-term relationships. He proposed to me within six months of dating, and we were inseparable almost from the day we met.

Don't believe the hype, girls. If a guy is into you, you will know!!

[Anonymous]

Men can come on super strong. They aren't in love, they just want sex.

[Anonymous]

Yes. My guy friends are always way more heartbroken at the end of a relationship that female friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men can come on super strong. They aren't in love, they just want sex.

A lie. If we want a relationship, we want one with sex in it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think so. Women file for 70% of divorces, men only 30%. Men are much more likely to remarry afterward (searching for a new woman), women are much more likely to remain single, despite having comparatively greater options. Men have been observed to say "I love you" much earlier in a relationship than women. Men will go to work and toil away to have a wife who stays home- you'd be hard pressed to find a woman who would do the reverse.

Women do not have "comparatively greater options" -- at least, not once you're in your 30s. A lot of women never remarry partly because as you get older, men become increasingly scarce due to the gender gap in longevity. This doesn't just affect elderly. Women begin to be outnumbered men by around 30.