anyone have experience w/ DH with multiple personality disorder?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here / the couples counselor is not a psychiatrist - thanks for helping me realize that the multiple personality thing sounds like BS -- honestly it sounds like something out of a bad soap opera and I didn't think it could be multiple personality --- he DOES shift to being a different person -- has memory loss (or he alleges) of the crap he tells me -- I don't know if it is borderline personality or abuse -- but it does suck to have this happen.

I will work on myself and be vigilant not to be a frog in the frying pan

It’s not memory loss. It is gaslighting. Look up gaslighting. He does this intentionally to throw you off balance and make you doubt your own judgment and perception. It’s part and parcel of the abusive cycle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here / the couples counselor is not a psychiatrist - thanks for helping me realize that the multiple personality thing sounds like BS -- honestly it sounds like something out of a bad soap opera and I didn't think it could be multiple personality --- he DOES shift to being a different person -- has memory loss (or he alleges) of the crap he tells me -- I don't know if it is borderline personality or abuse -- but it does suck to have this happen.

I will work on myself and be vigilant not to be a frog in the frying pan

It’s not memory loss. It is gaslighting. Look up gaslighting. He does this intentionally to throw you off balance and make you doubt your own judgment and perception. It’s part and parcel of the abusive cycle.

+ 1. And don’t forget the trauma bond. He gets you all upset and the only thing that can comfort you and make you feel better is — you guessed it — more sweetness and devotion from him. He’s both your abuser and your comforter. All that abuse has a huge payoff in the amount of control he has over you.

[Anonymous]

You need to immediately find another therapist. You also need to immediately contact a domestic violence organization to get support.

A therapist suggesting something super rare and hard to diagnose for a PERSON THEY HAVE NEVER EVEN MET is a huge red flag. Encouraging you to stay with someone abusive is a huge red flag. Not even knowing the proper terminology for their armchair diagnosis is a huge red flag.

Don’t ignore red flags — whether from your therapist or your husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here / the couples counselor is not a psychiatrist - thanks for helping me realize that the multiple personality thing sounds like BS -- honestly it sounds like something out of a bad soap opera and I didn't think it could be multiple personality --- he DOES shift to being a different person -- has memory loss (or he alleges) of the crap he tells me -- I don't know if it is borderline personality or abuse -- but it does suck to have this happen.

I will work on myself and be vigilant not to be a frog in the frying pan

Your therapist sounds like a quack and this marriage sounds miserable and likely not worth saving.

If you don't have kids I think you should get things in order and separate. You are being emotionally abused and your abuser has no intention of stopping. You only get one life.

[Anonymous]

PSA: THIS THREAD IS FIVE YEAS OLD.