Men- when is sex an emotional experience for you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can a DW chime in? I like to have sex with my DH because a) I love him, b) he is likable and my best friend, c) I am attracted to him and d) I have needs. When I am having sex with him I just want to give and receive pleasure. I am not thinking of love or emotions. When he brings me my morning cup of coffee in bed? That is an emotional and loving experience!

This is a rhetorical, argumentative question: If love and emotion aren't the basis of your sexual relationship, then would it bother you if your husband had a FWB? What you seem to describe is purely physical interaction that does not bond the relationship with intimacy. So why not have multiple sex partners and one 'emotional' partner? Of course I'm being facetious, but it's worth all of us thinking and talking about the nature, meaning, and role of sex within a relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anal sex is. In fact, it's a religious experience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anal sex is. In fact, it's a religious experience.

How is trolling not boring to you?

[Anonymous]

Yes I cry after sex.

[Anonymous]

Trust me, no guy wants to hear those 3 little words while having sex. You know the ones . . . "Honey, I'm home."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can a DW chime in? I like to have sex with my DH because a) I love him, b) he is likable and my best friend, c) I am attracted to him and d) I have needs. When I am having sex with him I just want to give and receive pleasure. I am not thinking of love or emotions. When he brings me my morning cup of coffee in bed? That is an emotional and loving experience!

This is a rhetorical, argumentative question: If love and emotion aren't the basis of your sexual relationship, then would it bother you if your husband had a FWB? What you seem to describe is purely physical interaction that does not bond the relationship with intimacy. So why not have multiple sex partners and one 'emotional' partner? Of course I'm being facetious, but it's worth all of us thinking and talking about the nature, meaning, and role of sex within a relationship.

Love and emotion+ attraction + need + matrimony are the factors that get me to bed with him. Once in bed it is physical. If my husband gets a FWB, it will be hard for me to forgive him and I won't want to have sex with him. At that point it does not matter if sex is physical. All that matters it that sex will not happen. Two different things.

I also want to add that if I love and respect my husband as a person, but find him unattractive or inept in bed or I do not have a physical need for sex - I will be hard pressed to have sex with him just because I love him. The physical lust and the sexual need is also a component in getting to bed with a person, and these two are not emotional things. These are physical or chemical things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anal sex is. In fact, it's a religious experience.

How is trolling not boring to you?

Not trolling, it's the truth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes I cry after sex.

That's a major turn off. Ugh

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anal sex is. In fact, it's a religious experience.

As in, "Jesus Christ, that hurt!"?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can a DW chime in? I like to have sex with my DH because a) I love him, b) he is likable and my best friend, c) I am attracted to him and d) I have needs. When I am having sex with him I just want to give and receive pleasure. I am not thinking of love or emotions. When he brings me my morning cup of coffee in bed? That is an emotional and loving experience!

I so agree! When DH and I are in bed I have a ton of fun doing things to him that make him moan. When he gets that way I really get off. I'm definitely not thinking about love just thinking about how much I'm enjoying it. But it's so nice when he empties the dishwasher!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can a DW chime in? I like to have sex with my DH because a) I love him, b) he is likable and my best friend, c) I am attracted to him and d) I have needs. When I am having sex with him I just want to give and receive pleasure. I am not thinking of love or emotions. When he brings me my morning cup of coffee in bed? That is an emotional and loving experience!

I so agree! When DH and I are in bed I have a ton of fun doing things to him that make him moan. When he gets that way I really get off. I'm definitely not thinking about love just thinking about how much I'm enjoying it. But it's so nice when he empties the dishwasher!

That's gross

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can a DW chime in? I like to have sex with my DH because a) I love him, b) he is likable and my best friend, c) I am attracted to him and d) I have needs. When I am having sex with him I just want to give and receive pleasure. I am not thinking of love or emotions. When he brings me my morning cup of coffee in bed? That is an emotional and loving experience!

This is a rhetorical, argumentative question: If love and emotion aren't the basis of your sexual relationship, then would it bother you if your husband had a FWB? What you seem to describe is purely physical interaction that does not bond the relationship with intimacy. So why not have multiple sex partners and one 'emotional' partner? Of course I'm being facetious, but it's worth all of us thinking and talking about the nature, meaning, and role of sex within a relationship.

Love and emotion+ attraction + need + matrimony are the factors that get me to bed with him. Once in bed it is physical. If my husband gets a FWB, it will be hard for me to forgive him and I won't want to have sex with him. At that point it does not matter if sex is physical. All that matters it that sex will not happen. Two different things.

I also want to add that if I love and respect my husband as a person, but find him unattractive or inept in bed or I do not have a physical need for sex - I will be hard pressed to have sex with him just because I love him. The physical lust and the sexual need is also a component in getting to bed with a person, and these two are not emotional things. These are physical or chemical things.

[Anonymous]

Men take breakups so well

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/morning-mix/wp/2017/04/17/he-hugged-his-family-and-said-ill-see-you-next-time-before-being-gunned-down-on-facebook-video/?tid=sm_fb&utm_term=.f2a43079b83a

Who's the overly emotional one here??

committing suicide because of unrequited love is not an unusual story; some even regard it as a perfect manifestation of true love. As a result of unrequited love, men commit suicide three to four times more than women, and it is virtually only men who kill their partners when the latter leave or intend to leave them. In this sense, women are more realistic; they tend to be more accepting of the fact that love might not endure forever.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/in-the-name-love/201409/why-do-some-men-murder-the-wives-they-love

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men take breakups so well

Who's the overly emotional one here??

committing suicide because of unrequited love is not an unusual story; some even regard it as a perfect manifestation of true love. As a result of unrequited love, men commit suicide three to four times more than women, and it is virtually only men who kill their partners when the latter leave or intend to leave them. In this sense, women are more realistic; they tend to be more accepting of the fact that love might not endure forever.

Yeah right. That's why the "psycho ex-girlfriend who keeps stalking you" is a staple of books, music and movies, and why every man has one of them in his past.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men take breakups so well

Who's the overly emotional one here??

committing suicide because of unrequited love is not an unusual story; some even regard it as a perfect manifestation of true love. As a result of unrequited love, men commit suicide three to four times more than women, and it is virtually only men who kill their partners when the latter leave or intend to leave them. In this sense, women are more realistic; they tend to be more accepting of the fact that love might not endure forever.

Yeah right. That's why the "psycho ex-girlfriend who keeps stalking you" is a staple of books, music and movies, and why every man has one of them in his past.

That's a male fantasy....or nightmare. History is full of them. Witches. Succubi. Seductresses. Sexually dangerous women.

In real life, it's the women who get stalked and killed by their lovers and exs.