Just want to say f*** it

[Anonymous]

I'd stay home. I'm sorry you are going through this. You will be happy again one day though that's hard to see now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This might be long.

I have posted on various boards about my marriage - how horrible it was and how horrible it's been since I left. My husband won't give me any money for the kids, he's being a total jerk in communication, we can't reach an agreement about anything, etc....

Well, my mom today told me how upset she is that our upcoming beach vacation won't just be a "happy family" scenario. Like, jeez mom, sorry my marriage ended - it must be so hard for you! She went on to defend my husband, including his unwillingness to pay support, by saying it was probably a real surprise for him to find us gone. (He cheated on me, was emotionally abusive, financially controlling, and had a drinking problem - she knows all of this).

Here's the dilemma: my husband is coming to the states in a few days and will be staying for three weeks. He's supposed to keep the kids for most of that time. Meanwhile, I'm supposed to go to the beach with my mom - STBX will stay nearby with the kids and come and go. I'm so disgusted with him, with the situation, and now with her, that I'm tempted just to drop the kids off and stay home until I'm supposed to pick them up again.

WWYD?

Don't do that to your kids. Suck it up and find a way to make it tolerable.

I strongly disagree. I think it would be very confusing for the kids to see Mom and Dad together. It's not good for anyone

[Anonymous]

OP here. Thanks for the support. I think I'll hang out for a couple of days and leave after the party - turns out my new job needs me to start this week! (Wink wink.) Can't say sh** esp as she knows he's not paying - and she's not either!

[Anonymous]

I think if u do that ur mum will have him stay with them and have a nice big family vacay where they shit talk you. Sorry. Don't do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think if u do that ur mum will have him stay with them and have a nice big family vacay where they shit talk you. Sorry. Don't do it.

Knowing my mom this is probably true.