Dealing with Social Exclusion

[Anonymous]

Maybe a new school is in order but while you contemplate that, try and carve some time out with the other girls with activities that are fun.

My son went through something similar and we addressed it by doing some really cool things with 2 boys at a time. We hosted other boys for paintball, Raven's Game, Orioles Game, a couple of concerts and other cool activities. Amazing that once the ice was broken with these boys, my son was accepted by the group.

Not sure the types of activities but try and help your daughter become "cooler" if that makes sense.

[Anonymous]

Put her in another school ASAP. You need to do it soon so she can see that the problem is the other girls not her.

If you keep her in that environment she will start to think it's herself that is the problem.

Don waste time talking to the counselor, teachers, etc, that just prolongs it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So she attended this school all of 6th grade? How were her relationships with other girls in her class in grades 1-5? If she had problems then, perhaps she is a bit quirky and you need to figure how to help her social skills. If she had good friendships and social skills in elementary school and it just started in this new school, there is a strong probability one or two girls feels threatened by her and are purposely making her life miserable. I would homeschool her before I kept sending her there. It is such a small school the teachers and admin must know what is going on. If you do think about homeschooling go to well trained minds forum and they will tell you all about homeschooling and resources.
If the mean girls have enough power to turn all the other girls against her, there isn't much hope. Have her read Blubber by Judy Bloom about a domineering girl who turns the class against another girl.

+1. I am so sorry your daughter is going through this. It sounds so horrible for her. What have the teachers been doing to help her?

At some point, you will have to take a hard look at her social skills. Not saying the mean kids are justified in excluding her, but if she is quirky you may want to help her so she doesn't face situations like this again.

[Anonymous]

+1 on new school. A school where kids are allowed by teachers/admin to laugh about another kid having no friends is not an environment where you want your kid. That kind of crap would not have been tolerated at my kids DCPS middle school.

[Anonymous]

It's weird it started late in the school year last year. What happened or changed?

Is there something that makes your daughter stand out?

[Anonymous]

Pull her out and home school or put her in another school.

I was your daughter at a small private school and it never got better.

[Anonymous]

Hugs to you and your daughter, OP. Please make sure she knows none of it is her fault. Sometimes people get the bad luck of being on the receiving end of bullying. She will move on and thrive elsewhere, but those kids will always be people capable inside themselves of being bullies. Let us know what happens as you go along?

[Anonymous]

Omg, this was common in my 7th grade school (decades ago). I was the one everyone picked on, until they moved onto someone new. My defense was just to keep being nice. Not overly sweet, just pretend it was not happening. But those were the days before social media and the internet. So at least I was safe at home. Is she getting bullied? Teased online?

With such a small school, that is really tough. I hope the conselor can help.