My soon to be ex-Dh's girlfriend keeps posting pics of my kids on Facebook. Can I stop it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ask your dh to tell her she needs to stop for privacy reasons. If they refuse the court will enforce it.

No. The court will likely not enforce it. And she ends up looking like the crazy ex for trying. OP, I get that it's frustrating. My kids have a wonderful stepmom who I adore. She used (they are grown now) to post their pictures on FB with things like "Our amazing kiddos" all the time. I had to stop looking at her posts because it made me nuts.

You give up a lot of control when you divorce. And even more when your ex enters into a new relationship. You have to let this stuff go or you'll make yourself crazy.

[Anonymous]

Courts have adopted new laws and procedures regarding social media. While I think OP can urge her dh to get them taken down family court will look at this. What you say on social media can also affect your divorce, and could end up giving you more leverage with the judge. Simply talk to your lawyer. Him posting photos with a new gf can also affect him. That's the first thing the lawyers tell you not to do. OP copy everything for your file and make your lawyer aware of everything. My friend went through a divorce and it was in the court papers he was not to leave the kids alone with his gf ever. She wasn't allowed to stay the night over if the kids were visiting. Now if he married her that would have been a different matter.

[Anonymous]

OP Google social media and divorce. This is very much a part of family court today.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok so OP, this is super irritating. I'd be really annoyed!

But can we try to see this from another angle really quickly? This woman is in your kid's lives whether you like it or not. And she is showing affection for your children by posting their picture. I know it's not your ideal way to show this, but if you zoom out a little, it shows some good intentions. She loves them and wants to brag about them to her own friends! This is one good step towards being a decent step-mother.

I know this isn't the whole picture of what's happening in your life with your ex and this woman. But for your kids, strain to see the good in her.

If your ex is so difficult, this might be the least of your worries. Save your time and energy for providing the most loving and safe home for your kids.

She doesn't know if the new gf is posting the kids' pics on FB out of affection or manipulation. My DD was all over her STBX stepmom's FB and she was not affectionate or even considerate to DD privately. Even my ex admitted that it was simply part of his wife's fake SM persona that she was a great "bonus mom".