Do you ever have those moments where you hate your family? - Kids, Husband?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have never hated my kids, but husband, sure. If it weren't for the kids, I would have dumped him a long time ago.

I didn't know that this post was about you - do you want a pat on the back for not hating your kids? Start your own thread maybe?

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OP asked a question. The PP answered it. How is that making the thread about her?

Thanks,PP. Yes, I answered the op's question honestly. She asked if others hate their kids and husband and I said only my husband elicits my hate

OP's question was a rhetorical question...

[Anonymous]

So I feel like no matter who the feeling is toward, it is a terrible feeling to harbor, and I'm so sorry you are feeling this way. I hope just for your own sake, the moments are few and far between. I think honesty is a good thing, and I give you much credit for reaching out, and I too, hope you are able to talk to someone one on one about this. Can you ask your husband to help more with the discipline? Just freeing yourself of a little bit of the responsibility might free you from feeling like you are having to do it all? My experience has been that I can tell my daughter something all day long, and until her dad tells her....she's not going to listen (and if I'm honest....I was a little like that with my own mom growing up).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have never hated my kids, but husband, sure. If it weren't for the kids, I would have dumped him a long time ago.

+100

[Anonymous]

Yes. Mostly husband.

Sucks being the bad guy all the time.

[Anonymous]

My sister felt like this. She left her husband and kids and moved overseas. She's had a life full of adventure, but no relationship with her kids and a tenuous one with her family of origin.

Strangely, her ex is a wonderful father and pretty upstanding guy. He's allowed my family to continue to have a relationship with his kids and the kids are well adjusted teens and young adults.

I'm not a big believer in suffering for the sake of suffering, but I do think we choose our happiness. Even in the most crappy of circumstances. My sister was unhappy with her life's choices. She chose to run and leave them behind for her own happiness. I think she's pretty happy, but I also think she's selfish and could have found happiness without abandoning her children.

[Anonymous]

I have teenage girls and they definitely can be bi**hes sometimes. I totally get you on that one. They are good overall, but man, they can push my buttons. I just try to take more me time to deal. I never used to exercise, and now running is the best way for me to get out of the house and away from teenage angst. I guess that's one positive.

[Anonymous]

Are you me? I feel like this today...?

[Anonymous]

Learn to be grateful. If you, your husband, or kids had a serious illness or disability, you'd wish your current life back in an instant and be overjoyed for it.

Instead of focusing inward look outward. Maybe volunteer at a hospital or org that serves such people and families.

You got it made. Who needs meds to deal with normal family issues?

[Anonymous]

Are you seeing a counselor? Start taking care of yourself better. You can't be everything to everyone. Start meditating or get better sleep. If your DH is an a-hole it might be rubbing off on the kids. Try to salvage your relationship with your kids first. Teach kindness and respect so you aren't the bad guy who has to do all the dirty work. If you are angry all the time, people might just be tuning you out.