Would this annoy you? Sister related.

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Anonymous wrote:This sounds like my sister, except she is actually hot. But it's sad. We're both in our 40s and although she looks better than me, I don't care. I look fine. I'm happy. I'm busy thinking about other things and living my life. She is constantly posting FB selfies of herself and occasionally her and her daughter. I mostly ignore but she gets some comments from friends. It's nice of them because clearly she needs reassurance that she is still beautiful and I just have a hard time giving it because it seems immature and shallow.

It's especially annoying because she now makes these dumb wide eyed surprised expressions in all her pictures. She never looks like that in real life. I really think she read an article about taking selfies or something and is trying to follow its advice. But she just looks crazy. I have tried to think of a way to tell her it's ridiculous but there is no way of course.

Ask her in a serious manner if she keeps using one of those Snapchat filters that intentionally makes her eyes look all crazy & bugged out, because if she is she should stop because it's really weird, unnatural looking & makes her look like 10 years older than she really is.


Hopefully she'll take the hint.

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Anonymous wrote:It sounds like she's asking you, not telling you. She deeply needs your approval.

That's what my husband said. I didn't think so because she seems so sure she is hot.

That's insecurity 101...
By continually telling others how "hot" she is, she's not only attempting/hoping to convince everyone else that's it's true, she really trying to convince herself.

She doesn't believe it for a second & she's probably been secretly envious of you her whole life.

THIS x100

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So would you limit emails / contact?
It's a daily thing.

Either delete immediately or open to make sure they are not important and delete.

[Anonymous]

How much time would it cost you to respond "Wow, Larla, you look great" or "Yes, that dress looks amazing on you"?

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She sounds sad and lonely. I feel sorry for her, but yes, it would annoy me.

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Can someone post an example of this wide eyed selfie look?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This sounds like my sister, except she is actually hot. But it's sad. We're both in our 40s and although she looks better than me, I don't care. I look fine. I'm happy. I'm busy thinking about other things and living my life. She is constantly posting FB selfies of herself and occasionally her and her daughter. I mostly ignore but she gets some comments from friends. It's nice of them because clearly she needs reassurance that she is still beautiful and I just have a hard time giving it because it seems immature and shallow.

It's especially annoying because she now makes these dumb wide eyed surprised expressions in all her pictures. She never looks like that in real life. I really think she read an article about taking selfies or something and is trying to follow its advice. But she just looks crazy. I have tried to think of a way to tell her it's ridiculous but there is no way of course.

My SIL fits this perfectly. She needs constant feedback that she is hot. She looks amazing! But it's incredible how someone so good looking can be so so ragingly insecure. She posts selfies in her car all the time? Why? I have rarely been sitting in the drivers seat (waiting, parked, etc) and thought "you know, I should probably take a selife and post it to FB right now". Wtf is that all about?

I am not hot, more average, with a mom pooch and "I have given up" ath-leisure style. I still have WAY more confidence than her. It's ridiculous.

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Anonymous wrote:My 52 year old sister seems to think she is really hot. She isn't.
She constantly sends me selfies of her in various dresses and of her working out. I have never taken or sent a selfie.
So, today she sends me one of her in a sexy dress telling me how she rocked the dress and had four guys compliment her on how she looked amazing in the dress. She has been married since her twenties.

I am not jealous, she looks just fine. But really nothing out of the ordinary. I find her contact emails of her telling me how hot she is annoying.
Would this annoy you?

Also, she sends me daily updates of her weight.
She even sends me a picture of her weight in a graph over the last week.
Then she sends emails saying, I'm 162.7 lbs, up .4 lbs. OMG.

It's annoying.

Yes, this would annoy the hell out of me. And unless she is 6 feet tall, that weight is far from hot, even without the .4 lbs she is OMG'ing about. It was most likely time to OMG about 20 pounds ago. Sadly your best bet is to vent here. She sounds like the type to think you are jealous if you bother to call her out. You can't win.

You are right.
She is 5 feet 7 and she used to be 188lbs so she lost weight and thinks she is super thin now.
She definitely would think I'm jealous.

Wow, I'm 5'7" and 135 and probably could stand to lose 5 pounds. 162 is not hot.

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Anonymous wrote:She has serious issues. Try to be kind.

+1, she is likely deeply insecure and looking for support from a safe source.

Ignoring is not getting it done; try being direct and supportive. "Honey, I know you love your body, and you should! you don't need to send me selfies everyday. is this something you're worried about? you don't have to be."

Next time she sends you a weight graph: "sis, I don't care how much you weigh; you're my sister and I love you"

Next time she sends you a selfie: "more selfies, sis? you need me to tell you that you're great? you are! more importantly, you're strong and kind."

and so on. you could also just tell her that it's annoying and to stop, but that won't help with the insecurity longterm. of course, that may be an impossibility anyway.

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No it wouldn't annoy me. It sounds like she's having a mid-life crisis and is trying to feel better about herself.