SAHM planning divorce in 3-4 years. What should I do?

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Anonymous wrote:You're not really at all becoming more self sufficient so he probably doesn't believe you're serious. You're not working , musing about advanced degrees, and dilly dallying until your family can support you. If you actually went and got a job and put your child in care he would probably snap to attention.

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Anonymous wrote:And this, again, is why men should think twice about marriage.

When a person is planning to divorce 3 - 4 years in advance and strategizing about it that smacks of premeditated fraud.
Does your husband know about the impending divorce? If not then you are misleading him. He is making long term decisions based on a fraudulent claim that you intend to stay married to him. Would he be willing to move to your home town IF he know that the moment he does you are going to divorce him? Does HE have a support system in place (family and friends) in that town? Why do you think it is equitable for you to, under false pretense, entice him to relocate only to them immediately deprive him of his family?

I'm with you, posts like this really irk me. This isn't a freaking football match, if you are planning on divorcing him FOUR years down the line, at least talk to your husband about how unhappy you feel and start working together towards a solution.

OP here and we have talked over and over and over. I gave him plenty of warning that I am getting my life together, becoming self-sufficient, and if he doesn't start treating me well I will leave. So it's not going to be coming completely out of the blue.

As for depriving him of his family, he has no interest in being a part of a family.

In that case you better pray he doesn't catch wind of your plans and disappear. Then you'll really be up a creek.