Should kids give up seats for adults?

[Anonymous]

Yes kids should get up.

In general they are too self-absorbed and lack respect for their elders or anyone else.

[Anonymous]

I teach my kids (I have four boys between the ages of 10-16) to always give up their seats for anyone that looks like they need it more than my sons do--that might be an elderly person, or a parent with a baby, or even a kid their own age that appears to be injured/sick/exhausted.
They are typically really good about noticing someone in need of a seat without me needing to prompt them.

[Anonymous]

Of course children should give up their seats when adults enter the room. It has less to do with physical ability and more to do with respect.

[Anonymous]

I think that hosts should have enough seating for everyone staying overnight. I would understand why you only have seating for 3 if you live in a studio apartment, but otherwise, you should have seating for at least 6 in a normal house. couch + loveseat + chair. And then when you have more guests you bring in more chairs.

And yes, children should give up seats on metro as well or should sit on a parents lap during rush hour.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't think kids should give up seats for all adults but I do think they should give up seats for elderly or non-able bodied people.

once you get to be 40ish all people are non-able bodied. Hurts like hell to get up, back hurts sitting on the floor, everything aches. You must be young.

I'm 44 and my body does not "hurt like hell". Time to do some exercise if 40 is causing you pain!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't think kids should give up seats for all adults but I do think they should give up seats for elderly or non-able bodied people.

once you get to be 40ish all people are non-able bodied. Hurts like hell to get up, back hurts sitting on the floor, everything aches. You must be young.

tell me you're joking

I'm 51 and feel 21! not joking on my end. what the heck have you done to yourself that you feel that way in your 40's?

Jeez, that's not the point. The point is that the kids should offer their seats - if you're 51 and ready to do jumping jacks and squats in the living room while everyone is sitting around then you are free to tell the kid, "no thanks, keep sitting there, I'm okay on the floor." and that's it. Kids should get up and offer their seats to the older generations period.

I also agree with the poster that said as a rule, give up your seat to the older generation no matter your age. I'm 50 and always give my seat to the grandparents. Half the time they say no the other times they take it.

It always irritated me when we'd be going into the dining room for dinner and my SILs kids (tweens/teens) would literally run to the table to get the best chairs. Often squeezing between all the adults to sort of push their way to the front to get them. This was because we'd have the nice dining room cushy chairs, kitchen chairs and about 3 or 4 folding (uncomfortable) chairs. My SIL kids would all run to grab the cushy dining room chairs while the 70 year old would end up in the wobbly folding chair. It would disgust me. And I and maybe one or two other adults would switch with them while the kids blissfully sat in the best chairs.

[Anonymous]

I am surprised at the number of people who will not correct their nieces and nephews. If their parents won't do it, then you tell them (nicely) what you expect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am surprised at the number of people who will not correct their nieces and nephews. If their parents won't do it, then you tell them (nicely) what you expect.

+1 my aunts and uncle corrected me equal opportunity with my mother, probably more. I'm sure I didn't appreciate it then, but I do now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, kids should give up seats for adults. Exeption is on mass transit. Kids under 9 or 10 should have priority over able bodied adults (not elderly, pregnant, injured etc.) Kids have a hard time holding on and not falling and hurting themselves during the herky jerky movements on a bus or train. But at home...100% yes. It would be nice if there were beanbags or cushions or something on the floor for them.

I agree with all of this post except I would make the age younger for public transit.

2nd grade or younger should sit.

A 9-10 year old is perfectly capable of safely standing on a metro, unless they are very small or have other issues like muscle tone.

But you won't know they have low tone, so don't assume they are being rude.

[Anonymous]

Yes

[Anonymous]

No

[Anonymous]

I think the hosts should provide seating. Buy a few folding chairs. Tell people to bring in chairs from the kitchen.

But also nothing wrong is saying "johnny, why don't you get up and give grandma a seat".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:+1 to kids giving up seats for adults.

Call me old-fashioned, but I also like men giving up seats for women. Like if you're at a bar and there aren't enough chairs. The men stand while the women sit. I think it's a nice, gentlemanly thing to do.

and holding doors. Definitely hold the door.

So equality is cool unless you can manipulate the situation so women are more equal.

George Orwell lives!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't think kids should give up seats for all adults but I do think they should give up seats for elderly or non-able bodied people.

once you get to be 40ish all people are non-able bodied. Hurts like hell to get up, back hurts sitting on the floor, everything aches. You must be young.

tell me you're joking

I'm 51 and feel 21! not joking on my end. what the heck have you done to yourself that you feel that way in your 40's?

Jeez, that's not the point. The point is that the kids should offer their seats - if you're 51 and ready to do jumping jacks and squats in the living room while everyone is sitting around then you are free to tell the kid, "no thanks, keep sitting there, I'm okay on the floor." and that's it. Kids should get up and offer their seats to the older generations period.

I also agree with the poster that said as a rule, give up your seat to the older generation no matter your age. I'm 50 and always give my seat to the grandparents. Half the time they say no the other times they take it.

It always irritated me when we'd be going into the dining room for dinner and my SILs kids (tweens/teens) would literally run to the table to get the best chairs. Often squeezing between all the adults to sort of push their way to the front to get them. This was because we'd have the nice dining room cushy chairs, kitchen chairs and about 3 or 4 folding (uncomfortable) chairs. My SIL kids would all run to grab the cushy dining room chairs while the 70 year old would end up in the wobbly folding chair. It would disgust me. And I and maybe one or two other adults would switch with them while the kids blissfully sat in the best chairs.

Is this happening at your house? Why don't you tell them those cushy chairs are reserved for the grandparents and they need to sit on folding chairs. Or make a kids/teen table with a folding table and chairs? Your house, your rules.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am surprised at the number of people who will not correct their nieces and nephews. If their parents won't do it, then you tell them (nicely) what you expect.

+1 my aunts and uncle corrected me equal opportunity with my mother, probably more. I'm sure I didn't appreciate it then, but I do now.

+2. We even correct close friend's kids without taking offense.