S/O Are you someone's "one that got away"?

[Anonymous]

Yes, I am. Was my first high school boyfriend. We dated through junior year. Broke up and got back together while I was midway through college and he was in Marines. Broke because he cheated and his friends kept telling him I was fat. He married the first chick he dated after we broke up. New wife stalked me for a while because she knew I was still the one. Then ol' boy and stalker wife named their daughter after me. Super weird. He's now divorced and he sends me facebook messages once or twice a month that I completely ignore. We were over 20 years ago and he still thinks I'm going to eventually leave my DH for him.

[Anonymous]

I am. It's been almost 20 years and he's had a child and failed marriage since then. I was in a 3 year separation from my husband at the time, so I understand WHY I wasn't good right then. But I also know he still regrets letting me get away.

[Anonymous]

Yes, we worked together 20 years ago. He was divorced and 38 and I was 22 right out of college. He was a "hot commodidty" with the ladies and dated a lot. I can't say we had an affair because neither one of us was married, but there was one woman that he dated frequently who he eventually married (after we broke up.) He was worried about the age difference between us and he had a son that he was fighting for full custody. We both saw other people but I wanted to be with him exclusively. This relationship lasted 3 years. I changed jobs and moved. We stayed friends. I got married. He has told me on several occasions that he should have been braver and commited to me.

[Anonymous]

Yes I had an on again/off again relationship in college with a guy who was my first love and he told me several times I am his 'one that got away'. He also periodically contacts me out of the blue. The week before I was supposed to get married he sent me a message asking me not too. Then during my first year of marriage a mutual friend told me that my ex's girlfriend left him because she was tired of being compared to me and she had saw him looking on my facebook page several times. We are mid 30s now and he has never married.

[Anonymous]

I am. He recently admitted it to me. I consider him the one that got away too, but I would never admit that to him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, we worked together 20 years ago. He was divorced and 38 and I was 22 right out of college. He was a "hot commodidty" with the ladies and dated a lot. I can't say we had an affair because neither one of us was married, but there was one woman that he dated frequently who he eventually married (after we broke up.) He was worried about the age difference between us and he had a son that he was fighting for full custody. We both saw other people but I wanted to be with him exclusively. This relationship lasted 3 years. I changed jobs and moved. We stayed friends. I got married. He has told me on several occasions that he should have been braver and commited to me.

Do you wish he had?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I am. Was my first high school boyfriend. We dated through junior year. Broke up and got back together while I was midway through college and he was in Marines. Broke because he cheated and his friends kept telling him I was fat. He married the first chick he dated after we broke up. New wife stalked me for a while because she knew I was still the one. Then ol' boy and stalker wife named their daughter after me. Super weird. He's now divorced and he sends me facebook messages once or twice a month that I completely ignore. We were over 20 years ago and he still thinks I'm going to eventually leave my DH for him.

Whaaaaat. Seriously?!?

[Anonymous]

How would I know if I was someone's one that got away?

[Anonymous]

I have no idea. There were some guys I broke up with along the way who took it hard at the time, but that doesn't mean they're still hung up on me today. I hope I'm not anyone's "one that got away," they were all good guys and I'd like to think they've moved on, found something even better with someone else, and are happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have no idea. There were some guys I broke up with along the way who took it hard at the time, but that doesn't mean they're still hung up on me today. I hope I'm not anyone's "one that got away," they were all good guys and I'd like to think they've moved on, found something even better with someone else, and are happy.

Good way to put it.

[Anonymous]

Two men. An artist who is now and then homeless. His sister and I are still FB friends. And a local politician who got married a couple months after I dumped him, but kept texting me until Spitzer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes several.

In fact one time I was out at a nightclub and this guy from my class who I had spoken to a handful of times arrived and started buying me drinks. In his drunkeness he told me "I've always been in love with you" and I thought he was joking and started laughing and the look on his face.... All I can say is it was very obvious that what he said meant a lot to him, poor thing.


Men are crazy and can fall in love with only the physical so this really made me realize what an effect I've had on people. I know I'm an attractive lady but this kid was IN LOVE and it's incredible how you can affect people without even really knowing them well. Men are weird that way- very surface.

Just because someone had a crush on you does not make you the one who got away. Doubt he even remembers you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I am. Was my first high school boyfriend. We dated through junior year. Broke up and got back together while I was midway through college and he was in Marines. Broke because he cheated and his friends kept telling him I was fat. He married the first chick he dated after we broke up. New wife stalked me for a while because she knew I was still the one. Then ol' boy and stalker wife named their daughter after me. Super weird. He's now divorced and he sends me facebook messages once or twice a month that I completely ignore. We were over 20 years ago and he still thinks I'm going to eventually leave my DH for him.

Whaaaaat. Seriously?!?

That happened to a friend of mine. Wife initiates divorce, remarries, has a son, gives son the same name as ex-husband. She also started contacting ex-husband right after son was born, it was all very odd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes several.

In fact one time I was out at a nightclub and this guy from my class who I had spoken to a handful of times arrived and started buying me drinks. In his drunkeness he told me "I've always been in love with you" and I thought he was joking and started laughing and the look on his face.... All I can say is it was very obvious that what he said meant a lot to him, poor thing.


Men are crazy and can fall in love with only the physical so this really made me realize what an effect I've had on people. I know I'm an attractive lady but this kid was IN LOVE and it's incredible how you can affect people without even really knowing them well. Men are weird that way- very surface.

+1
Made me lose faith in love, for this very reason, even though it is flattering. Real love is never superficial. Maybe I'm too idealistic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I am. Was my first high school boyfriend. We dated through junior year. Broke up and got back together while I was midway through college and he was in Marines. Broke because he cheated and his friends kept telling him I was fat. He married the first chick he dated after we broke up. New wife stalked me for a while because she knew I was still the one. Then ol' boy and stalker wife named their daughter after me. Super weird. He's now divorced and he sends me facebook messages once or twice a month that I completely ignore. We were over 20 years ago and he still thinks I'm going to eventually leave my DH for him.

Whaaaaat. Seriously?!?

That happened to a friend of mine. Wife initiates divorce, remarries, has a son, gives son the same name as ex-husband. She also started contacting ex-husband right after son was born, it was all very odd.

Odd yes, but for a spouse to accept naming their child after the ex or their husband or wife is more than odd.