Would this annoy you? Sister related.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She has serious issues. Try to be kind.

Like who?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She has serious issues. Try to be kind.

Like who?

Lol
I mean like what? Insecurity?

[Anonymous]

This sounds like my sister, except she is actually hot. But it's sad. We're both in our 40s and although she looks better than me, I don't care. I look fine. I'm happy. I'm busy thinking about other things and living my life. She is constantly posting FB selfies of herself and occasionally her and her daughter. I mostly ignore but she gets some comments from friends. It's nice of them because clearly she needs reassurance that she is still beautiful and I just have a hard time giving it because it seems immature and shallow.

It's especially annoying because she now makes these dumb wide eyed surprised expressions in all her pictures. She never looks like that in real life. I really think she read an article about taking selfies or something and is trying to follow its advice. But she just looks crazy. I have tried to think of a way to tell her it's ridiculous but there is no way of course.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She has serious issues. Try to be kind.

Like who?

Lol
I mean like what? Insecurity?

Insecurity, immaturity, lack of understanding of what other people find pleasant and normal, possibly she's simply not very intelligent....I dunno, I feel sorry for her. I wouldn't feed into her neediness, but I wouldn't be harsh with her, either. A lot of huhs and wows and really?s and let's talk about that movie or person we knew way back when.

[Anonymous]

"Sister, can I opt out of the daily weigh-ins? I don't see the point, honestly."

It's a little bit concerning that she's so into her appearance. Midlife crisis?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This sounds like my sister, except she is actually hot. But it's sad. We're both in our 40s and although she looks better than me, I don't care. I look fine. I'm happy. I'm busy thinking about other things and living my life. She is constantly posting FB selfies of herself and occasionally her and her daughter. I mostly ignore but she gets some comments from friends. It's nice of them because clearly she needs reassurance that she is still beautiful and I just have a hard time giving it because it seems immature and shallow.

It's especially annoying because she now makes these dumb wide eyed surprised expressions in all her pictures. She never looks like that in real life. I really think she read an article about taking selfies or something and is trying to follow its advice. But she just looks crazy. I have tried to think of a way to tell her it's ridiculous but there is no way of course.

OMG lol. I can only imagine how ridiculous she looks.
I have actually told mine how ridiculous she sounds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Sister, can I opt out of the daily weigh-ins? I don't see the point, honestly."

It's a little bit concerning that she's so into her appearance. Midlife crisis?

When I do tell her that, she stops for a few weeks but then it inevitably starts up again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She has serious issues. Try to be kind.

Like who?

Lol
I mean like what? Insecurity?

Insecurity, immaturity, lack of understanding of what other people find pleasant and normal, possibly she's simply not very intelligent....I dunno, I feel sorry for her. I wouldn't feed into her neediness, but I wouldn't be harsh with her, either. A lot of huhs and wows and really?s and let's talk about that movie or person we knew way back when.

I agree with most of this. But when I do the "huh, wow, really" she thinks I am interested.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She has serious issues. Try to be kind.

Like who?

Lol
I mean like what? Insecurity?

Insecurity, immaturity, lack of understanding of what other people find pleasant and normal, possibly she's simply not very intelligent....I dunno, I feel sorry for her. I wouldn't feed into her neediness, but I wouldn't be harsh with her, either. A lot of huhs and wows and really?s and let's talk about that movie or person we knew way back when.

I agree with most of this. But when I do the "huh, wow, really" she thinks I am interested.

Well, in that case you need to set communication boundaries. There is a ton of advice out there on how to do that effectively.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This sounds like my sister, except she is actually hot. But it's sad. We're both in our 40s and although she looks better than me, I don't care. I look fine. I'm happy. I'm busy thinking about other things and living my life. She is constantly posting FB selfies of herself and occasionally her and her daughter. I mostly ignore but she gets some comments from friends. It's nice of them because clearly she needs reassurance that she is still beautiful and I just have a hard time giving it because it seems immature and shallow.

It's especially annoying because she now makes these dumb wide eyed surprised expressions in all her pictures. She never looks like that in real life. I really think she read an article about taking selfies or something and is trying to follow its advice. But she just looks crazy. I have tried to think of a way to tell her it's ridiculous but there is no way of course.

I was looking at my nieces' photos on social media, and in 99% of them she and her friends have that wide eyed look. Then I started noticing many of the pics I see of teens on FB, the girls are making that same face (relatives, friend's daughters). Then I started seeing some grown women doing it too. I think it's the new duck face. And it's so strange.

[Anonymous]

Wow OP, what is wrong with you that you don't immediately recognize that she is someone with low self esteem, who is looking for approval from you? You know that isn't normal, healthy behaviour. Maybe if you figured that out, you'd be able to find a way to resolve this situation while also having some compassion for your sister.

I don't think she's the only sibling lacking in social skills.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Sister, can I opt out of the daily weigh-ins? I don't see the point, honestly."

It's a little bit concerning that she's so into her appearance. Midlife crisis?

When I do tell her that, she stops for a few weeks but then it inevitably starts up again.

You have to just keep repeating the message. I'd also be annoyed!

[Anonymous]

Be kind, OP. It costs nothing.

[Anonymous]

Be kind, don't judge.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like she's asking you, not telling you. She deeply needs your approval.

That's what my husband said. I didn't think so because she seems so sure she is hot.

That's insecurity 101...
By continually telling others how "hot" she is, she's not only attempting/hoping to convince everyone else that's it's true, she really trying to convince herself.

She doesn't believe it for a second & she's probably been secretly envious of you her whole life.