Why is he still texting?
![[Post New]](/jforum/templates/default/images/icon_minipost_new.gif){kind=icon}
Anonymous
| Block him. He's a creep and you have been dumb in responding to his messages. Why be nice to a creep? |
Anonymous
| I think that secretly you would enjoy "extreme kink", but you're afraid to try anything new. That is the reason you continue to respond. |
Anonymous
|
Here is my take:
This guy was being open and candid with you, knowing that no one goes from plain vanilla to extreme BDSM right away. And in fact most people who are in the BDSM community can function and play in the vanilla community just fine. You seem to like this guy outside of this, and maybe his openness and honesty was appealing. He is NOT expecting you to participate, but perhaps have an open mind to trying new things outside of plain old missionary. If you're totally closed to anything other than lights off guy on top 5 minute sessions, then you should say so and stop contacting him. If you like him, what harm is there in getting to know him better? For the record, when DH and I started dating we were pretty vanilla, have moved on to just beyond 50 shades territory over 20 years....nothing fast, sometimes I was faster than DH, sometimes he was. This small piece of our relationship has helped forge a deeper bond and trust, helps us be better parents, and everyone is safe and happy. |
Anonymous
|
You need to NOT respond to him at all.
Stop. You are causing him to "keep hope" because you keep responding. Again, STOP. |
Anonymous
| We need to know what the kink is to respond adequately. |
Anonymous
|
Just say, "I'm not interested in further contact, as we are not compatible. I wish you well in your search for a partner. Please refrain from contacting me further."
If he contacts you again beyond, "Ok, best of luck" or whatever, block him. Make a firm boundary and keep it. That is not rude. |
Anonymous
+1 
|