Would you get sad or angry if you saw pictures of your ex on Facebook with women 20+ years younger?

[Anonymous]

OP, I'm pretty sure the younger girl is probably a bit embarrassed to be paraded around by her sugar daddy on Facebook like that. That would make me feel like a piece of meat, and I'd tell that old man he's gross.

[Anonymous]

Well, as a former wife, it wouldn't be my problem or my business unless it was negatively impacting my kids. I've never been divorced and am happily married now so...

When thinking of my ex boyfriends, by the time we were broken up, we were over. Done. Overdone probably. I might have been a little curious to get a glimpse of who they were dating but beyond that...meh.

[Anonymous]

I saw pictures of my ex with someone older than me and it disgusted me.

[Anonymous]

It would all currently depend on if I had any residual feelings for him still.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would you get sad or angry or would you not even care?

I wouldn't care because I would know that he found them on Craigs List Casual Encounters.

Seriously.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My husband's ex was furious I was 10 years younger. To bad... she should have kept him.

She had him when he was young. Like Ivana Trump. Melania got a dirty old wrinkled prune. ugh!

He'll be working - and failing - all the rest of his life to keep up with her and that's it's own punishment. Stay off his Facebook - you must have better things to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sad and angry. Humiliated. Obviously the context is relevant - but unless it is our daughter or other close relative/family friend I would prefer the photos not be posted on Facebook.
What kind of pics are we talking about Op?

Oops I didn't see the "ex" in the question. Changing answer:
Disgusted. Embarrassed for him. Don't look at ex's Facebook.

Um, I don't think a man, who is dating a younger hottie, is embarrassed to be seen with her.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My husband's ex was furious I was 10 years younger. To bad... she should have kept him.

Same for me. My DH's ex was/is furious he married a woman 9 years younger than him and we had a child together. She is overweight and bat s*** crazy and I am glad they divorced. My DH is a wonderful man and she is angry he is happy with me!

+3.

I am 14 years younger than dh and despite what his ex said/thought we are still happy 7 years and 2 kids later. They didn't have children together though so the split was cleaner.

[Anonymous]

I'd feel sad, but I know it would not be rational. My ex is definitely not for me, but I don't think he's a bad person, and if he picked someone that much younger, I'd assume there was something nice about her personality as well. I would be a bit worried about her feelings towards my son - I don't think too many women 20 years younger than my ex and I want to spend tons of time with a 10 year old boy. But I'd give her a chance to prove me wrong on that.

[Anonymous]

I would think he is desperate and she is not all there if she couldn't find someone closer to her own age. I would also think they will divorce as soon as she is not "young enough" for him and he will move on to even younger women. And then I'd pat myself on the back for leaving such a loser and living my own happy life!

[Anonymous]

If I did feel that way I'd know it's not completely over. And I'd feel like a pathetic loser. All the ex boyfriends I've had I'm happy for them in their new relationships. The feeling is "I am glad he looks happy and I hope they do well." ...except for the one abusive asshat, who I keep hoping would get hit by a bus. But that is a different motivation. I feel bad for his current GF and hope she gets away unscathed, etc.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sad for my kids.

My friend is dating a 25 yo and she walk around in just a tshirt and underwear around his 23 yo son.

If none of the parties care, why do you?

His son did care, he said my house my rules. Bragged to my H. It's off, that isn't normal.

She cheated on him and left him after stealing money... a lot of money.

I told him all the signs were there you just ignored them. He said, signs, what signs? I said the 1st sign was that you though a 25 yo was actually interested in you.

It's pathetic.

you think hannah davis is going to leave Jeter?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pics or it didn't happen.

What on earth are you talking about?

I think this PP just wants pictures of hot 20 year old women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sad for my kids.

My friend is dating a 25 yo and she walk around in just a tshirt and underwear around his 23 yo son.

If none of the parties care, why do you?

His son did care, he said my house my rules. Bragged to my H. It's off, that isn't normal.

She cheated on him and left him after stealing money... a lot of money.

I told him all the signs were there you just ignored them. He said, signs, what signs? I said the 1st sign was that you though a 25 yo was actually interested in you.

It's pathetic.

you think hannah davis is going to leave Jeter?

Get real a normal guy who's 40 that is making under $200k a year isn't going to be attracting many of the under 25 set unless she outweighs him or is looking for a sugar daddy/meal ticket. Derek Jeter's experience with attracting swimsuit models isn't transferable to a 45 y/o divorced PowerPoint jockey making $200k a year of which $60k goes towards child support. (On the female side, Sophia Loren or whatever Hollywood actress still looks good at 40, 50, 60, isn't transferable to a 38 y/o woman of no great beauty or talent but many cats that's still hoping to land a BigLaw (tm) partner w/o kids.

One possible exception might be if there is a shared niche interest or something like that but those things are hit or miss.

Like for example a guy meeting a woman at the Kennedy Center or at a SCA/LARP event (although my exception regarding outweighing the guy may apply here.) Plus that's the sort of relationship where a girl cuts it off after 1-2 years once she realizes that while there is attraction there is nothing possible for the long term.

[Anonymous]

OP is mad because her ex didn't go off to the Sad Two Bedroom Apartment in Gaithersburg or Sterling like he was supposed to do. In the meantime, OP's dreams of Sex and the City living have fizzled out.

Such jealousy usually happens when one partner is more stable/attractive/interesting than the other.

Of course, there's always the case of the guy being charming enough to get dates, and the woman forced to take care of all the messes he left behind (among them the kids). But let's not kid ourselves, the first paragraph happens more than most women want to admit.